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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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On the computer in my room i forgot my password to get on. When you first turn the computer on and it says pick a user well i only have one user because its my computer and no one else goes on it well a couple of days ago i changed my password and i thought i put it to something i would remember. but i had to restart my computer and i went to put in my password and i cant remember it. Is there anything i can do about this? or is my computer useless until i figure out my password? (link)
Call your internet service provider. They will give you the info you need to get back in business. :)


I just finished watching the Exorcist. Is this stuff real? Has this ever happened? I know back in Jesus' time it happened because he performed an exorcisms, as it says in the bible. But does or has this happened lately or around the 60s-70s? I have read many things and there are some stories of exorcisms being performed, but the weird thing is when I watched this movie I don't see how all those things can actually happen to someone innocent whom ingaged in the Ouija board a few times, how does it happen? Im so lost and scared as well. (link)
I really don't think so.

I remember when that movie came out. Was the scariest thing around. I didn't sleep all night after seeing it.

I was about 16 at the time. It doesn't bother me anymore, but man I was sure creeped out then. :)


i was thinking of kinda having a party/get together for my birthday and i was thinking we'd play cards (great idea w/my kinda friends) eat, watch a movie, and then play man hunt (game outside when it's dark) now i have a guy friend and he has a girlfriend. she has a hate list of people she obviously hates... and i'm not sure if i'm on there, but i don't really want to invite her to my house... do you think she'd get mad if i had him over (with a bunch of people) and not her? (link)
Your birthday...you invite who you want.

Maybe you could ask someone if she has you on her list. Anyone with a list is not worth inviting anyway, thats what I think! :)


ok.. i kno having sex is a big thing anme virginity is something i could neva get back my boyfriends and i have been goin out 4 2 yrs and the subject about us haveing sex came up about 2 months ago and hes not a virgin and im not either but i told him i was(long storyand weve been goin stedy and i love him ... uis 13 to young to have sex and is there any way he could find out im not a virgin...... (link)
I think 13 is to young.

If you aren't old enough to be parents (accidents happen) then your to young to have sex. That is just my personal opinion.

I doubt he could tell if you were a virgin or not. I don't think lying to someone is good but he probably wouldn't know. :)


can you tell if your cherry has been poped??

thanks in advance..

i'll rate all 5 if your not a smart ass (link)
No. A doctor could tell if he did an exam, but no way for you to tell.

If you've had sex...it is. :)


okay well lately ive really had the urge to have a baby. im 16 and ive been watching kids and playing with my niece ( 2 1/2) and it really makes me want to have one. i dont want one for the sex or anything i just want it for the whole thing pregancy, birth baby everything and going around kids makes me want one more and more. what should i do? i dont live it a kind of neighbor hood where that is really acepted and my parents would kill me if i had a child but i want one so bad like you have no idea what do i do? its not like i can even control these urges they are there



its not like i want to i do but its like this urge that wont go away its all i cant think about. and watching my niece doesnt help it makes me want 1 of my own more.


i know i am emotional stable and if i did get pregnant my family would help me support this child but i know its not how i was raised and there arent alot of teen pregnancies in my more upscale neighborhood but i feel like i cant live without having a child

i also do babysit and work with children (link)
Trust me ..you don't want that for you and you especially don't want it for any baby you may have.

I know you want one and its a normal thing. Just don't act on it now.

There is so much more needed than just love. A baby deserves 2 parents for one thing who love each other.

Your parents are getting to a point in their lives where they don't need a baby ( else they would have one.

They cost is over the top. It just wouldn't be fair to put that on your parents.

Then of course your life social life would be over. Friends think babies are cute only until they interfere with their plans. Believe me it doesn't take long before they no longer come around.

Live a little first. Enjoy the babies you know and when the time is right , then you start a family. :)


ok well i'm a 16 yr old gurl and i just recently started going out with a friend of mine like 3weeks ago on thursday and i ador him......my first question is, is it weird that i might love him already? like i feel so confortable with him....and the other question is......i want to have sex with him...but is it to soon? like he knows i'm a virgin and he doesnt care to wait but i want to.

plz help i'll rate high
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That decision is up to you. I do have a web site that may help you decide if time is right or not though. :)

http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa051500a.htm

Also, you may want to check out this site on birth control.

http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/contraception/contraception.html


So theres this guy,he really seems to care about me. At least I think but how do I know? (link)
Usually if a guy likes you he will talk to you.
Smile, joke around and tease you.

Here is a website that might help too.

http://www.links2love.com/teens_flirting_2.htm


Does anyone know the freezing temperature of alcohol (drinking alcohol)? (link)
I don't think alcohol freezes. :)


Whenever I mastrubate, I can never get much pleasure just by fingering myself like, in the vagina.
Is this usual?
In order to feel the "rush of pleasure" I have to touch my clit--only my clit.

(link)
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


How do you burn calories? (link)
Exercise.

You actually burn calories just being awake and moving around. But, if you are wanting to lose weight, you have to exercise those calories off. :)


i want to get an intership but i dont kno where to start. i think itll look good on my college application. im 16/f ..any one hav any ideas on where to start? (link)
I doubt you can get an internship without some sort of education.

You can however do volunteer work, which also looks good on an application.

If you know what it is you want to study, find something that is in the same field.

It is also a good way to meet people who can help you later. Might get you a summer job during college and a job placement after. :)


ok i want to exercise but i have bad asmta what can i do that can help with fitness
thanks in advance (link)
The best bet will be to check with your doctor.

He/she will be able to let you know exactly what you can and can't do.

Do not even think of attempting any without having your rescue inhaler close by until you talk to your doctor.

You probably don't even need to go in for an office visit. Just call the office and they can give you some information. :)


ok my boyfriend told me that alot of times when guys have sleepovers they dare each other to give each other blow jobs and so like he told me he gave two of his friends bj's and his friend gave him one. A while after he told me that i gave him one but we werent protected and now im freaking out cuz im scared i might have gotten one. but could some one blowing him give him an std, if they didnt have one? we are both virgins also.. so is it possible that i might or he might have one? AND... can a virgin having sex with another virgin give one virgin herpies or somthing? (link)
Here is a website so you can get the right info.
Some STDs can be caught this way. Herpes is the main one. A cold sore in your mouth...a form of herpes.

While it is very doubtful he got it. It is indeed possible. Check out the site.

http://www.coolnurse.com/std.htm


alright well im having surgery on monday of next week (the 11th)and i was supposed to get my period last thursday. but i havent yet. and its a surgery where ill be in the hospital for 2 weeks and stuff and i dont want to be on my period during the surgery cuz its like a 7 hour surgery and stuff so what should i do? thanks (link)
You should get it and be done with it by then. If not, it won't matter. Tell a nurse or have mom do it and she will take care of you. :)


Will braces go off on metal detectors? What colors should I get? I'm getting them tommorow! (13/F Kind Of Preppy) (link)
You know thats a good question.

I really doubt it but ask your dentist when you go in.

As far as colors go, maybe your school colors...if they aren't really bad colors. :)


Are weed and pot the same thing? (link)
Sure are. :)


I learn about sex through sex education websites, such as sites for teenagers, and I'm consintly sharing such information with friends so that they will not do something wrong when they get infected or something. I taught everyone how to put on condoms, take them off correctly, and although my friend recieved the information gratefully, she thinks that I would only know this because I watch porn. Naturally, there are pictures but they are of infections and such. What do I do to convince them that I DO NOT watch porn (even though it is a healthy thing, I still don't), and that I don't have such access to it? (link)
Give them the links so they can go there and see for themselves.

You could try to print something off that has the name of the site on it.

There are many medical related sites out there to learn from.

You might also tell them that porn sites are not in the business of showing the correct way to put a condom on! Sheesh like people are tuning in for that info! ;)


Hey i wanna get another account, not because i got banned, and while i was trying yo make my secong account i put in my email address and it said sorry someone is currently using that email address. I dont have 2 email addresses, so is there any way to fix this?? Please Help!!
Ill rate 5's!! (link)
It could be that it is now fixed so people can't have more than one account. I really don't know.
Sounds like a question for Dangernerd. You can email him at Dangernerd@gmail.com :)


I recently found out that my bestfriend cheated on his gf. And it wasn't just a make out with another girl type of cheating. He lost his virginity to this other girl. And he has no intention of breaking up with his real gf or even telling her. She lives about 2 hours away from here so unless someone tells her, she wont find out. She's also a good friend of mine so i'm questioning if I should tell her. I know if my bf was cheating on me and she knew, I'd want her to tell me. I'm not speaking to my bestfriend right now becasue of the fact. So should I tell his gf? (link)
I don't think so. Something like this is bound to happen in a long distance relationship. Unfortunately.

If you say anything you will be the bad guy as far as they both are concerned.

You would be far better off talking to him and telling him that if he is going to cheat on her then he needs to just let her go. Hopefully it was a one time thing and it won't happen again.

If it does then talk to both of them about how it might be best to date other people because of the distance. Just don't mention to her why you think that way. No sense in you being the one to hurt her. :)

*edit...By the way, if she ever comes right out and asks you if hes cheated on her...don't lie.




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