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Do men come back to you faster if you ignore them?
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Hello!
Being a woman, it's hard to speak for men, especially all men. Remember that despite hearing, "They're all the same!" They actually aren't. So what may be true for one, may not be for another.
I think the more important question here is, if you have to play games, why do you want him back? I think the best thing to do, if he's gone, is let him go. Take the high road and don't play into any childish games.
Realize that the relationship wasn't what it should have been and look forward to the one that will be. In all honesty, I can't imagine how healthy of a relationship you two could have if he only comes back because he was challenged by the fact that you ignored him.
If he's going to come back it should be because he realized what he had, because he misses you and loves you. Not because he likes the challenge of a game. That's very unhealthy and you deserve better than that.
Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck! May God bless you!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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Maybe the question should be "Why did he leave in the first place?"
When you say come back to me, that would make me assume there was a solid relationship to begin with, that you were in a steady dating relationship. Anything before that, no matter what level the interest is only to discover what you may like about the other person, going beyond just the looking at each other to the talking stage to then dating to get to know a little more and then if the person is still interested, maybe then living together. I don't know at what stage he left. Think back over how things were going. Where there any signs that he was restless, or not totally happy with the relationship. How open were you both to discussing the things that needed to be worked on in the relationship? Is it really a good thing to hope he comes back, or would that be prolonging something that was never meant to be.
I know it gets hard to see clearly, cus I have been there, my heart once involved didn't want to leave a guy in even a blatantly abusive relationship, twice. But I finally figured it out. It hurts when you feel a love connected to someone who doesn't deserve it if thats the case, or even if he's a good guy. Two really great people could be together and can force the relationship to work even if that spark, or chemistry is missing or very low in sexual compatibility. Perhaps thats why why he left, he is seeking a stronger sexual chemistry. I dont know dear, you didn't say much. Until I know the reasons for him leaving, I really can't give constructive advice as to what to do to deal with the problem that led to it.
If you want, you can go to my site and write to my inbox. Just adding to your question, I can't necessarily go back in and edit and answer.
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Well, from a guy's perspective I can tell you that there is no formula. Some guys do in fact respond to being ignored (for whatever reason) and some guys do not. I guarantee you that it would not work on me, but that being said I know some guys it might just work on.
Anyway, you have to base your decision on the guy you are dealing with.
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It depends on why they aren't with you to begin with. With my boyfriend, if we get in a fight about something that HE did, then usually if I ignore him, he will be the first to come to me and apologize. However, if he is mad or annoyed with me, then me ignoring him doesn't really do anything. Usually I have to go and make things right.
If you're talking about the pre-relationship "hard to get" thing, then, from what i hear from my guy friends, they hate that. You might need a guy's perspective on this one, but if a guy is interested in you and you just ignore them, usually you just come off as rude. It all depends on the guy though!
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