ok well i'm a 16 yr old gurl and i just recently started going out with a friend of mine like 3weeks ago on thursday and i ador him......my first question is, is it weird that i might love him already? like i feel so confortable with him....and the other question is......i want to have sex with him...but is it to soon? like he knows i'm a virgin and he doesnt care to wait but i want to.
tasuki answered Monday October 3 2005, 9:32 pm: Is it weird that you might love him? Hm. No, not really. It's very possible you could. But the key word in your question is "might". One of the great questions in the universe is "how do you know?" I think that if you have to ask that question, you don't love him. You have great affection for him, yes, but it's not the same as love.
Now, personally, I do think it is too soon. But that is YOUR decision. It is okay to want sex. Most people do. Your body is developed, so physically you are ready for sex. But are you emotionally ready? A few generations ago, it was common for thirteen-year-olds to get married. That's not such a big occurence anymore. People have changed, society has changed and the mindset of young adults has changed. It's natural to want sex, you're an animal after all (never forget that). But just because you want something does not mean you are ready for it just yet. Ask yourself if you are really, truly ready and do some serious soul-searching before you decide. Also, you both should be tested for STDs (it doesn't matter that you're a virgin! Get tested!) and you definitely should use a condom. [ tasuki's advice column | Ask tasuki A Question ]
TheTeenGirl answered Monday October 3 2005, 8:01 pm: I think you know the answer to your question. "is it weird that i might love him already?" Nope, thats just a strong exciting feeling of a new relationship, not really love though. "i want to have sex with him...but is it to soon?" After 3 weeks of being together, and you want to know if its too soon to have sex with him? Of course it is! "he doesnt care to wait but i want to." He doesn't care to wait? You are with a guy who does not care to wait to have sex? This has to be a joke question. Is it not obvious that you just might be dating the wrong guy? Don't rate me and tell me that I'm not understanding the question. When I look at your question, it makes no sense. You want to have sex with him, yet you want to wait? The point is that, yes, it is too soon to have sex with him.
wigglesworth09 answered Monday October 3 2005, 7:37 pm: Im 14 and I've had sex with my boyfriend! alot of people said it was too soon but it was like 3 months into the relationship and we have been going out for 7 months! i know i know I KNOW! your think SLUT!!!! but honestly im not at all! hes the first guy i have done anything with and i love him dearly! i personally think if you wait longer it will bring you a bit closer but honestly try not to do it too much it ruins things! about being in love with him i think if you think its true love then it is! its not like you have known him for 2 days and already telling him you love him! well good luck! oh and tip it HURTS sooooooooooo bad! i almost efing cried my first time so beware of the pain! you should know what your getting yourself into before you do anything! lol! good luck with that! :-D [ wigglesworth09's advice column | Ask wigglesworth09 A Question ]
MJ answered Monday October 3 2005, 7:22 pm: i think it is possible to love him but i personally think that it is to early to have sex with him the perfect moment for that is when you know that you are both ready and when you have no doubt in your mind that you wanto spend the rest of your life with him because think ahead if you wernt sure that you really did love him and then you did fuck him and you two broke up it would be even worse cuz beleive me when you have sex with someone that you thought you loved you start to love them a whole lot more and to lose them after that, it hurts a whole lot worse ~ MJ [ MJ's advice column | Ask MJ A Question ]
lilolamberlynn8806 answered Monday October 3 2005, 6:59 pm: I think that it doesn't really matter how long you've been dating to love someone! Me and my boyfriend wasn't dating and I knew I loved him! About the sex thing...that is totally up to how you feel inside! I would just think everything thru first! Make sure you both are doing it for the right reasons! If I was in your position I would wait just to make sure he really does want me and not my body! Its always a nice feeling to know that your man loves you for you not for what you have! I hope I helped you out a little bit
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ReddCutie09 answered Monday October 3 2005, 6:47 pm: Whooa gurl it's way too early to be having sex with him!! You should consider the fact that he is cool with waiting that he wants a gurl that doesn't want to give the coochie away so fast.Plus if you don't listen to a little advice and have sex anyway then you should get ready for a shit load of pain down there. My friend couldn't sit down for 2 days after giving up her virginity. [ ReddCutie09's advice column | Ask ReddCutie09 A Question ]
xomegaroni answered Monday October 3 2005, 6:39 pm: it's definately not weird to love him already. i loved my bf at age 13 & were together now since then. it's completely normal. hmm if you're ready to have sex then do it, but you need to be like 75436587365% sure, because you don't want to regret it. if your christian er anything like that, you wanna wait till after marriage. like my opinion is that i want the person that takes my virginity to be my husband & it'll really mean something. if you're totally ready then go for it.
xXxpinky615xXx answered Monday October 3 2005, 6:19 pm: Questoin 1) No, it's not weird that you might love him. You don't need to be dating someone for a certain amout of days/weeks/months in order to love them, love can come at any time.
Question 2) I think it is WAYYYYY too soon. You don't even KNOW if you love him yet. What if he doesn't love you? Having sex at this point is uber early. You should at LEAST be dating for 6 months before you take it to that level. It's a brand new relationship, don't take it that far so soon. [ xXxpinky615xXx's advice column | Ask xXxpinky615xXx A Question ]
advicegodesses2 answered Monday October 3 2005, 5:52 pm: Hey,
Have sex but only if you want to. And no it's not wrong to love him this soon.
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