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my boyfriend's ex wife wont stay out of our lives
his ex is so disrespectful she always wants to know what is happening between he and i. anyone else having this problem? she is 53yrs old
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Make sure that the issue is her poking her nose in your business too much and not that you feel threatened by a former female in his life no matter how much or how little you hear from her. If its your self confidence that needs work, work on it and all should turn out well. If it's a lack of how he confirms how special you are and why he's with you instead of her, well then let him know you need to hear it.
If it is as you say and she is a nosy, gossipy female that just can't stand the thought of him choosing another female over her for any reason, then you and he need to have a talk. I don;t know if most the contact is in person or via phone or text. But he can choose to not take as many calls and can also practice not answering her questions but answering with a question turned on her instead. So to "What did you two do this weekend?" He could draw on his experience of knowing something about her, maybe she likes shopping, gardening, getting out in the sun...and without answering her question he asks the same back. "So, it was hot this weekend, did you do some gardening or go to the beach? Or did you catch the half yearly sales at such and such department store this weekend as you always do. Just because someone asks, you don't have to offer back info to satisfy their curiosity. I don't personally have this issue as my husbands ex doesnt interfere. She was an orphan and as such has no close family she can turn to in a crisis to talk to when freaking out other than him, their daughter or Dad in law. It rarely happens and she is a nice person, they split as friends and thats all she is, like a sister he's on friendly terms with. So just talk it out with your guy. You need reassurance as to where you stand in importance in his life while at same time, it wouldn't hurt if he could tell you why he is no longer with her. Perhaps she never gave him any peace and quiet and personal bubble time while they were married. But he is still in the habit of answering her when she butts in.
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I believe it's OK for him to keep in contact with his ex, and maybe don't tell her about your everyday life, but I'm sure she would like to know if you became married, etc. If you want to stop all contact, however, that responsibility would be your boyfriend's. --hope I helped.
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Your husband needs to be the one to tell her to leave you both alone. If ahe refuses and is becoming an everyday burden then you may have no choice to give her a warning, If ahe don't stop then go to the police.
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