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Should i do it? Every time we are together I am tempted to have sex with him, but I promised I wouldn't!
i have dated my boyfriend for 4 years nown am 22f still a virgin, we both decide not to have sex till we are married. any time we re together the temptation keeps coming seriously i always fell like doing him too but we just want to keep to our promise and also am so afried of losing my virginity pls what should i do
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i am so proud of you 2 and you should- at all costs- avoid temptations and situations that might make you weak because you have been so strong all this time! it will be a waste to throw that away!
i know it has been challenging but think of the greater reward (wedding night AND the real reward in Heaven).
youre both lucky to have each other and the respect u have for each other will help pave a smooth relationship in the future.
in the mean time, keep each other busy in other activities that wont tempt you two!
good luck! :)
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Hi . Firstly congrats to you and your boyfriend for maintaining abstenance (n0 sex) for 4 years.!!
I think sex of one kind or another is an important factor in most given relationships. Sure it shouldnt be the primary factor but its defnantly a key part.
Personally i think you have both proven youre trust to ea other in holding out this long.!!
You have many options available. If you both do decide to have sex for the first time. An option is to still save something special for marriage only.
Like save certain parts or things you may like to try,explore . You dont have to try everything sexuallly imaginable strait away.!!
Save that special desire or something for your wedding nite. But you can still experiment and enjoy ea other now. if you choose.
That way you can both still have that special something yo look forward too.??
Try to embrace loosing youre vaginity. Talk to youre man. Tell him how you feel.
You have a magical world of pleasure and excitement ahead of you.!!
I wish you both a very happy sex life. now or in the future.!!!
frm:coolpas
Its a whole new world when it comes to great sex with a wonderfull partner.!! Do your research, talk to ea other.
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You bring up two good points here. Keeping your promise to yourselves & the pain of loosing your virginity.
Keeping your promise is and can be both a moral and religious issue depending on how the promise was made. The issue of the pain of loosing your virginity is one that weighs somewhat on the first point.
Back in the day of our great, great and even greater grandparents; virginity was expected. The bride and groom spent their wedding night in the home of one of their parents, usually the brides, and the following morning the blood stained sheet was hung from the window. This was an honor bestowed on the bride and her family. It was expected the bride would be in some pain and her mother was there to help her.
Today of course that is not done, the bride and groom go off on their own. The pain a women feels in loosing her virginity varies from women to women. A more mature women may suffer less pain than say a girl of 16. That is not a guarantee.
This is not a question any of us can answer for you. You and your future husband need to answer this for yourselves. The gift of your virginity may be just as meaningful if given before the wedding then if you wait and possibly have your honeymoon vacation ruined because of a painful loss of your virginity. This is the question that only the two of you can answer.
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Who did you make your promise to, was it to each other, or to god, or..? If it was for religious reasons and your religion is important to you, then you should probably wait. In my opinion (I am not religious), I would definitely want to sleep with the person I was marrying, before I married them!
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