|
I Can't Stop Talking About My Crushes, and Everyone Hates It!
I'm a girl who is thirteen years old. I have always been somewhat annoying, but the most annoying thing I do is talk about my crushes nonstop. Everyone really hates it, especially my sister and my dad. I try to stop, but I just can't!
Right now, I have a crush on a girl I met at camp and a teacher. (I don't care that they are girls . . . I'm not the type of person who cares about gender.) The thing they have in common is that I might not see them again -- at least I won't see them any time soon. I'm going to a new school next year, so I won't be at the same school as my teacher. The girl I met at camp said she'll be there next year, but that is a long time away. I think the main reason why I talk about them is because I miss them so much, but nobody seems to understand that.
I don't want everyone to think I'm an annoying weirdo because of the fact that I talk about my crushes so much. Any advice on how to stop would be appreciated. Thank you.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Hey, you aren't an annoying weirdo! You sound like me when I was younger. And even now when I'm excited about something, I tend to talk about it a lot.
Unfortunately people do get annoyed if you talk about the same thing incessantly. Maybe keep a diary so that you can get all of your thoughts and excitement out on paper and whenever you feel like talking about it just write it down instead. You could also try and keep yourself busy so that your mind isn't always on how much you like her. A year is a long time to dwell on a crush and during that time you may find someone else you like.
And remember, your family is there to support you but you have to be courteous to them as well.
Best of wishes!
]
No one wants all the details about crushes or even the solid relationships. As long as its a healthy relationship, no one is going to care enough to want to hear all your thoughts and feelings.
Does it mean all your thoughts and feelings are not normal and shouldei stop? Not really. Why? Because it's all part of the experience through your teen and college age years, of dating and relationships.
We all have to start somewhere. And the first time we "feel" something for another person because our bodies are going through puberty and have the hormonal changes, it's wonderful...but keep in mind "It's Your Experience" not everyone elses.
So what do you do instead of telling everyone else about it?
Try what I did at your age, keep a diary. I had a diary, one for every year starting at age 13 and the last year was when I was 20 and got married. Actually that was a mistake, too soon and not enough experience to know better.
But the fact is, whether writing in a book with pages diary, or whether keeping one on line on your pc., it is a wonderful memory you can go back to and no one has to listen to you talk about your crushes again. And it actually works to help your need to tell someone and express what you are feeling, even if its only a diary.
]
When you talk about them so much, you begin to fantasize about them.
Perhaps if you realize that they'll never be as good as your fantasies, that'd be a start.
You'll drive people away if you carry on, just because everyone likes to talk about themselves, but other people don't nessesarily care.
You can either chose to stop speaking about them, or as a compromise make sure you remain less wrapped up in your business and more caring about your family and their lives.
Humans are hedonistic-as long as you give them the same attention as they give you, it shouldn't matter. Whereas if you only talk about these girls, and don't ask how your friends are etc, that's when they'll go.
The more you try not to think about something, the more you actually think about it.
Don't try to not think about these girls, but give yourself a certain time of day to think about them.
]
More Questions: |