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Does anyone know of any real health risks invovled with taking the mini pill. I am no longer in a relationship but still take it as it has stopped my menstral cycle but have read various web sites some saying that there is no added chance of getting certain cancers particularly breast cancer others say it is a slightly higher risk. Luckily i have only ever taken the pill since march this year so have not been on it for long, Thanks

I read on Wikipedia and dont see anything that stands out as a problem. I did see what might cause it to not be affective: "They will, however, be affected by any episodes of diarrhea or vomiting."

And the side effects:May cause mastalgia (breast tenderness) and mood swings.
Weight gain is less commonly experienced thanMay cause mastalgia (breast tenderness) and mood swings.
Some women may experience abdominal cramps and heavy bleeding.

If in the long run you do have some symptoms you'd rather not put up with, then you might want to try something like the IUD. The Mirena uses hormones like what your getting now but the Copper IUD doesn't. I used it and never had any problems. It;s good for 10 yrs or so. That way you
have it always there if and when you find a sex partner and for those times in between when you don't have any sex, it's still there. Don't have to remember to take something, no hormonal side affects and you still will get regular periods so your systems is not messed up and confused. I loved it for being so careful. You can be spontaneous when the mood hits instead of needing a condom or fiddling with a diaphragm and spermicide if going for other non hormonal methods. I am into natural health and wanted to avoid the hormones. If Cerazette is working for you, then stick with it.

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HI im uisng Trigedtrel and im puting on weight is it possible for the pill to put on this weight? i didnt change my eatin gplan i eat as usial?

Yes the pill can make you gain weight even though you haven't changed your diet. Why?
Because the pill has tricked your body into thinking it is pregnant and pregnant women put on some weight.
Why does your body think its pregnant? Thats how the pill works. The same hormones your body would create if you were pregnant are simulated in the pill. The pill is what tells your body to stop releasing eggs to get fertilized because you are already pregnant (even tho you really aren't) so other pregnancy symptoms can arise: Tenderness in the breast, feeling more irritable and moody, loss of libido, headaches, the weight gain and even in some extreme cases, even the nausea/throwing up. Why live with those symptoms year after year because the particular med clashes with your body. Tell the doctor you dont like the symptoms and ask for something different.
Be sure to find out about any refraining from sex during a switch in meds if applicable.
So go see your doctor or planned parenthood again.

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Lets call him 'nick'.
I met nick years back when he was with my friend. Apparently there was a 'thing' between us then. I dont remember and I only found out about this 'thing' recently. I just remembered thinking he was really cool and we got on well.
Years later and im in a relationship with nicks best friend. Were on the brink of splitting up. So through my boyfriend ive seen nick a few times, not many.
When im with him he barely looks at me, and I basically have a huge crush on him. I feel like a teenager. He is normally very confident, even my boyfriend has commented on how awkward he is around me. He either likes me or really doesnt.
My boyfriend has always made comments on how alike me and nick are, but I barely know him myself.
For some reason I have been thinking about him more and more. I always fantasize about him.
So the advice I really need:

How do I tell if he likes me too?
Should I say something to him?
Should I ask why he acts weird, or just tell him I like him? (I can say this when my boyfriend leaves).
Why am I so attracted to him when I barely know him?
Anything else .... thanks for all replys.

What you are experiencing is something that can also happen with a total stranger, your eyes meet briefly, no one says anything and yet you know you felt something and by how the person is looking at you, you know they felt it too. It happened while I was staying at my daughters helping out after she gave birth. I was in the driveway just yards from the sidewalk, removing my granddaughter out of carseat when I looked up and saw a man walking his dog. He actually slowed his stride and locked eyes with me and his head turned to keep looking at me as he walked forward. That was 5 yrs ago. I still remember it clearly because I felt drawn to him. I was single at the time. Right before I met my husband. It's a chemistry of sorts between people. Doesn't mean that they may be the ultimately perfect person for you but there's pheremone attraction perhaps, most likely sexual compatibility...its the rest, the friendship that one would have to discover if there was enough there to become close companions. Due to my age, this proves it can happen at any age. And yeah, I guess you could describe as feeling like a teenager, like the first time experiencing attraction.

So you have nothing to lose but everything to gain from giving it a chance and getting to know Nick. The only issues are how it affects your ex and your girlfriend.

I know there's a code between girlfriends to not date their ex but...it could be a totally different story if you talk to your girlfriend first. Hopefully she knows you and boyfriend are splitting up. Tell her what he says about you and nick having lots in common. Ask her what she thinks about whether it would be a good idea for you to date Nick. She knows him better than you do. If the split was mutual and she is not pining after him wishing she still had him, she could be a great ally in helping get you guys together. So ask her and see where she's at on that.

Verge of breaking up with the other, that means you're both planning on breaking up but for some reason haven't? I think you need to have a talk with boyfriend. If he's a nice guy but the two of you don't have enough spark and enough in common and you both realize it, then you two should be able to discuss anything about parting ways. Maybe you;re still under the same roof if living together cus you haven't found other living arrangements yet. That only means you are room-mates not a couple anymore and it makes you free to start dating someone else, as long as you both have agreed it's a good idea to start dating others.
If Nick is his friend and he noticed how alike you are, your male friend might be the perfect person to talk to. Tell him that since he's mentioned how alike you two are, you have been wondering if Nick would be a good person for you to date. Don't mention the fantasizing or the crush going some time back while you were still with him or that wouldn't sit well with him or anyone else for that matter.
Get Nicks number if you don't have it and give him a call. You could say,'HI Nick, JOe and I are no longer dating but he did mention once that he thought you and I were very much alike. Since I am free to date again, and I know you a little, I thought I might like to spend some time with you to see if we really do have something in common.""
That doesnt sound strange and should be an appropriate thing to say to Nick. Good LUck

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18/f

Okay, so I already take medications from to dr. to ease period pains,
Every time I have a period though I throw up. Alot. I don't want any girls that answer to think its an over-reaction, trust me, I do try to cope, but I just can't.
Its known that sickness will ease as a girl gets older-mine hasn't changed for years now.

How can I cope? What is it?

Other than pain killers and products like Midol, the only things prescribed by doctors that I know of for extreme period pains, heavy periods and all other period problems is the birth control pill.
Did you have throwing up with periods before the doctor put you on "medicine" for the period pains?
If you did, whatever he/she gave you is not effective, go back to him/her and tell Dr.
If the throwing up didn't start until you were put on the medication, then I'd say it's a good bet that this is a side effect to whatever medication you are taking.

If your prescribed medication for pain is the birth control pill, here's why they prescribe it and how it works.
When the body is pregnant, it creates a hormone that tells the body not to release an egg anymore and not to have periods. If a period is abnormal gushing of blood or extremely painful, then Drs feel the best solution is to prescribe birth control pills because they will tell the body it is pregnant and the periods stop so any problems associated with a period also stop. Unfortunately a great majority of females begin to experience a few or alot of pregnancy symptoms which can range from headaches, to tenderness in the breast, weight gain, lack of libido, nausea/throwing up and whatever other symptoms that come along with pregnancy. Your body doesn't like this medication and until a different hormonal birth control is tried, you don't have a chance of it getting better. They may have to try many different kinds before finding one that works for you.
My daughters best friend had major problems already with period in 6th grade and was put on birth control pills which worked for her with no side effects.
So, no you don't have to find a way to 'cope'. What you need is a different medication. Go back to your doctor. And next time, don't let it go for month or years of putting up with it before you go back and tell doctor its' not helping. It may help with the extreme pain but to trade one extreme symptom for another one is not solving the problem, it's a continuation of a problem with a different cause.

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I am 16 years old and I dated this guy for almost a year. We broke up last November, got back together in January, and broke up in February. There's something about him that I can't let go so I keep going back to him. I had him over yesterday and we were alone so we were kissing and one thing led to another and we ended up naked. We decided to have sex so he put his erect penis in my vagina for about a minute before taking it out and we did other stuff instead. I'm really worried because that's when I was most fertile. He didn't cum in me but I'm worried about his precum. Should I take plan b? should i be fine? I have soccer scholarships on the line I can't get pregnant I'm really worried please HELP!

Yes, take plan b, otherwise known as morning after pill. It is still effective if taken within 72 hours of having sex...thats within 3 days, but not over.
You are old enough to get on some kind of birth control. You can go without parents permission to planned parenthood or your regular gynecologist.
Some women get side effects to hormonal birth control like the pill, the shot, the Mirena IUD. To have the most carefree sex life and always be protected, no matter how long a gap between lovers and sex, you could go with the Copper IUD also called Paraguard. Look it up on line and read all about it. I used it when first married. It may cost more having it put in. But it is good for 10 years. After paying for monthly pills or the shot regime for 10 years, all other venues end up more expensive in the long run. No side effects. Can be removed by doctor when you want to become pregnant and you dont have to wait for body to come off hormones to try to conceive, and is very effective. Good luck!

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She feels like vomiting everyday, constant headaches, dizziness and more headaches.
This happens every single day for a couple of hours.
About her:
She's 15 , under weight by a couple of kilos, not a virjin, but she's not pregnant, she does sex every week once with her boyfriend. She eats good food, so it's probably not a food disease or something like that. She cries a lot sometimes though, I think this must be some sort of stress.
If you could PLEASE find out in any way WHAT IS WRONG WITH HER!
High FIVE to all.
-Thank You.

She should definitely be checked out by a doctor.
One thing occurred to me. If she is having regular sex, is she on hormonal birth control?
If so, Research the name of her particular BC on line for a listing of side effects. Some people get none at all, I am guessing that about 2/3 of females experience side effects, a few or a lot. And there could be the very few who are made violently ill by it.
Since the hormones are attempting to trick the body into believing it's pregnant with these hormones normally present in a pregnant woman, these artificial hormones can and will cause a variety of symptoms of pregnancy like headaches, weight gain, tenderness of the breast, a lack of libido, and of course the vomiting that some women get with pregnancy. Tell her doctor what birth control she's on and have him check for other possible causes as well.
If its her birth control, I'd suggest researching a non hormonal type, the best that I know of is the copper IUD, not the Mirena...thats hormone loaded. Look that up on line as well. Good luck.

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I am about to be 19 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 15. I Did not bleed ever during sex ever but it just happened to me while i was getting fingered by my boyfriend. He asked if I was a virgin even though this wasnt the 1st time we did this so I dont know what he meant. He said it was maybe normal and maybe popped my cherry cause I was too tight. I was also a bit intoxicated. No pain, and went away after I cleaned myself up. What could this be? :(

Your cherry or hymen is not something that can be 'popped' It is a tighter ring of flesh that is very elastic and can be stretched out but once it isn't getting regular stretching from sex or sex toys, then it can become tighter again even if once stretched out.
Think about how far it has to stretch as well as others parts of a female in order to give birth! It goes back to its usual size just fine.
The skin in your vagina is sensitive and easily scratched or torn if the guy has rough nails, callouses on fingers or if no lube or not enough lube is used. The natural lubrication of a female can be much more watery than what is needed so repeated fingering of the g spot or anywhere else is going to drag on the skin and not provide the best friction to create and build the intensity needed for orgasm plus it could tear the delicate skin. Here's a video link to a gal who teaches on this very subject.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8WkpA

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This teacher that I was really close to left my school at the end of the year
and now I'm kind of realising how much I actually miss him. I didn't really say
goodbye to him properly which I really regret

Also, he's moved really far away so I will literally never see him again and
I have no way of contacting him. I was just wondering if anyone has had a
similar experience and/or any tips for how I can cope?

There are many different reasons why a person may not have had a chance to say goodbye to someone...often it's the death of a loved one and not being able to get to their deathbed in time. The person will know you cared about them but the saying goodbye part is really something for you not for the other person to hear.

So the best therapy for one self is to physically write a letter on paper or do so on your pc and save it. In the letter get all your thoughts and feelings out and say what you didn't get a chance to say.
Many people do this on a fairly regular basis throughout life for all sorts of things.
Its called journaling or keeping a diary. It is very helpful for getting out ones thoughts that lay heavily on the mind. And though the person it is addressed to cannot ever receive the letter, it still works because it helps your subconsious mind process the situation as if it went the way you wished it did. And thereby, your subconsious mind which has the feelings and emotions connected to the event will actually feel enough closure so that it can go on without the strong feelings that were tormenting beforehand.

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well im female/19.

Me and my ex boyfriend are still in contact were still friends, and well we have them conversations where we always talk about the past, like we bring up memories and our sexual experiences together..
we've spoke about us having sex again, he was the last guy i had sex with to be honest.. and well we both want to do it would it be wrong? cause inside it's something i really want to do and i would o it over and over again, like i know it would be just sex but since he's my ex we both know what we like, and I have that feeling that by us having sex feelings would be there he once said it himself..

I would say the only thing wrong would be if he was considering this while committed to dating another girl.
So if he is in a relationship, don't disturb that by having sex.
I think you are basically asking that if you know that there's lack of interests preventing you from getting together again as a couple, is it ethical that you both as friends just have sex together?

Yes. Many adult women who haven't found the perfect guy to settle down in a life time committed relationship with, will have friends with sexual benefits. To have sex with someone, it is a given that there is a certain level of attraction, enough to have sex but not enough compatibiltiy necessarily to be in a solid relationship. Between my divorce and before I found my 2nd husband, I dated guys who were only friends for sex a and they knew that. It is healthy to have a sexual outlet even when not in a committed relationship and for some of us, masturbating just doesnt cut it.

Now you are the only one who knows why the two of you broke up in the first place. Was it simply due to your age? Think back . . . did you have some things about him that you couldn't stand, where you pushed each others buttons and became angry over little things even when you weren't trying to piss off each other? Things like that are a lack of chemistry as friends and a couple needs both chemistry as friends and sexually to have a solid foundation for a relationship. If the two of you had troubles due to both of you acting immature, perhaps theres a chance for more.
Like I said, only you will know the real reasons.

So if there are some strong reasons why you couldn't be long term as a couple, then the kind of feelings you have from having sex (everybody gets those feelings, the heart gets involved) those feelings aren't enough for a full fledged relationship. Many couples however try to make it work so many that we think it is a normal healthy relationship cus we see it everywhere. But honey, its not normal and healthy and those relationships eventually break up. The amount of people who divorce as friends simply cus they weren't right for each other is higher than the few who fought all the time and tried to verbally or physically hurt each other or totally ignore each other.

If he and you were perfect for each other in all ways and he or you or both freaked at the intensity of your feelings and didn't want to settle into a long term committed relationship that early... then it would be a perfect thing to try to get back together with him since you both seem to want it.
He may be wanting a friend with benefits only with you and you might be hoping for the rest of the relationship to come back. If that's the case, your heart will be broken. But that is part of life, we can't hide behind a wall in life to prevent heartaches cus if we do, we might miss out on the good stuff. So if you go into this knowing your heart could be broken and are still willing, then do so. But you can not blame him or verbally abuse him if he isn't as committed to you if the agreement between you originally is to get back together just as sex partners. If its meant to be, the rest of the relationship will develope, but having sex again isn't a guarantee that will happen.

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My mom complains about me sitting round the house all dau but NEVER lets me hangout with my friends! Is that bs?

A complaint about sitting around all day without clarification as to why the complainer has a problem with it is unfair to the person it is directed at. How can you amend your behavior if you have no idea what she is REALLY getting at.
Ask her. What are you worried about? that i am not contributing enough to chores around the house? that i am not getting enough exercise, that I need more fresh air, that I need more socializing?
Find out what her specific Beef is. Then you will know if she is blowing things out of proportion or if she has a little valid reason for feeling that way. It is too easy to get lost in front of a computer screen. What I thought was a 1/2 hour I spent in front of mine was now 2 hrs later. With technology today too many of us are getting less fresh air and exercise.
If the only place you are able to see friends is at school and they are not allowed to come to your house or you go to theirs, that is an entirely different issue. And that is a separate discussion you'll have to have with mom.
If you want the freedom to take off for the mall or go to movies with a friend, I don't see a problem but it may be your age. Mom wants to know where you will be and that there won't be kids around who are a bad influence. I think the biggest reason parent subconsciously don't trust their kids out on their own with friends is because the frontal part of your brain which is responsible for making good mature decisions is still developing and not fully formed until we reach our mid twenties. By then our bodies will have been mature for years and the thoughts of daughters becoming sexual, possibly ending up with an abusive boyfriend, i think its one in 3 now adays, or experimenting with drinking or drugs or stealing petty stuff just for the fun... There's all sorts of things a teen could get into. But not all teens all like that and should be allowed to slowly build up their trust with parents. If the parents don't allow you the chance to learn how to build trust and be trustworthy, you are missing out on a good opportunity. I can't know your whole situation, but talking it out will get you further down the road than you were originally.

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My boyfriend enjoys porn, and I have no qualms with that. But im finding more and more that instead of coming to me for sex or other things he will just browse porn instead. I make it more than clear that i want him, a lot. I'm not sure how to approach the situation because I don't want to sound like the bitchy girlfriend that doesn't allow porn, but I'm really not like that. I just want to be the one that he goes to if he has those needs. I wouldn't mind if he used porn if i turned him away or something but it's like I'm his second choice. We have a good relationship otherwise, it has ups and downs, and when we do have sex it's great. So, what to do?

21/f

If your gut feeling is that he is using you as choice number two, you're probably right. By the way you write, I can tell you aren't over reacting but looking at this objectively. Basically, you can have a talk and tell him you feel like his 2nd choice over porn. But at that age, a young man is just still in the stages of exploring his sexuality and learning and gaining experience. However my opinion, porn is not the place to go to learn how to please women sexually. If that's his reason, he should look elsewhere on the net such as understanding the physiology of male and female parts during orgasm, How a female achieves orgasm...what he can do to give her mind blowing sex.

If he is watching porn because he doesn't prefer to give out to please a partner but just wants a quick release for himself, then he has chosen the right thing but it is unfair to keep you hanging thinking that you are important to him.

If he is watching porn because he is even more sexual than you and once you are fully satisfied, he still had more need, then porn is great. Porn is all about the visual for a guy, it is not about pleasing a woman. Its a part of Hollywood, its all acting.
Watch this clip by Laci Green and her ideas on porn.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qg4SGWNQSAs

Here's a clip on the physiology of orgasms...as taught to med students.

And finally a woman who talks about how to teach your guy what you need.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCin9JCB4Pw

If your boyfriend would apply himself and learn how to have fun pleasuring you, once you've achieved full body g spot orgasms he will be able to give you g spot and a spot orgasms in intercourse and there's nothing more exciting for a guy than to feel the vagina squeezing in contractions and his female gushing or squirting the female equivalent of ejaculatory fluid, (not pee.) and feeling it run all over him. Grown men are like little boys with the best Christmas toy ever, they don't want to put it down but keep pulling this lever and pushing that button to watch what it does over and over. If you can't get this reaction out of him or he doesnt want to try...you re with the wrong guy dear, plain and simple.

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My little sister is 4 about to be 5, she wakes up in the middle of the night crying her eyes out unable to tell me what is wrong. She will do everything I say except tell me what's wrong. (her parents are divorced and its joint custody(half sisters)) she only wakes up when she is at our house (dads) she never wakes up at anyone else's house. We get her Friday-Monday and I don't get to sleep on those days because she wakes me up multiple times at night. Sometimes she will scream "but I need it" or just kick her legs. I heard it could be night terrors but I'm not sure. She has been doing this for a few years. Why is she waking up? And what is causing it is what I wanna know!

Little children usually have a closer bond to mom at that age than dad. Since there was a divorce when she was at baby or toddler stage, it could be she never had a chance to form any attachment to her real dad. So when she is away from mom and with her dad and you, she not only craves mom and misses her but doesn't feel like her dad is really her dad, he may feel like more of a stranger. I say this because you stated it only happens at your house. And the fact that it only happens at night mean that her conscious mind has found ways to deal with it so she's ok with everybody during the daytime. But at night when our subconscious mind is running the show, helping us dream, our subc. mind is also where all our feelings and emotions are stored, the good and the bad so since she seems upset at night, it's her subc. mind that is feeling fear and maybe confusion, anger...etc
I think the parents need to be made aware of what is going on because a child psychologist would be better prepared to figure out what her actual fears are and help her to get over them. If it is disrupting your sleep, it is a serious enough issue to be looked into. SHe will start school soon. Thats another big change in a kid's life. Who knows if untreated, her subc. fears will come out in school somehow, causing problems with learning or behaving.
Even if you knew exactly what is causing it, there is little you can do as her sister except to go comfort her or hug her and keep saying that everything is alright. But in meanwhile, mom and dad need to be made aware of this so they can help...when I say mom and dad, that includes all four adults because they all will be responsible in part to help with her healing once a Dr has told them what is needed.

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I am male 22 single. I want to have sex. I am not finding anybody

It sounds like you are more interested in finding a female for sex than for a relationship. If that is correct, looking for one by just running into one in your normal activities, is like looking for a needle in a haystack. You'd be better off doing a web search for adult friend finding sites. While most friend finding sites used to be for just friends, today most are almost 100% sexually oriented. There will be older men seeking younger women, younger men seeking older women for sex, couples seeking a singe for another couple for threesome or swapping, bi-sexuals, you name it, they're all on sites looking for sexual friends.
You best be very careful though. Get yourself tested before you go. Many people are carriers of Herpes through their parents through mouth cold sores even though they have never had outbreaks. The oral can be transmitted to the sex organs by mouth contact...and this is all while no sores are visible. So be sure you are clean to start. It would be good to know if a partner has been tested ahead of time. Use condoms. If you find sex partners you want to be fluid bonded with, have them get tested first fur sure. Good luck.

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I am a 21 year old female, and I'm having a really hard time reaching orgasm without using vibration.
I know it's possible. Which brings up a second part to this question as well that I'm actually really embarrassed to explain.... I'm a total freak in bed. I LOVE having sex - ANY kind of sex. And I'm really enthusiastic about it too; I arch my back, I moan and breathe strongly (I don't scream at the top of my lungs, or anything), and any act I perform I put my all into it. I genuinely enjoy pleasing a guy and myself, except, I can't please myself. Not truly. Unless I use vibration. So could it be that I'm defective, or because I feel like I don't have the right person to be the one to do it? Because I feel like I'm never on an equal playing field with who I sleep with. I say what I want from him, but he's either intimidated or just can't do it. Don't get me wrong, making love is great but I find it so much more sexy to be thrown around and fucked like a dirty whore. If I find someone who feels the same way about sex could I possibly orgasm? The best way to try and explain it is that I can only do so much on my part. And do you think I should go for older guys in hopes that they know what they're doing? Like 10 or maybe even 15 years older? I just feel like I have this inner vixen that has yet to truly be let out and maybe that's why I haven't been able to orgasm. Like maybe if I find the right guy to tap into it and bring it out I won't have this problem anymore. I want to handle and be handled. Dominate and be dominated. But I seem to freak guys out with how sexual I become. Either all of that applies, or I'm just not able to orgasm.
So: Am I "defective"? What are some ways to try and orgasm? Or should I find someone older, more experienced and compatible with my style of sex, and be willing to do what pleases me to see if that might work?

At your age i was married in a sexually mismatched deal. He didn't inspire me to orgasm. There's such a thing as sexual chemistry with a guy. And if the man isn't as sexual a creature and needing the same type of sex, then the female isn't going to enjoy herself, never be fully fullfilled and never have orgasms. My ex never gave me an orgasm. When I starting dating again in my forties, I discovered there was nothing wrong with me and I was actually quite wild in bed like you. And yes, many guys will be intimidated by it. Does age matter for a guy to know more? Only in a few circumstances. If the guy's perspective was always getting fullfilment for himself and that the female participating in that was enough for her, then a gal can try talking to him to determine if it simply that he needs educating or he is simply a lazy lover. Lover isn't the right word, sex partner...nope, he's not really giving you a good sex experience either.
The facts are, any woman is capable of having an orgasm. The sad fact is that very few ever do. The ultimate is the g spot orgasm. I will put several links here for you to learn a bit and go searching the net on your own for more info. You need to find a guy who is really into you, there's sexual attraction/chemistry in just the kiss alone, and he is willing to learn how to please a woman in bed. One thing I will say is that sources you'll find say that every woman can gush or squirt with a g spot orgasm. That is not true. Every woman can have a g spot orgasm but for some, the same ducts like a male has were the pee duct closes and the duct for ejaculate opens, same in woman they have a separate duct that opens into the urethra from which the liquid comes forth, female ejaculation, only some females while growing in utero as a baby, these parts never connected. So she doesnt ejaculate but she can still have her full body mind blowing orgasms. Thats what you need to experience. You can work on it yourself bu its much easier to have a man doing it for you because you can't obviously keep doing it once your mind disengages and your body starts thrashing around, it's a real job for a guy to keep on target and keep prolonging the females g spot orgasm when she's bucking alll over the place. Because like you I enjoy and require a certain level of intensity to get off...using fingers on clit doesnt work well, vibrators do but take a long time. It works better when hubby is using the vibrator on me. So do what you can to educate yourself first about the wonderful abilities of female to have multiple orgasms. And the male can learn how to hold back ejaculating too early so he doesnt come to early. We're not talking just about premature ejaculation, but guys learning the tricks on how to hold back so that they can give the female many orgasm with intercourse without coming once and wait until she is fully satisfied before allowing himself in that final time to cum. Enjoy the videos, look for more and find a guy who is open to learning more on how to please a girl. Many are willing but just don't know how.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVL_GudwAOI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yz68K2qAlkE&list=PLTXiNEUzXWKTfNYKThSk-kmJdf7AJRP5K

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yW2l44md9hI

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I have a at who has been pregnant twice and is pregnant again . Some yellow kind of bloody fluid leaked from her ... area . & this has never happened before . I dont have money or insurance to bring her to the vet , what should I do ?

How pregnant is the cat, are we talking close to giving birth, if so this could be normal part of the birth process. In human females it is called the 'bloody show' although its not very bloody. In some but not all females the mucus plug in the cervix becomes loose and comes out, chunky, maybe more thick liquid but the blood is darker looking like older dried blood and not a fresh red.
Perhaps cats have this too and it doesn;t happen every time so that would explain why you didn't see it before. You might try looking up the birthing process for cats online to see if that is normal or not. If she doesnt seem to be in pain and is eating and drinking normally, my guess would be that she is fine. If she was not okay and you had no money for a vet, I'd still call around to check if anyone can refer you to a low cost vet. An exam might be more affordable than you think and lay your mind at rest.

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21/m with 22/fm
Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. At the beginning everything was great; we spent alot of time talking or together so we got to know each other fast and fell in love in only 2 weeks. Lately (or for the past couple of months) she complains that I never talk to her and she misses talking till 4 in the morning like we use to; and since then we've become alittle distant. We're together like 10 hours out of the day (including sleeping for like 2 or 3) but we get on each others nerves alot so you can say we're both not satisfied with this. We love each other and are always there for each other in the good and bad times; it's only been a year and a half but we've gone through alot.
My question is have you girls ever had this probably with a boyfriend you thought was your soul mate? Or your boyfriend that is now your husband?
I know it's a stereotype that men don't like to talk very much so did you just put up with it or did it hurt your relationship?
What I really want is just to make her happy but talking about the same crap everyday doesn't make me wanna talk "how was your day"? "Same annoying girl anoyyed me" or about our money problems.
Men can answer to if you have something useful to say

i may be older but I went thru dating all over again after a divorce and did find a wonderful person to marry.
But here is what i learned about the talking and conversation in a relationship. Each new guy I met that seemed a decent person where there was some attraction/spark, always had good conversation with....or so it seemed while we were in the stage of telling each other our stories about each other, even child hood stuff. Once it was all told with no more stories to share, I discovered that some guys, I no longer had anything to talk to about because we just didn't have enough common interests, beliefs or goals in life. There are two major foundations on which every relationship needs to be built, one is friendship--being best friends, and the other is sexual compatibility, both like the same amount of sex, and there is such a great chemistry that you both always are desiring each other. To have one of the foundations without the other, the relationship won't last for long.
While dating my husband, after all our stories were told, we still found things to talk about buy usually the spring board for discussions was about something that one of us liked. Such as I like to decorate for Christmas and have Christmas traditions I observe every year. He doesn't get a kick out of decorating for any Holiday or birthday but he enjoys observing and supporting the enjoyment it brings others. So he's talked about how it upset his ex when he coulldn't be as into choosing ornaments or something as she was. I am happy as long as he wants to go along and enjoys watching me try to decide which new tree skirt I want. He might talk about it as far as, thats prettier but the other is made of more durable fabric and looks washable while the other isn't. This is normal conversation between two people depending on what they are doing but it isn't grand volume of words.
One reason for getting on each others nerves is not having any private 'bubble' time'. For some it may mean outside of the house. But if two people can be supportive and respectful of the other, it can happen even in a studio apartment. I find some time to be by myself simply from getting buried in a good book while he is taking the time to do household chores or take the dog for a walk or spend time on the pc. You don't say, "Oh I forgot to tell you what happened to day right when the partner is in the middle of their bubble time. Let them decide how long they need. But if you like, one can always set a timer for something like 90 mins. and see how that goes.
This is healthy and a valid need for two people. Sometimes, the need may be for you hanging out with a male friend for a couple hours without her along or her and girlfriends going to an antique doll exhibit, something that wouldnt interest you anyways and couldnt relate to as you never played with dolls. Get some self help book on relationships...the basic do's and don't no matter what your personality and whether you are a perfect match or not. Have her agree to work on all those points together and honor them in your relationship. If she is unwilling or after you've both applied your selves and you still see a disparity in the two of you match wise...then know its not ever going to be any better. Some relationships limp along imperfect as they are without either person being fully happy because the prospect of being alone or having to go through the dating process again is too scary so they stay together. You'll figure out what to do in the end. Just listen to your heart or your gut feeling. If you can feel totally at peace with any decision...don't do it. Good luck

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his ex is so disrespectful she always wants to know what is happening between he and i. anyone else having this problem? she is 53yrs old

Make sure that the issue is her poking her nose in your business too much and not that you feel threatened by a former female in his life no matter how much or how little you hear from her. If its your self confidence that needs work, work on it and all should turn out well. If it's a lack of how he confirms how special you are and why he's with you instead of her, well then let him know you need to hear it.
If it is as you say and she is a nosy, gossipy female that just can't stand the thought of him choosing another female over her for any reason, then you and he need to have a talk. I don;t know if most the contact is in person or via phone or text. But he can choose to not take as many calls and can also practice not answering her questions but answering with a question turned on her instead. So to "What did you two do this weekend?" He could draw on his experience of knowing something about her, maybe she likes shopping, gardening, getting out in the sun...and without answering her question he asks the same back. "So, it was hot this weekend, did you do some gardening or go to the beach? Or did you catch the half yearly sales at such and such department store this weekend as you always do. Just because someone asks, you don't have to offer back info to satisfy their curiosity. I don't personally have this issue as my husbands ex doesnt interfere. She was an orphan and as such has no close family she can turn to in a crisis to talk to when freaking out other than him, their daughter or Dad in law. It rarely happens and she is a nice person, they split as friends and thats all she is, like a sister he's on friendly terms with. So just talk it out with your guy. You need reassurance as to where you stand in importance in his life while at same time, it wouldn't hurt if he could tell you why he is no longer with her. Perhaps she never gave him any peace and quiet and personal bubble time while they were married. But he is still in the habit of answering her when she butts in.

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15/f Hi so I like this girl right and umm how can I start talking to her and ask her if she's gay???

There are fewer female lesbians who act and look like the butch type of lesbian. In most lesbian couples that I have seen, both the females look and act very feminine. Then again, a female may like both sexes equally as far as sexual attraction and be bi-sexual instead of lesbian. You can't know with out asking. Keep in mind that as this age, not everyone is comfortable yet exploring their sexuality and may not yet have come to grips with what they are feeling. So their answer at any given moment may not reflect where they are a handful of years from now.

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i have start my period and my breast doesn't grows

Everyone's different and it's all natural and okay. Some get periods before breast growth. Some get fully developed breasts with no sign of period yet. there are a few girls who don't see it until as late as 17 18 that I have heard about. But they are healthy and normal.
How your breasts will grow and end up looking finally will draw largely upon genetics. You may end up looking like mom but you can draw on genetics from your dads side of the family and end up with input from his mom or the other grandmother. So in reality you could at final result be larger or smaller than your mom. So it isn't fair to compare yourself to others. You will end up who you were meant to be. Theres a site I share with all young women worried about their breasts. Most the faceless pics of boobs of young women are are teens or 20s with some older breast feeding moms as well. It includes what variations there are in nipples and areola's as well besides breast shape and size. And all of it is considered normal. AND...the biggest most important fact of all, many wrote that no matter what their size, even the fairly flat girls had boyfriends or husbands who loved their chest and had no problems with it.

http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php

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So my bf broke up with me about a week ago saying he wasn't really ready and wasn't that interested he said we were friends for now but he blocked me on IG and doesn't respond to my kiks and he didnt defriend me on xbox. Then today, his cousin texted me and said to take him out of my bio (one of my back up IGs I haven't been on and I had him as a friend) he doesn't like you anymore. And all if this has made me so depressed to the point that I wanna kill myself because he really loved me and showed me that he cared and he changed my life and I really loved him. I really want him back so badly and i want him to talk to me but what should I do? Thanks.

(Btw: we were together for 3 months :/)

Not sure about your age but I will say that during the preteen thru college years, dating is all about learning. Learning what relationships is all about, how to communicate, gaining trust, respect, what you like and don't like in a guy, how to love yourself enough to not allow yourself to be treated badly by a guy...etc You can't learn all of that from one relationship. Whether its 3 mos or a year or 3 years, who is to say how long it takes to learn what you need to know and then move on to the next. Our problem is getting our hopes up to high when someone starts dating us. Dating someone doesnt mean that the two love each other necessarily. If you assume that a guy is in love with you because he asks you out or starts dating you, you have lots to learn yet dear. When you put things into perspective, you'll be able to enjoy the process of learning about relationships with the opposite sex instead of fearing getting hurt or moping around after a dating relationship dissolves. It doesn;t mean you failed, it means one or both weren't ready for that level of relationship or you just plain weren't right for each other. I am not addressing your depression because once you set your mind and thoughts on the right track and understand the relationship process, you won't ever have this issue again...yes you may for a while feel hurt if you cared about someone who didn't feel the same but there is nothing on earth anyone can do to force someone to like or love you. It takes away a persons free will and God has given that to all of us. I have written something about the steps of relationships that I will post for you now along with a link to a site on dating, relationships and sex by a college age female who is very good at what she shares.

The Normal steps to a Relationship


Attraction: Whether just plain looks or a pheremone attraction. It doesn't mean that either one "Likes" the other yet so it is important to go beyond the staring at stage to conversation.


Conversation: Now you are talking and find that you like the persons sense of humor, how they think, their beliefs or way of living life...this is the teaser...either you decide you want to learn more in depth about the person or you decide you don't have enough interest from the conversation to want to learn any more. Someone not interested stops talking to the other and looks elsewhere. If both want to learn more about the other, you start dating.


Dating: Dating is not all about calendar appointments to go to a movie or out to dinner, or out dancing. It is a time to learn what you like and don't like about the opposite sex. Find out more about the person you have interest in which happens only if you start seeing each other regularly making it a conscious choice. If there are too many dislikes, start over again with someone new. Or take this to the next level. Usually a move to being a steady couple happens automatically without any conscious thought.

Steady relationship: This is meant to be a time where you have plenty of opportunity to spend in each others presence getting to see how they handle themselves 24/7 under all sorts of conditions, their good days, and bad days. Many choose to live together at this time. There isn't much that can be hidden when you live with someone, like their housekeeping habits, what their usual diet is, any mood swings, and by now there should be a good idea of what their normal sexual habits and needs are. You don't want to get matched up with someone who is the opposite libido level of yourself.

Committed relationship: Here there are vows and oaths made to each other, a professing of mutual love and devotion for each other and it goes beyond words to living it out daily in how one treats their partner. This person will be your life mate with a marriage license or without one.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lXpUr7aXV2c

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQqLhp0hcJg

Good luck dear.

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