I'm 15 and my boyfriend, that's 16, he's been kind of strange lately.
Btw, it's a long distance relationship and before you might think that's the reason, no he's told me a billion times that it doesn't matter him one bit :)
Well as I was saying, last week he was totally fine! Calling me his princess and stuff like that. But he told me he's going to Ireland for a month and since he's in Ireland (Im In Germany and he comes from America) he's been acting awkward. He ignores not of my messages and as I asked him if he's okay or if I'd be annoying him he said: No you're really not annoying me." I believed him. Well I try my best to have a conversation with him but I can't get to him. It's like he completely would forget about me if I'd not start a conversation. I don't know why he's been like this since he's in Ireland. I have the feeling that he doesn't actually love me like he did. He doesn't show it and that makes me upset!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Dragonflymagic answered Tuesday July 9 2013, 3:59 am: If he got bored, no matter how he felt before, obviously something has changed for him and since it wasn't anything you said to each other to make you stop writing, the only other thing is something in Real life there in Ireland is affecting him. Maybe having a hard time adjust to school there. Although only you would know if he is likely to share with you online when he was facing changes or stressful things before. If that can be ruled out, it could possibly be that he met another girl he really likes and because she is right there in person easy to spend time with and you are not, she wins out. Maybe thats not it. But if it is, he's young and has no idea how to be brave and man enough to break the truth to you. If your inner voice is telling you he has lost interest and it cant be regained, I'd go with the gut feeling...hard as it may be and just move on. Try for a local romance next time around...its way easier to learn what we need to learn in dating. You are looking for what you do and dont like in guys to help you with your choice of a future long term mate or marriage partner. The best experiences are to be gained with live people not strict internet friends. [ Dragonflymagic's advice column | Ask Dragonflymagic A Question ]
lightoftruth answered Sunday July 7 2013, 8:09 pm: It's hard having a long distance relationship when you're young.
Most guys get like this, with or without a long distance relationship, when they're bored with the relationship. Maybe he's just super busy in Ireland or is too distracted but he may simply just not be as interested as he was before.
If you guys never met and don't really have any plans to see each other, then the relationship gets harder. I mean I'm sure you both talked about things like, "After high school we'll be together" But that's just a general thing and there are no real plans there yet. So it's just a vague idea as of right now.
You should probably speak to him and ask him why he's being like this.
If you guys have never met, then there could be a good reason why you think he doesn't actually love you like you thought he did. I mean you could love the idea of being with someone you never met, you can love them as a person but you can't actually be in love with them. Mostly because you don't really know them. You know what they tell you and what they show you. You don't see what they are like at school, with their friends, with their family. People act differently with other people.
So that's just assuming that you've never met.
Xui answered Sunday July 7 2013, 7:59 am: He is likely loosing interest in the relationship
Long distant generally don't last unless you hace serious commitments plans to make living arrangements. Assuming you don't see him, He may of moved on or met someone eles. Unfortunately, Long distance relationships are fantasies abd geberally not real relationships. Most people would naturally want a relationship with someone who they can bond and do things with. [ Xui's advice column | Ask Xui A Question ]
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