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I need help... How do I make myself prettier?
I am sooo ugly , how do I make myself prettier ? Im a female 14
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God made you in his own image.
You are prety the way you are.
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Okay. First of all, You saying your ugly is your first problem and you need to fix that. You have to believe your beautiful before you can make anyone else believe it. There's no product out there that compares to true natural beauty. You need to realize that bitches are going to hate, but you just have to let it go. Just ignore it. I will tell you again...THERE'S NO UGLY PERSON IN THIS WORLD! NOONE! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! When you say your not, that makes you look bad and makes you feel bad because you don't feel good about yourself and if you can't do that then you can't trick anyone to think your beautiful with any makeup or any product because nothing compares to natural sincere beauty!
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I believe a lot of what Dragonflymagic said is very good advice. If you are comparing yourself to actresses and models then stop. What you see is a lot of makeup and airbrushing to get the look the photographer or makeup artist wants to present.
I once worked for a major U.S. Airline. One day Ann Margret was booked on one of our flights. As the Special Representative for the airline at that airport it was my job to greet her and escort through check-in and to the VIP lounge. That day she was dressed to the nines with hair and makeup to perfection.
The terminal came to a standstill as we walked through to the VIP lounge. A week or so later she returned on a late evening flight with no notice that she was coming in. I happened to notice her coming of the flight. She was dressed in a sweat shirt and pedal pushers no makeup and her hair was not done. No one seemed to notice her other than me. She was far from the beautiful person that graced the pages of magazines or the movie screens. She was ordinary. I doubt anyone would believe she was Ann Margret.
Moral of this story; don't judge yourself by what others look like for beauty is only skin deep. That what we can see can be altered to look better than what is really there.
Right now you are going through puberty, which for a female causes some really radical changes to her entire body. How you look today is not how you will look in a year or 3 years so stop putting yourself down.
When older girls write to me with similar questions I tell them that facial or bodily attraction; call it sexual attraction only goes so far in forming relationships. Insert all the dumb blonde jokes you know here. At some point you need to communicate with each other on another level and this is where a persons true beauty comes through. The inner beauty that makes us unique. This is what causes people to fall in love and make life commitment to one another.
In other words, beauty, sexual attraction and sex will only take a relationship so far. If you cannot communicate and I mean have deeply meaningful discussions on a variety of subjects then relationships are doomed to failure.
IF you are saying how can that be, my parents hardly talk to one another. This is because they have taken their relationship to an even higher level. One of comfort and trust. They do not need a lot of communication in their relationship. Though when they do talk or discuss things it is with a trust and understanding that comes from years of living with each other and knowing each others likes and dislike.
In short your not ugly you only perceive yourself to be based on a false sense of what beauty is. Forget what you think beauty is and just be the best you that you can be.
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Its all about confidence.
Don't worry- I'm 18 now but when I was your age I used to cover my hair over my face for about 6 months in public-I thought I was ugly!
Then I realized, there's a society ideal that everyone has to look like beyonce or whatever to be pretty.
I know how hard it is to not try to conform to this sterotype. When you're 14 you don't know who you are-so you copy the celebs so much that if you don't look like them you're ugly. Wrong.
Here are my top tips to make yourself prettier:
1) Beauty comes from within. Tell yourself you're beautiful everyday before you put makeup on/go to bed. Soon you'll start to believe it. If YOU don't like yourself, how can you expect anyone else to like you?
2) Find your favourite feature on your face. Work to enhance it. For me its my eyes. Do you have nice lips? Eyes? Or even it could be your hair. Make that the focus point.
3) Help others. Despite it being against our survival instincts slightly, helping others makes us very happy. If you feel happy, you'll loo happy-and very very pretty. It also makes you realise that there's more to life than worrying about looks, when you help people less fortunate than yourself.
4) Do you have a talent/hobby? If not, find one. It'll keep your mind off desiring to look good, and will keep you grounded.
5) Eat healthily and in the mornings opt for water not coffee. Caffiene dries out the skin, water makes it glow, and at the same time stimulates the metabolism.
6) Copy a celebrity style that has the same body shape as you. This is different to copying what they look like-its simply a fun way to learn about what colours/styles do and do not work for you. From then on, when you shop, look for say, pink clothes if that suits you, or floaty blouses-specifics rather than fashion trends.
7) Get good grades. Not trying to be patronizing,but when you're waiting for your results from major exams when you're older, the last thing you care about is what you look like. Concentrate on your studies now, because hey then you may actually be able to afford to look great in the future.
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Usually when someone thinks they are not pretty enough, it is because they are comparing themselves to something else.
So my question would be, do you even know exactly what image you are trying to live up to?
Is it some girls at school? Is it what you see for actresses, models and other celebs on TV and in magazines?
ONe point I'd like to make is that you aren't even done growing yet. Your body will still continue to change some.
Also, think about think question: What is it that you believe makes a person popular?
Is it based 100% on looks?
Is it based on how rich they are/ what things they have or own?
Is it based on their confidence and self image
Is it based on their personal hobbies and likes?
Is it based on their personality?
There are things you can do to boost your confidence in how pretty you look on the outside. All girls seem to get caught up in it, hair styles, makeup, nails, clothes and their accessories are the friends that hang out by your side. Guess what? Is this is your only idea of beauty, you are going to really panic when you get older and you don't have youthful skin anymore, fine wrinkles, a different body shape from having kids, some grey hairs, etc.
The actual fact is: not all peoplefrom your age onthrough senior citizens are going to be attracted to the exact same thing. For example, some guys growing up with a mom who was a bit chubby to overweight, is either going to feel that is beautiful and what he wants in a girl, a thin girl feels too fragile to him, or he will want to look for the opposite, a thin girl to experience something different. Some guys are superficial and will never really truly love a female because all they are interested in is skin deep, the barbie girl or model look with the botox, plastic surgery, fake boobs. You don't want to attract a guy like that because they will be nothing but constant heartache. And some guys, are interested in the "real woman" the natural look. When I met my 2nd husband, he asked me if I would consider no longer coloring my hair and letting any grey hairs show. My hair is now natural and guess what? Even though I wasn't sure I was ready to sport grey hair, I am very happy because I have a man who really truly loves it, compliments me all the time and plays with my hair. I even notice men of all ages looking at me appreciatively. It feels good to know one can be themselves and there will always be people who find you attractive to them.
Thats what I want to see happen for you dear. If you would like to talk and ask more, just write to my inbox. Just accept yourself as you are. Make some good choices on clothing colors depending on your skin color and styles depending on your body type. Right now, being a happy , friendly, approachable, outgoing, self confident is going to speak more loudly to the right kind of guys. The ones who appreciate a real female, not one all made up. Good luck
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