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My mom won't let me....
I really don't know what's wrong with my mom. She won't let me shave because she said that "you can barely see it on my skin" which all my friends tell me they do. And I want to shave so I can wear skirts and strapless tops!
Also my mom won't let me wear makeup! EVERYONE at school does! She said that " I don't need it, plus I'm in 7th grade" but I know I'm pretty and don't need it but I dont even want as much makeup as everyone. I just want colored lipgloss and eyeliner because my eyelashes are already long. How can I convince my mom to let me wear makeup. (my dad already approves)
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You should talk to your mom about the shaving thing. I think 7th grade is a good time to start learning how to shave. Plus, it's good hygiene. So just sit her down and talk to her. Don't be like, "Everyone is shaving" or "Dad said I can!" Leave dad out of it. Just explain your reasoning, and hopefully she'll let you.
You're in 7th grade and you want to wear strapless tops? I can understand tank tops but not strapless.
Anyways, as for the make up, you should probably start slow. It's dumb to start doing someone just because everyone else is. My mom didn't let me start wearing make up till I was in high school.
Well it went like this..
7th & 8th grade I wore light colored eye shadow.
9th grade I just wore eyeliner on my lid.
10th graded I wore lip gloss and started wearing eyeliner on both top and bottom.
11th I wore mascara and foundation.
That's probably how I would have it if I had a daughter. Make up can screw up your skin so that's why it's better to start later.
But definitively talk to her about shaving. If you really do want to start wearing make up, don't start with eyeliner. (You'll look back and be grateful) Start slow and maybe let her pick what you can start with.
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First do not try to pit mom against dad. As a parent I can tell you the loser in that situation is always going to be the child. On this you will just have to trust me as I am old enough to be your grandfather and have been around the block in these situations more than a few times.
Just when to allow a young girl to shave her arm pits and wear makeup is one of the hardest decisions we as parents have to make. Most of the time we base our decisions on our own experiences. Meaning when did our parents allow us to do these things.
Here again I'm older now and a bit wiser than when my children are or when they were your age. So I can offer them some advice on raising their children. Ultimately in the end it is their decision as to what to allow their children and when.
As for shaving I would say that once a girl enters puberty it is time to teach her how to shave her arm pits and allow her to do so. If you are growing hair in your arm pits you have entered puberty even if you have not yet gotten a period.
Times have changed greatly since mom was your age and so has the style of clothing you wear today. Some of the clothing you wear today she had to be older before it was in style for her to wear.
Do you see the argument I am making for you to have with mom. It is not really an argument that you should have but a discussion. Moms are busier today then her mom was when she was your age. As much as mom may think she is totally aware of what goes on in your world I just do not think it is possible if she is a working mom.
The one thing you do not what to do is to say, "all my friends are allowed to do so." That will get you an age old reply that goes something like this: "Just because Jane jumps off the bridge does not me you have to so as well."
My suggestion is you sit down calmly with your mother and discuss what is most important. I would think that would be shaving your arm pits. Save shaving anywhere else for another discussion. Bring up the points I made as they are, I believe good ones. Then move on to makeup.
I think you are fighting a losing battle on the eye makeup so try to settle for lip gloss. I think the right shade for someone your age is appropriate now as it will help define your natural beauty. More importantly you are in puberty and it is important to protect you lips in the more humidified air of todays schools. Not all schools were air conditions or air conditioned as well as the newer schools we have today. It is hard to argue against protecting your lips from chapping because of the air conditioning in school.
Good luck and let me know how you make out with mom. Just remember to stay calm and discus not argue or scream.
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Just because others wear makeup, doesn't mean you need to conform with them and do it too. Honestly, if you see yourself as pretty without makeup, leave it natural. You can wear makeup occasionally but don't make it a habit at a young age. I have friends who got so used to wearing eyeliner everyday that they feel so ugly when they aren't wearing any eyeliner, and it's pretty detrimental.
And about shaving, true, having hair in certain places is pretty embarrassing, and it's human nature. She's probably afraid that you will cut yourself when shaving. Tell her that you will be fine, oh and get a 5-bladed shaver because they glide better and makes your skin smooth. But I wouldn't recommend shaving your legs because leg hair is generally thinner, so the more you shave, the thicker the hair gets.
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Eyeliner is a very defined makeup. I've worn makeup since 6th grade and I've learned eyeliner can be harsh. Unless used in a gray or brown shade. Or use black on your bottom lid not your top because your mother will deffinitly say no to that. (this is coming from a 17 year old) but to help ease your mom into it maybe try it on one day. If anything mascara will do the trick . I know you said you have long eyelashes but mascara will define them and make them look thicker and you'll look different in a feminine cute way... And try soft lip glosses. My cousin is in 10th grade and isn't aloud to wear eyeliner because it's a harsh defining makeup. My suggestion... Take small steps into the makeup world with soft colors so it doesn't take away from your natural beauty. Explain it to your mom you just want simple makeup nothing harsh. And to the shaving... Your in 7th grade you should be able to shave. Ask her to show you how .. That's what my mother did. Tell her you feel self conscience about the hair and you want to feel confident wearing a skirt not embarrassed. I hope some of this works for you. Best of luck!
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