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bestfriend is cheating on his gf
I recently found out that my bestfriend cheated on his gf. And it wasn't just a make out with another girl type of cheating. He lost his virginity to this other girl. And he has no intention of breaking up with his real gf or even telling her. She lives about 2 hours away from here so unless someone tells her, she wont find out. She's also a good friend of mine so i'm questioning if I should tell her. I know if my bf was cheating on me and she knew, I'd want her to tell me. I'm not speaking to my bestfriend right now becasue of the fact. So should I tell his gf?
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send her an anonymous e-mail orIM telling her that her boyfriend is cheating on her and that he had sex with another girl. or you can say its from you. that way she can dump him and move on. good luck!
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yes definatly, she deserves to know
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Give him a chance to tell her. Tell him that she deserves to know, and try to make him understand. Chances are she's going to tell you when she finds out because you guys are good friends. If he doesn't tell her, then you should force him into doing it, or do it yourself.
Do something like get them into a chat room, three way phone call, something like that. Say "is there something you need to tell her?" and if he doesn't then you should. She deserves to know, and if he's dumb enough to cheat then he's dumb enough to get caught.
♥ Melissa
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you should most deffinatly tell her- it wouldnt be so big if he was flirting with another girl or maybe a peck on the cheek- but this is major..also- if she finds out about him and that you knew- she will never fogive you...but make sure you have all your facts strait. put yourself in her shoes...i realize that the boy is your friend too- so talk to him too, hes most likley try to persuade you to not tell her- but explain to him why you are going to IF he doesnt... hope i helped- roxmyworld456 for extra advice... ♥
alex
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Quite simply: no. Ignorance is bliss, the truth will only hurt everybody. it may be immoral, but everyone will be better off if you don't tell.
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I don't think so. Something like this is bound to happen in a long distance relationship. Unfortunately.
If you say anything you will be the bad guy as far as they both are concerned.
You would be far better off talking to him and telling him that if he is going to cheat on her then he needs to just let her go. Hopefully it was a one time thing and it won't happen again.
If it does then talk to both of them about how it might be best to date other people because of the distance. Just don't mention to her why you think that way. No sense in you being the one to hurt her. :)
*edit...By the way, if she ever comes right out and asks you if hes cheated on her...don't lie.
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Yes you should tell her because ones cheat on some one most likely it will happen again and if its with the same girl thats just terrible she should no. i think it would be the right thing just make sure that she doesnt tell him who told
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i know it might kill you not to tell his gf, but it's not your business and i think that you should NOT meddle. what he did behind his gf's back is really really wrong and if she finds out she'll never forgive him or speak to him again. the best you can do is wait and see what happens. if she finds out and she's really depressed, just be there for her. all i can do is give my advice, but it's up to you what path you take. good luck & hope i helped!!
XOXO **Nicole** XOXO
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You answered your own question. She should know if he's cheating on her. It could really make things sour though with you and this guy because you snitched about it when you probably found out somehow in confidence.
But yeah, I'd totally tell her. Or either that be firm with her boyfriend and yell at him. What he did wasn't right and now he should have to deal with the consequences of his actions.
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You probably shouldn't get in this problem it doesn't correspond for you to tell her what you should tell her is to keep an eye for her boyfriend,tell her that she shouldn't really trust him,keep a good check on him,and to spy on him because she may never know what he does when she's not around,and let her find out,and see the truth with her own eyes.There is a 50% chance she may not believe you,just may think you're jealous,a 50% chance she may believe you so it's better for her to see it herself.
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Like you said if someone cheated on you ud want to know so I think by sacraficing the friendship with the guy who cheated and telling the girl he cheated on,you would be making your friendship with her stronger.But you also have to remeber to tread carefully when you tell her because she might not take in a good way
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i think you should tell her the truth. i mean if someone doesnt tell her the truth she going to keep going with her life and getting stronger feelings for him. and when she finally does find out the truth it will hurt sooo much more then it will hurt now.
*~Stephanie~*
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Ive been in the same position as you quite a few times. Every1 got mad at me for telling, saying that its non of my business. Well maybe its not, but that person has a right to know! I know i would want to know, and i would be mad at every1 who knew and didnt tell me.
Then you have to look at the other side to it. Will his gf believe u or any1 who told her what they heard? Especially if her bf tells her that it never happened! Then your gonna have youre best friend hating you, his gf, and every1 else. Its gonna be an ugly situation, and youre gonna have to be able to deal with the consequences.
Because youre gonna get alot of people lying, but i think that girl has every right to know the real truth!!
Good Luck!!
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*UPDATE* i really like the idea of being anonymous..dukes of hazzard girl has a great idea. leaving it anonymous is a good idea..taking the photo and typing a letter how hes cheating is a good idea..
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wow, tough situation! well..first i would talk to the guy and try and convince him to tell the truth to his girlfriend. tell him how its wrong , and it will make him feel better once the truth is out..maybe he will agree and tell her himself.
iff he doesnt..i would end up telling the girl shes being cheated on. i cant picture myself letting one of my good friends cheat on another good friend. i wouldnt be able to feel right about myself if i didnt say anytthing while knowing that the guy is cheating. so, i would talk to the girl ..and tell her how your good friends with both her and the guy ..so i would askk her to leave my name out of it..
she can just break up with him ..and not mention cheating..she can say shes suspecting something and break up with him..or say she has her resources or somethin..she doesnt have to say who she heard it from.
-melissa-
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