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So I feel that I am losing my bestfriend to her boyfriend. She spends most of her time with him & we are only 14. Is this wrong? Like everytime I try to hangout with her, she's always with him or has plans or the next busy with him. I feel that she is way too involved with him at this age. Like 14 years old you should be having fun with your friends, not making your boyfriend your life & priority. At this age is it wrong to be hanging out with your boyfriend more then your friends?

I have heard from some girls writing in who say that their best friend is a guy not a girl. They have not hung out with females much. While it hurts you, it may be normal for her. I was shy as a teen, but once an adult, I discovered I preferred males as friends over females. My husband has always preferred females as friends over males. He has only one male friend from childhood still in touch with and same for me with one female. Some people bond more closely in friendship with the same sex.
Is 14 too young to date? Depends in what context it is happening, gone on dates alone...probably not good. Group dates or hanging out at each others parents house are fine. Eventually when you meet a guy your crazy about, you'll see the same happen to you. It's called NRE New relationship energy and the two can obsess about each other for a while but it levels out. It often said about newlyweds that their friends havent seen them in ages but eventually they come around.

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I am married for 3.5 years now and I am just not happy with my husband. I am sure he has same feelings as I do. I really dont know were the problem is. Is it my mental stability or its our understanding issues.
Initially when we fought, the conclusion was that i have some mental disorder and i am reacting for small issues. But this is going on for ever. Every 4th or 5th day we fought, the situation is sooo bad that we have started hitting each other. We physically abuse each other. We dont want to do this to each other but we get out of control when we are upset or mad about anything. Most of the times the fight gets started because of me, i lose temper for very very small issues (according to my husband, these are small issues and i should not be reacting). I have lot of expectations from my partner which i dont see him taking care of. He is not a responsible person to take care of small things in our house, either if getting furniture, setting up home, family planning, going for vacation, financial planning etc.

I am 32 years of age & Female

Ask any females who see alot of you if they think you lose your temper easily. Tell them you wont get angry and don't. You need some objective people to verify if you have a problem here or to rule yourself out. The fact that you allow yourself to be drawn into an argument and not be able to control emotions shows that you do have some problems with how to relate to people. It only comes out more with hubby because you're around each other more. I won't say he's the angel. It takes two to tango. I lived with a verbally abusive husband and learned early on that defending myself or trying to even use logic and get him to see reason only added fuel to the fire and made him angrier...there was no pleasing him. If this is who you are matched with I would suggest you use this opportunity to learn how to not fight, keep peace, control your emotions because if you leave to find a nice guy before you have dealt with yourself, the nice guy will leave you or if he turns out to be a jerk, he will present the exact situation you ran from until you deal with yourself.

Not trying to pick on you dear. As a Scorpio, I am reputed to have a wild temper. I chose to learn in my teens and into my twenties to overcome my natural tendencies...its a part of maturing and growing into a better human being. But I was tested by being married to someone who ended up having mental problems. There was no way it would improve. So once I learned how to grow personally because of it, then I was able to leave and there was no need to have another immature man in my life to learn thru so I was able to attract a mature loving man who ends up being my soulmate.
I am not promoting staying in a physically abusive relationship though. Usually a physically abusive relationship is one way mostly men towards women, but there are woman beat on their men and the men dont hit back.
Truly, you are going to be the only one to know what is the right thing to do for yourself because you mention him being irresponsible. No one can change another person so what you see now is what it always will be because tho people make some minor changes during a lifetime, few make any major ones as I did with my temper for one amoung other things.

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I'm a 13 y/o girl and i recently got a boyfriend about a month ago. When ever i try to talk to him on facebook or texting him he uses short replies and doesn't tend to be interested in talking. He never initiates the conversation and i have to ask questions to keep the conversation going. He hasn't even asked me on a date since our second date, which was ages ago. I don't want to keep pestering him, so I don't ask to meet up with him either. I'm starting to think that he doesn't actually like me :/ Is it normal for teenage boys to not necessarily talk to you? Or is he just afraid of annoying me? Should i break up with him?

Thanks :)

I don't know how often you are contacting him but there is a natural amount of contact and then there is too much attempts to contact all the time which will push some guys away. They don't respond well to needy girls, it kills their interest. Or He may be the quiet silent type instead of talkative guy. If its just texting, I have found even many adult men are not into typing much at all that includes, texting, emails, FB. etc. I don't really know what this guys personality is to give a good answer. But any friendship should not be like pulling teeth. It should come easily. So give it some more time and if it doesn't change, find someone who is more like you and enjoys not only communicating and talking a lot but doing things together in person.

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me 15/f and this guy 17/m have been talking now a good two months as friends. I met him at a party and I supposedly told him I wanted to hookup with him (makeout) I was drunk, but he was together with someone else so we didn't. the other day we hungout and and we hooked up our first time. he texted me when I got home which was like midnight and we were talking and I was like im going to bed and he said no don't go yet I like talking to you. and we were talking later that day and night and we have been talking since. like nothings really changed since we hooked up its not like we were drunk or at a party. it was just us two sober and he wanted to for a long time he told me. after the hookup he said something about hanging out the next day, although we did talk the next day and I brought up hanging out he never asked and I didn't ask after that. its been two days since we saw each other and hooked up. I think hes been busy with sports which is all the time. I would be ok with hooking up and being friends like were doing and he says hes not looking for anything serious right now due to a bad breakup. do you think he likes me? I mean he acts like he does and everything im just not sure

I assume young guys are hard wired the same way adult men are. And when a guy is crazy about a female she will become one of his priorities. As long as you are in the top 3 you are ok. Sports, school and job or hanging with guy friends are the other most common priorities in a males life. So don't worry if you don't hear from him 24/7. It's when weeks go by and you haven't heard at all that it means he's lost interest.

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My bestest girl friend is switching schools so we will not have the same snow days, breaks, half days, and days off and the worst part i love her i don't know what i'm going to do if i don't see her on a daily basis and neither of us dont want this to happen and the school shes going to is horrible its small and ugly and shell have to wear a uniform thanks p.s were both 13 im a male and shes a female

Moving happens. All you can do is see each other weekends and keep in touch on FB or other place on the net. Most kids have a cell with cam so take pics of yourself periodically at school or where ever you are or have classmates help and put together weekly albums of what you did and post for her so she can experience it at least by photos. I don't know if you' re into photo taking much but lots of females love photos, tons of photos.

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I'm a 13 year old girl and I am reeeaaaalllyyyy horny right now! I am a virgin but I masturbate and watch porn. I want to f*** a guy my age.. anyone interested??

Hon, it sounds like you're bound and determined to have sex. I can't have you find sex partners, at your age, there are many boys just itching for their first chance to have sex even if they have no personal interest in the girl. You will have a more pleasant experience if you find someone where both of you have mutual feeling for each other.

But above anything else...Please go to Planned Parenthood and get on some birth control immediately. I hear they take girls no matter what your age.

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how to cut your period short

The only thing I know that affects the periods is stress and illness that prevent it from starting on time.

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I am a loving Christian girl and I have always wondered one question.....you know how the Bible says in heaven you can't cry simply because you have no reason to cry.....Well I've been wondering....Can you cry tears of joy in heaven? The book says you wont show sadness but what about happy tears? Please tell me what you think the answer is to this question, or give me a few verses to look at that might be helpful. I would REALLY appreciate it! God bless :)

Tears are a biological response in our body when our subconscious feels something deeply.
So since our souls are spirit and not made of any mortal material, they do not have the need for some of those bodily functions. Like you never have to eat, you will never thirst. You also never have to sleep. You also do not cry. It doesnt mean that you cant choose to make your self do it, but it won't happen automatically due to a feeling of joy or sadness. Although I understand that we aren't going to feel sadness either. If I were you, I would get used to asking Straight to Holy Spirit if it is relevant for you to know or not and get used to talking to Spirit because one day He'll answer you as he did for me and from then on everything I did or believed has been what Spirit tells me. Its the best way to go becasue the lesson He may have for you to learn might have to be told and learned in a totally different way than someone else so that you both can get it and understand.

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Hey there!
I'm 15 and my boyfriend, that's 16, he's been kind of strange lately.
Btw, it's a long distance relationship and before you might think that's the reason, no he's told me a billion times that it doesn't matter him one bit :)
Well as I was saying, last week he was totally fine! Calling me his princess and stuff like that. But he told me he's going to Ireland for a month and since he's in Ireland (Im In Germany and he comes from America) he's been acting awkward. He ignores not of my messages and as I asked him if he's okay or if I'd be annoying him he said: No you're really not annoying me." I believed him. Well I try my best to have a conversation with him but I can't get to him. It's like he completely would forget about me if I'd not start a conversation. I don't know why he's been like this since he's in Ireland. I have the feeling that he doesn't actually love me like he did. He doesn't show it and that makes me upset!

If he got bored, no matter how he felt before, obviously something has changed for him and since it wasn't anything you said to each other to make you stop writing, the only other thing is something in Real life there in Ireland is affecting him. Maybe having a hard time adjust to school there. Although only you would know if he is likely to share with you online when he was facing changes or stressful things before. If that can be ruled out, it could possibly be that he met another girl he really likes and because she is right there in person easy to spend time with and you are not, she wins out. Maybe thats not it. But if it is, he's young and has no idea how to be brave and man enough to break the truth to you. If your inner voice is telling you he has lost interest and it cant be regained, I'd go with the gut feeling...hard as it may be and just move on. Try for a local romance next time around...its way easier to learn what we need to learn in dating. You are looking for what you do and dont like in guys to help you with your choice of a future long term mate or marriage partner. The best experiences are to be gained with live people not strict internet friends.

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what does it mean if you ask a guy why he likes you and he says i dont know

First I don;t know your age, could this be the first or second dating experience for either of you?
One of the things you both will learn over time is how to have good communication with each other. If not with him, then with someone else because communication and trust are crucial things to a healthy relationship.
So good for you for taking the initiative and asking him. Lots of girls write in who are too scared to ask. Does this guy talk much to anyone else. or is he always very quiet. He may be naturally shy and withdrawn and battling feeling self conscious so he is too timid to tell the truth.
When he says I dont know the answer really was, I dont want to say. There is an answer to that question even if the answer was "I just wanted to date a girl so I asked the one who I thought was most likely to say yes. I didnt have to be interested in her, I just wanted to experience dating....in which case there would not be anything he really likes about you. Its just the experience he was after. The object here is to find someone who does have a genuine interest and can tell you what it is. Without communication, you really don't have much chance at progressing very far. If it really bugs you, then ask him if it wasn't you he liked but that he just wanted the experience but don't get angry. People do things for all sorts of weird reasons. Once you know you dont actually interest him in any way you can tell him that since there really is no personal interest in you in any way, you are going to set your attention on other guys

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Im 23 f. I have a friend (girl) that I consider 1 of my best friends. but lately I’ve been upset at her and don’t know what to do.
We were at my birthday party and she was with a guy that i liked. She told me that I shouldn’t get with him and should move one. At the party she ask for his number, and now they text. Its not the only time this has happen we have had incidents in the past where Im attracted to a guy and she ends up getting really close to them. Sometimes in relationships. I don’t want to lose our friendship. But I feel like every guy is attracted to her automatically. It bugs me and I don’t think she notices it. What should I do?

Liking a guy is not the same as having a solid relationship with him. If a guy is truly attracted to you, it doesn't matter what her looks and personality are, because he is attracted to yours and nothing else. Just as women have different likes in a guy, guys have different likes in women. The only thing that might make a difference in them hanging around paying more attention would be if she was outgoing and talkative whereas you were quiet and shy. If there is someone chatty in the room, most people will congregate around the one who is easier to have a conversation with.
YOu mentioned liking the guy but not that you have ever talked to him before. Was this a secret liking and you never got up the nerve to talk to him? Or you are actually seeing and dating the guys and then she horns on in. If this is what is happening and the guys go for her after she shows interest, then all the guys you have picked so far are not the right type for you. If they were, it wouldn't matter who flirts with them, you'd be the only one who lights their candle. So be honest with yourself, are you choosing the kind of guy who is right for her and wrong for you? Are you a bit too shy. Have you ever gone beyond the feeling attracted to stage? No body is a mind reader so if you have an interest, you will need to ask to see if he has one too. Are you looking for just any old guy, just someone to pay attention to you. Or you want mr right to come along and sweep you off your feet. If its the latter, you have to know first who you are at core...what makes you uniquely you, what are your likes, needs and wants. Based on that you might have a general idea of what you are looking for in a guy. If you are happy being the quiet type, then maybe you might want to look for the strong silent type. I think you get what i mean. If i have this all misunderstood and you have more info, feel free to look up my column and send message to inbox.

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Eyyy. 14/F. So me and my bf have been togheter for a month and a few weeks. I love him a lot. But I also love my friend. He is kind and he plan to kiss me ( my friend) me and my bf havend kiSsed yet!.....* I need help..* what should I do?

The purpose of dating is to learn from dating relationships. You learn what you like and don't like in a guy so you can make best decision when you're older as to who you marry or make your long term mate. You haven't had any amount of time with either guy to be able to learn anything from either one. So far you basing your decisions on how you feel when they are around and their looks. At your age btw, relationships last an average of 5-6 months. So when one relationship, ends, you go on to the next.
And what do you need to learn and experience for adult relationships?
1. Does he say I love you, you're awesome, I adore you or something of the sort
2 Does he make you a priority in his life. Guys have several priorities and will never single out a gal to be the only one. School and a job might be the others. So You must be a priority just not the only one
3 Does he tell his friends and family about you? Does he like to show you off? If he doesn't he's hiding something...either a fear of teasing, peer pressure or maybe another girl
4. What do your friends and family think of him? While you're looking thru rose colored glasses, they will be the best judge of his character, whether he will treat you right
5. Does he respect and encourage you?
And there is more when it progresses to a sexual intimacy too. There is plenty time to learn. No rush here. So date the one guy and tell the other you are dating right now but if you ever do break it off and he is still available and not dating at the time then go for it. Do not date two at once unless you have proposed the idea to both and they both are ok with it.

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Does God want a Christian's to marry a Catholic

what if a Christian meet a catholic in a Christian church?

Lots of people call themselves by a certain faith only because thats what the parents believed not that they do themselves. It's looked at more like a heritage thing than anything else, the parents were Swedish and Irish so I am that.
So to find a Catholic in a Christian church is not unusual if they don't take the divisions in faith so seriously. But you are or at least you have heard that you should take it seriously.
I will tell you right now that God has no concern at all what race we marry, he's not racist, he doesn't care what spiritual belief your mate is because he did not create those religions, man did in their attempt to find a way to worship God that worked for them. God doesn't even care what your sexual practices are, as long as you and your partner are both consenting adults who have agreed upon what you do. No, I am not a heathen, backslidden Christian, I have just come to realize that as Gods children, we somehow have gotten off track and learned to worry more about man made rules and call them Gods rules. The real slap in Gods face is to teach others that He says this and such is so....when he never did.
Back to the person you met, as long as the person would treat you right, there should be no problem, even if they were a pagan. Pagans are not Satanists, thats a separate group. The only group id advise staying away from is a satanist. Fact is, I married a Christian man...he turned out to abuse me. A persons belief is not a good gauge of where their heart and mind is at, it is only by their actions that you will know. Remember the verse about 'you shall know them by their fruit?' thats what it is refering to

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So i like a guy who is a year younger than me. Im going into highschool while he remains in middle school for another year. We're bothsuper mature for our age. We've kissed and madeout several times and im just afriad of next year. I dontwant to leave him. Today he actually came to my house which i live quite a bit out of town where he lives and he just eanted to hangout for a bit. So how will i saw goodbye after when summer ends? i think i might love him:$ ive liked him for a year and a f fewmonths now.

While you won't see him daily in school, I don't see how it will be goodbye forever. You will still have some weekends to get together. No, it won't be the same thing. Another time you will experience this crisis is when leaving high school to go to college or start working. All your girlfriends will go separate directions and it may end up that not a single person you used to know is anywhere around any more. So what do you do? Keep in touch on FB every once in a while but it wont be frequent. And you make new friends. If school dances come up and its ok to have someone from a different school attend, then go to each others dances. It's tough if you've developed any feelings for him but there isn't much else you can do.

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how do you leave a bad guy that thinks your an option ?

Another fear in leaving someone like this is because you may deep inside fear that you wont find anything better. You don't owe him any explanations because even if you gave him an explanation, he wouldn't believe that he is the problem or has a problem. The F@$%ked up people are never going to get it. If you get a text or FB message from him, don't answer. If you get a phone call from him, don't answer. He might try hard for quite some time but eventually he will give up.

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Well im 12 and I have had this for a couple of years now and where my nipple is ment to be its all crusty and looks like sleep which you get In your eyes and its yellow and this is worrying me does anyone know what it is because i don't xx

You said " where my nipple is ment to be "
Does this mean you are trying to tell me you don't have nipples? Nipples come in all shapes, sizes and colors, some innies and some outies, like with bellybuttons. And its all normal. That fact that you mention a crusty residue where nipples are supposed to be means there must be some milk ducts there somewhere and since you are still in the early stages of growing.(Many aren't fully grown until into their twenties) some of the minor bits of fluids produced that come out are not to worry about. If it is a daily thing with large amounts, or there is pain or it smells bad, then maybe you have something to be concerned about. Best thing is to show your mom. She is a female and daughters can have the same situations if mom experienced something unique and unusual apart from normal growth. So even if it feels uncomfortable, its easier showing mom than showing a Dr.

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I am newly a child of god and accepted him in my life, I am struggling with sexual desires quite frequently and I am having trouble controlling this urges and don't know how to decrease these urges, it seems to happen almost on a daily basis.

Did you have these same desires before you became a Christian or whatever faith you have adopted? I am betting you did. The only reason you feel a struggle now is because you are told that normal healthy sexual desires is wrong. I used to be with christian church. I no longer attend because God told me I had outgrown them in too many ways. I have always listened to God. And heard back from HIm. The Holy spirit worked with me lots to get me to trust HIm. Whatever I was told to do, I did and it always turned out to be right. There are some things about the church that got twisted over the centuries or added in and accepted as being what our Creator says and want though its nothing more than man made doctrine. While I commend you on wanting to become a spiritual creature, the church is the most difficult place to do so because they have so many rules for what you cannot do. Many are not even an issue with God in the first place.. I continued going to church tho I only asked God what was right for me, so often I was doing something totally different than what was spoken from the pulpit. I went to an acupuncturist several times though I was told they were evil heathens and i should have nothing to do with them. An acupunturist healed my month long ear infection with hearing loss when several doctors and their meds could not. It was combo of acupunture and chinese meds. The next day it was gone just like that. I have learned to trust many different ways of natural healing because of it.

Point here is...I can not tell you how to curb your sexual desires because it is a part of normal human bodys biological function. We were made to feel passion and desire and feel it too when we see someone who interests us look wise. doesnt matter if you're a male or a female. As a female, i felt awkward if i came across a man in the store who made me go weak kneed cus of how gorgeous he looked but yet I was married. It would be just as crazy as telling someone to stop tasting their food..that tasting is an indulgence. Our food should be bland and tasteless, learn how to stop detecting sourness, sweetness, salty, bitter with your tongue. Bet you can't do that can you. You can't just by will power choose to make your tongue unable to detect tastes. Will power will not work on normal sexual urges either. Nothing will because it's supposed to be a part of the human experience.
Do not allow someone to make

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My boyfriend is a prince, pure perfection, any woman's dream. He caters to my every need. He opens doors for me, calls me beautiful constantly, cooks for me, and gives me so much happiness- without all that materialistic stuff. We have been through thick and thin together. There is never me without him, or him without me. We're not known to be without each other. Ever.

He works down the street from my house, so I see him often. We've been having more romantic date nights and stay-ins watching movies more than we used to. Our relationship has improved tenfold. I stopped abusing him the way I used to, he stopped walking away during arguments, and we've matured a lot. I'm going into college, and he's supporting me every step. I couldn't be any more happier.

However, there is a catch. I'm always wanting more. Not from him, but from other guys. I talk to maybe one or two particular guys on an app I have. I lie and say I'm single. I crave their attention. I don't smile or feel pretty when my boyfriend tells me- even when he describes every small particle and thread that makes me beautiful to him. He is a romeo, a charmer, yet I do not feel any excitement, butterflies, or sexiness when he tells me these things. SO why do I feel it when other guys tell me? Why do I crave the attention of other guys? Why do I desire to be swooned from them? Truth is, I secretly wish I didn't have my boyfriend around, but I guess I am keeping him around because I know none of these guys could EVER give me what my boyfriend gives me. I've been neglecting my boyfriend, become sneaky jerk. I lock my phone, computer, and my heart. He pries and pries, yet I simply tell him I am just stressed and I don't want everyone going through my stuff- particularly my family. For example, we went on a date last night, and I couldn't wait for it to be over so I could talk to another guy. I am such a horrible girlfriend. I neglect him, secretly want him gone... and I even told him this, but he stayed. He told me he would help me through this and support me, but honestly, I don't think I will ever be able to stop. I don't know what our relationship is lacking, I don't know why I act this way. Why? I have everything I want, so why do I desire others? I don't want to be this way, I want to love him unconditionally like he loves me. I keep trying to contain myself, to stop myself from texting other guys, but I can't. I don't know how this started or why.

I don't want to keep hurting him. Help me...

You don't say how long you've been together. Hopefully it's been long enough to know whether you have enough in common. Just the fact that he is a great guy, a charmer a gentleman etc...doesn't mean that the two of you are perfect for each other. If that is who he is at core, those are his values, he would treat any woman like that. No matter what your age, I have a feeling you don't have enough skills yet to know what to look for in what compatibility truly is. You mentioned not feeling excitment or feeling sexy when with him...there's your clue. If there was enough chemistry and sexual energy between you, you'd know it.
Here's an example maybe not the best but it will have to do. Some time after leaving my ex and before meeting my current husband, I tried to live the polyamorous lifestyle, having more than one lover at once. It is not for just sex like swinging but real relationships where all the men involved knew i was poly. It was still in my dating profile when i met my husband. He used to be poly too. But when we met, the chemistry in our friendship, our personalities and with sex was so tremondous that neither of us has had any thought of wanting attention from anyone else.
As wonderful as he is, he doesnt sound like the right guy. Lets say on a scale of 1 to 10 that you have experienced men who are 1-or2 and your current prince is a 6 for you. Compared to your past, it would seem he was a 10 and that's all you can expect to have sexually from a man. However, how would you know that he is only a 6. and not a ten, that there is something more. The reason your inner voice or subconscious is leading you on a chase after other men, is because your subconscious knows something your conscious mind hasn't figured out yet. That sexually, he doesn't really light your fire, very little passion, Your body will react to being stimulated but its not what it could be. Deep down you sense something isn't quite what it should be. What you may be looking for is a man who is every bit the prince your current guy is except that both of you are more sexually compatible, suitable...maybe the pheromones. And your current guy has nothing wrong with him in that department because he will score a 10 when he is with the right lady. So you can choose to stay. But you will be frustrated to the point you may go for an affair. And over long term he will sense something isn't right. He may have feelings for you, love you and feel totally satisfied with the quality of your sexual side of relationship.
My ex was. His need for sex was lots less and lots different than mine and i stayed for too many years. It won't change no matter what you read or try to change it. It just is what it is.
While it could be that you have an addiction and are a nymphomaniac....that is less likely than the scenerio I just gave. If you think you have an addiction, go for counseling, your gut feeling will let you know if thats the issue, or that theres not enough spark.

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17/m


My girlfriend and I are sexually active. She started to give me head and it feels super good... obviously but I don't come like when I do when I have sex or masturbate by myself.

When I do it myself or have sex it feels like a normal good feeling when I come.

When she gives me head my tip gets really really sensitive where I have to stop her cause it's so sensitive. The only other time I have felt this is when we grind with clothes on and it gets sensitive but never to where I have to stop.

I noticed when I get super sensitive when she goes down that I kind of come... it looks more just like a lot of pre-cum then normal cum.


What is the cause of this? I would rather have a normal orgasm when she goes down cause it feels better and she likes it when I finish.

Any help is appreciated.

Thank you.

Several things, it could be your penis is so used to how your hand feels that when she gives oral sex it doesn't feel the same so you don't come. I read somewhere that one thing that can be tried is have the man not masturbate for a while and then give her a chance to see if that helps.
Then again some men just have a harder time coming by oral sex.
Take my husband of 4 years, as often as we do it because as you said it feels good, it doesn't always get to the point of orgasm though I have tried several different techniques. And sometimes the tip gets sore. Sometimes he does orgasm that way but not often, maybe once every other month. We don't let it bother us. Just as some women get orgasm better by clitoral stimulation than by g-spot. And for those who get g-spot orgasms, not all of them are able to gush and squirt. We are all different. Enjoy what you do have.

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I just started cutting about 3 hours ago I don't know if I should tell my parents or not or at least my girlfriend

Yes tell your parents. Many have written in who tell stories how they got counseling for the issues that caused them to want to cut in the first place. The cutting is just the symptom that something is wrong. We live in a very stressful world these days. It is getting harder for the average person to figure out how to do it without letting stress or depression get to them. So you are not alone and it is not a shameful or awful thing to get professional help. You can tell your girl friend if you think she can help be supportive but dont tell just her, she can't get you the help you need. If for some strange reason your parents don't take it seriously and just tell you to be strong and shape up....then go to your school counselors and tell them. They hear this all the time, nothing new to them. They should be able to connect you with help and hopefully get your parents involved and supportive.

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