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how to not act like youre in high school
apparently my mom still tries to treat me like im still in high school even though im 24 almost 25 which is not a teenager and i inderstand how stupid high school kids seem to act as in listening to stupid music watching stupid and corny movies and go to stupid drinking parties and yes i understand people in their early 20s still act that way but i do not nor did i ever and im sick of her saying that teenagers are my age group when theyre most likely not so anyway how can you end it and be aware of it please help
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It took me several reads to understand this question: who says (apparently).
For one you need to stop worrying about this. You know, not trying to be nasty, but many people your age have bigger fish to fry: mortgage to pay,
advancing in their career.
As long as their mother loves them-its not really a concern.
If you want to act older, have goals. Do well in your job. Engage in politics. Read intelligent books. Though many teenagers do this already.
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I don't believe the problem is you; the problem most likely is mom. For one thing it is hard for some parents to stop parenting. Now by that I mean we as parents never truly stop parenting. What I mean is the simple fact that we are a generation older says we are wiser and more mature then our children by age alone. We have experienced things our children have yet to experience. When they do they should be able to turn to us for advise and assistance. This is part of parenting too.
The first part of being a parent should stop somewhere, hopefully between a child's 18th and 22nd birthday when they hopefully are ready and able to leave the nest and stand on their own two feet. This is what the first part of parenting is all about. Preparing our children to be adults. Teaching them right from wrong and how to live in our society.
If I am reading what you have written correctly this is were your problem with your mother is at this point. She has not learned to switch for lets call it initial parenting to maintenance parenting. This is unfortunate but not rare, their are a lot of parents like her.
If you live at home, which is unfortunately the case for many young adults your age. You mom may see that her initial parenting is not over since you are not yet ready to stand on your own to feet. She does not realize or does not want to realize that the economy of today and the job market it has caused is more the blame then you not being ready. Many parents also feel if you live under my roof you are subject to my rules and my call it interventions.
Not knowing just what your situation is it is hard to offer exact advice. You are an adult, for reasons of just why your mother is not seeing that I truly can't say. If you are living in her house you need to find someplace of your own even if it is a shared apartment with a friend. Doing this takes mom out of your day to day life. It does not mean she won't continue to say what she is saying.
It just may mean you must take the bull by the horns and tell your mother something like the following. "Mom I am and adult." "I'm s5 years old and you have raised me well." "I know how to pick my friend and I do not appreciate being treated like I am in high school." "I have things I like to do, see, watch, eat and drink and friends I like to be with."
If sex is any part of her nagging. You can also throw in that at 25; you are old enough to have a sex life if you want one. Your sex life is not something you're going to discuss with her.
If you wish to write me with more detailed information on what is happening between you and your mother. Whether or not you live at home with a little more detail of your problems. I may be able to offer you better advice.
Remember this one thing of what I have written. Some parents find it very hare to switch between initial parenting to maintenance parenting. If this is the real problem between you then you need to find away to help mom make the switch.
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Eh your description of a "typical" high school teen is kind of biased and stereotypical. We aren't all like that. Anyways, parents normally like that, they can't seem to believe the fact that their children are growing up so fast. Your mom is like that because in general, it's hard for older adults to adjust to treating their children like adults when they have spent their whole life nurturing them with love. It's okay, my mom still treats me like a 5 year old sometimes.
Tell your mom that you have grown up and matured and you don't need her treating you like you depend on her. Just not in the way where you wanna completely push her out of the way.
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