Seriously, I have been through it all. You name it, I've been there, done that, seen those things... I've always been told I'm a good listener, and have always been told I'm a great friend who gives amazing advice. I don't know how true that is, I mean after all, I'm no doctor or therapist. But I am caring, and I do want to help. Maybe that's all that really matters. But most importantly: I will not judge you! You are my equal here!
Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you. - Deuteronomy 31:6
Gender: Female Age: 25 Member Since: August 8, 2013 Answers: 19 Last Update: September 11, 2013 Visitors: 2729
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From past 2 years m suffering from bad smell in my mouth it smells like alcohol and some times very unplesant smell. I m not able to speak to any one going close to them for this reason I just keep quite in the places where I have to talk. I consulted dentist too he recommended to use a mouth wash but it works for only for few hours. I dint had this problem at all I use to go close and talk to my friends, relatives etc.... but now M not able to go close and talk to my own mother. I drink lot of water eat greens . I wanna good suggestion that will really work.
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Hi!
Let's start with the simple and obvious things. You need to brush often. You're supposed to brush your teeth after every meal, but at least twice a day, for two minutes at a time. (If you're a busy person, keep a toothbrush in your work desk, gym locker, backpack, whatever, so that you can sneak off after meals and brush in the day.) Also brush your tongue. Food particles will leech onto your taste buds, and promote the growth of bacteria (which causes the smell) on your tongue.
Flossing is also incredibly important. It gets the plaque and left over food off of and out from in between your teeth and gums where your toothbrush couldn't reach. Remember, any leftover food promotes the growth of bacteria which is where most people get bad breath. Flossing also helps protect you from heart disease, who would've thought, right?
Another cause of bad breath is digestion. As foods are digested and absorbed into your bloodstream, they're eventually carried to your lungs and smells are given off in your breath. If you eat foods with strong odors, brushing, flossing and even using mouthwash will merely just cover up the odor temporarily. The odor will not go away completely until the foods have passed through your body. (I loovvee onions, and whenever I cook dinner and use an entire onion, I pay for it ALL day the next day and no amount of brushing seems to help.)
You're also supposed to replace your toothbrush every couple of months. So don't forget to change out that old yucky brush from time to time, and be sure you're drinking plenty of water. It has a ton of health benefits, but it will keep your mouth moist and help wash away the smelly bacteria in your mouth between meals. Chewing gum apparently also helps because it causes you to produce more saliva which washes away bacteria. Also, the minty ones help to mask any smell.
If changing up your diet, drinking lots of water and flossing and brushing three times a day don't help, I'd say talk to your dentist about it again because it might mean you have a gum disease or something of the like.
Good luck and may God bless your situation!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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Hii .... 14/F. I got this song on my computer and it was about a girl who's dad has died.* so here's my story... When I was 3 years old my mom and dad got divorsed because my dad is a alcoholic and he was allways like abousing us and most of the time we slept lockked up in the bathroom*..* so my mom met my stephdad and we bacame very lose bacause I never had a dad when I was 10 he died of cancer...* it was so bad I had to get help.* it worked but someyimes I just really miss my stephdad..* and I don't want to cry bacause my mom don't really understand why I'm crying..* I really miss him..* what should I do? And there's no one I can talk to..* (link)
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I understand what you're going through. I lived with my great grandmother until the day she died of breast cancer. We were very close. It was eleven years ago, and I still think about her and hurt. I still cry sometimes, too. My childhood was also rocky.
Each year that passes will make dealing with it easier, but I wish I had known I could turn to God back then. It would have made everything so much easier. I was so hurt and felt so alone, and like you, I didn't talk to anyone about it. I'd needed help and wanted a psychiatrist, but my mom told me no. So I literally talked to no one.
I harbored so much for so many years because of it. When I finally came to God (just this year), everything made so much more sense. I'm finally able to let it go, know she's at peace, and I can be at peace, too. Sure, sometimes I think about her, and I miss her so so much, but by putting my faith in the finished works of Jesus Christ, I can know happily and peacefully, that I'll see her again one day.
All you have to do is pray to God to take away your pains. Ask him to help you through your sufferings and help bring you to peace. It's okay to grieve, the Bible even tells you that you must grieve, it's very important to do. But when you grieve and call out to the Lord, He hears your pain and eases it for you. All you have to do is pray for Him to do it. He's here for you always.
I don't know if you're religious or not, but here are some verses that really help me through tough times. Maybe they can help you, too.
"Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest." --Matthew 11:28
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. --Matthew 5:4
(This is one of my favorites...)
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through the fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. --Isaiah 43:2
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." --Jeremiah 29:11
May you turn to the Lord and ask him for his help, and may He bless you greatly!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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Hey everyone! 14/f and i went to bed last night with a bit of tenderness and soreness in my left boob.. it bugged me all night. I woke up in the morning to have a shower and looked at what was causing the problem. (Sorry if this is weird and graphic) but a small peice of my nipple is sliced open and im not sure what to do.. like a tiny peice but it hurts like a biotch. To stop the problem, i took a bandaid and put it over y nipple to stop the peice from flapping open and shut and causing severe pain.. will this heal naturally? shouls i keep the bandaid over the wound? (link)
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Hey there!
Ouch! I'm cringing at the thought of a torn nipple, I'm so sorry for your pain! Do you recall anything happening to cause that to happen? Anyway, yes, it should heal naturally. You need to be sure to keep it clean. Wash it every day and if you get sweaty, wash it again.
I'm not sure what you should put on it if anything, just because, as long as you're keeping it clean and keeping a bandaid on it to hold it together, you don't necessarily need a medication for it. Maybe some Neosporin or something of the like? I'd probably just put whatever we had laying around for cuts and scrapes on it, or on the bandaid before you apply it if your nipple is too tender to the touch.
Much larger and worse wounds heal naturally, so I wouldn't worry about it. Just keep it clean and with a bandaid to hold it together so it will grow back onto itself. And, be more careful! Wouldn't want that to happen again!
May God heal you quickly!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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Ok this is a random question but what's your favorite soda to drink? (link)
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Hey! Okay I used to looovee sodas. If I have a migraine and need some caffeine, I'll have a Dr. Pepper. They're pretty high in caffeine. So are Mt. Dews which I used to like, but they're just way too caffeinated for me. Other than that, I enjoy a non-caffeinated Root Beer from time to time or a Cream Soda.
It's pretty rare that I pop one open though. They're really bad for you. Sometimes I go through little periods of time where I crave them/something sweet, so I'll buy a brand of sodas called "Blue Sky". They have one called "Creamy Root Beer", it's delicious. And it's natural without all the nasty crap that's in regular sodas, way less sugar, etc. So you don't have to feel bad or unhealthy for drinking them. They also don't cause me to have pimple breakouts when I accidentally have too many because they're so good. :P
Good luck finding something new for your taste buds and God bless!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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My brother's girlfriend invited me to a birthday party for her son, he will be 1. I'm not sure what kind of things to get a 1 year old. He just started walking, and he isn't much interested in his baby toys any more, but I don't think 1 is old enough to appreciate older kid toys like action figures and such. Maybe I'm thinking too hard about it but I don't want to show up with nothing.
I don't have kids and haven't had to buy gifts for younger kids so I just need some ideas! (link)
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I have a three year old, and my favorite kids of things for her to get are educational toys, that are of course for her age. When you go to the store, look on the toy tags/boxes, they'll be labeled to say what ages they are for. So just get something that says 1+ or 12 mo+.
You could always ask her what kinds of things he's into. You'd be surprised at how young kids can start liking Blues Clues and other media related things that have toys and videos and such. You can also never go wrong with bubbles, and even bath toys like bath crayons or bath water color changers or bath foam soap (which I don't actually bathe my daughter with, but it's fun for her to play with in the tub - making bath time fun is important.)
Good luck finding something and God bless!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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I just started cutting myself... I wanna stop but nothing helps me feel better. what should I do? (link)
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I used to cut myself, too. When I was in high school. I think the first step to quitting, is figuring out why you're doing it. I did it because I had a really rough home life and because I had a lot of issues with myself. It reminded me that things were real, that I had control over me. I also liked the pain. The physical pain felt better than the mental lashings I took so constantly from others and from myself.
I also wanted attention from it. From anyone that would care about it, anyone would have done. The important thing to remember is that you're going to grow up, things will get better, and you're going to regret all of those ugly scars. I do. It's also embarrassing when someone asks how I got a particular scar (I used to cut all over) and I have to admit that I was once so weak and mentally unstable that I took razor blades and knives to myself and carved up my own flesh.
You also have to realize that while nothing else is helping you to feel better right now, that cutting isn't really helping either and it has long lasting effects that you don't want.
When I stopped cutting, I'd started getting really into art. I wasn't very good at first, but I got better. It allowed me to express myself way better than I could by cutting. It also got me the attention I craved, in exactly the ways I wanted it to, since my art could be anything I wanted and express whatever I wanted it to.
The day I realized I hadn't cut in a long time, I was surrounded by friends, people who had come to accept me for who I was, flaws and all, and loved me and loved being around me, even when I was being an emotional pain in the ass.
So, stop it. Find a hobby, art is a great way to direct those feelings you're having. Find some friends, or new ones, and make it a point to get together with them often. And, remember that things will get better. God has turned my life around in ways you wouldn't believe.
Prayer is so important. You might not believe it, and I'm not trying to force you to if you don't. But I'm telling you, reach out to Him. Just ask Him if He's there for you, pray to Him to help you find a happiness and to quit mutilating yourself, to help you find your way. You'll be pleasantly amazed at how He answers your calling. He's there, He's just waiting for you to realize it.
I'm not telling you that you're going to pray for a perfect life without any troubles and that He's going to give it to you, so don't get me wrong. You have to have hardships and pains to become a person who can relate to others and to have wisdom and compassion. You just don't have to go through all of that alone, you know?
God will bless you, if you ask Him to!
Good luck!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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I have never had a job in my life, apart from working for my grandparents on the weekend, doing yard work and helping fix houses and stuff. My mom has been paying for my college and an apartment for me for the past two years. She pays for my car insurance, cell phone, pretty much everything except my power bill, food (most of the time), gas for my car, and my internet.
In another two quarters I will be out of school. By this time, I want to be 100% self-sufficient. I want to have a job in graphic design (or something along those lines). I possibly want to move away from here. I know that I'll miss my family and that they'll miss me, but I believe that getting a fresh start will be good for me. I don't have very many friends here anyways.
Any advice for me? What are some steps I should take? (link)
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Nothing is out of reach if you work hard and pray. The economy is pretty tough right now, so it might be a lot harder than you think to find your perfect job so quickly. Also, people even with degrees these days are having to start in positions they're overqualified for and work their way up.
My mom did the same things for me. She still pays for my car insurance and my cell phone, and I'm 25, married with a three year old. It's such a blessing to have a parent that's able to do that for you, you know? I don't know where I'd be without my mom.
I'm not sure how you're paying for the things you said your mom doesn't pay for, since you said you've never had a job, but I guess that's irrelevant anyway. Are you going to school full time? The only way I can think of that would get you paying your own bills, is by working.
It's really easy to get a job as a waiter, or working as a cashier at your local grocery store or Walmart or something. It will be a lot, going to school and working. But tons of people do it; they don't have any other choice you know? Then, ween yourself off of your mom's money.
On your first paycheck, pay your own cell phone and car bill. On your next paycheck, pay your college payment. (Of course I don't know how and when your bills actually come in, but you get the idea.) You'll be paying all of your own bills in no time.
It would be even better if you could set up a portfolio (if you don't already have one in the works) for your graphic designs and make yourself a website. (Just Google free websties and find yourself a free and easy one.) Then you could be promoting yourself already, maybe even get some side jobs doing some independent graphic design?
Anyway, if you didn't get a paying job and perhaps found an internship somewhere (some of those actually pay) where if you do well, they hire you on after a certain amount of time, then you could find one in a place that does graphic design, and potentially have your dream job at least in the works by the time you graduate.
My brain has been all over the place trying to think up something that might work for you, so I hope this has all made sense and will help you, at least help you make a plan anyway. Also, like I stated before, prayer is number one. We can do the impossible if we just ask the Lord to provide for us and help us beat our obstacles. Ask Him to show you what to do and you'll be surprised how He reveals your path to you.
Not saying He's going to make it easy for you. Sometimes things need to be trying and difficult. That's how He shapes us. Anyway, I hope I haven't been too confusing, lol.
Good luck and may God bless you!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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ok so i became friends with this guy a few weeks ago before school started. I sort of admitted to myself Thursday/Friday that i liked him. I think he was flirting with me today, I'm not sure.
So i was on my way to 3rd period (music) when i felt someone shove my backpack not in a rude way but like a "I want your attention!" sort of way. i turned around and saw him, he smiled/waved and took a different route to the same class. and he poked me a few times.
But today at lunch i was walking with him to lunch and we sat down with out friends. I left for a little bit with a girl friend to talk and came back and he was gone. I asked his friend where he went and he said he thought my crush went to go find us. I was sitting down and felt a pair of hands around my waist and squeeze gently. Causing me to squeak. I turned around and he was laughing/smiling at me. He was standing next to the group but next to me more particularlly.
So does he like me? Or flirting? I don't know, Advice would be appreciated! (link)
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Well, it seems like both! He's definitely flirting with you, and while some guys can't help but to flirt with every girl, it sounds like this one has it out for you. ;) As long as you don't see him doing those things with every girl in the area, I think it's safe to say he's diggin' ya'!
Ahh, I remember those days. What a happy feeling you have, I'm sure. :) Be smart though. If you get into a relationship with a boy, it's important not to forget your girlfriends or your school work. And unless you're married and wanting children, you shouldn't be sleeping together.
I've been around the block a time or two, so I'm going to tell you (and you won't want to hear this) high school relationships, while they may feel like the best thing ever and you may think you'll graduate together and get married and have this grand amazing life together, and that's fine, just remember, there's only like a 2% chance that will actually happen.
So like I said, focus on things that will always matter; your friends, your grades, and while it's okay to have a boyfriend, don't let him push you into anything you might regret. Don't lose yourself while getting sucked into the crazy emotions of first loves, is what I'm trying to say. :)
May God bless you, your school work and help you to keep your head on straight while boys are making it dizzy. :P
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Dear Miss Ashlee, I am a 13 year old female wondering about sex. The thought of sex has been dancing around my mind lately and I always have an urge to do it. I know I can get STDs and get prego and i just turned 13 and I'm a christian but I just seem so carefree, I don't think I should feel this way and I can't stop the feeling of being more of a wild child. What should I do? (link)
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Hey there!
The feelings you're having are actually super normal for a girl your age. That doesn't mean you should act on them though. It's good that you realize that you can get diseases from having sex, as well as end up pregnant. Those are very serious and very permanent things (not all sexually transmitted diseases/infections are permanent, but many of them are).
Any time you think you might do something that you shouldn't do, remind yourself that having sex with someone just one time, can lead to an incredibly miserable lifetime of burning, itching, oozing or worse, that will make it to where no one else will ever want to sleep with you. Not to mention, the number of people who have diseases are growing every year, and no not all of them are going to be honest and tell you that they have one either. And, at your age, you could end up known around school as a type of girl you really don't want to be known as, if you know what I'm saying.
Also remind yourself that a baby is also permanent. Something that will steal your youth, your body, money, sleep, fun/free time, and once again, keep you from looking desirable to a lot of men. (Don't get me wrong, I have a child and she's the light of my life. But, I had her after I was an adult and married. I couldn't imagine giving up my high school/college years to raise a child.)
I'm a Christian myself, so I hope I'm giving you good advice here. But it doesn't say anything in the Bible about masturbation being a sin. If you feel that you really really need some sexual pleasure and that you can't keep yourself from having sex, perhaps that's something you should consider. I'd never want someone to tell my daughter to masturbate (may your parents forgive me). But if you don't have the will to keep yourself from having sex before marriage, and it helps prevent that, then I suppose it's not terrible advice.
I'll pray about it for you, that God may give you the strength and wisdom to keep yourself from doing something you shouldn't do/something that you will regret. I suggest that you pray about it, too. :) He helps those who ask for it you know?
Good luck and may God bless you!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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my ex who i have been with and have a daughter together
has just left without even giving me a hint or not even talked about it she just left i been trying to contact her with no success i love her so much we kinda broke up late last year she ended it but im still in love with her and have been broken hearted ever since ive heard rumours shes ben seen with another guy but i dont know if thats true what do i do? (link)
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Hey there!
Have you asked her about the rumors? Rumors are usually either made up, or fabrications of the truth, twisted around by people who like to gossip and/or start drama. If you haven't asked her about them, I wouldn't believe anything I've heard. Give her the benefit of the doubt.
If you have asked her about it, but she's avoided the questions, then there's probably something fishy going on. If you've asked her and she's denied the rumors, give her the benefit of the doubt and just try and move forward with the relationship.
That brings me to another question. You say she's just left, but that she broke up with you a year ago? If she broke up with you, then you need to try and move on if there isn't any hope of getting back together. Just because you have a daughter together, doesn't mean you have to be miserable, heartbroken and hanging on your ex's every word.
If she's telling you she isn't seeing anyone, and spending time at your place, then disappearing without a word, you need to confront her. Let her know that you need to know whether or not the two of you are going to give things another shot or not. Tell her it isn't okay that she strings you along and leaves you wondering and heartbroken.
If she doesn't want to be with you, as much as it seems to suck right now, it's probably for the best. Either way she still needs to know that she can't just up and disappear with your daughter. Technically, that's kidnapping and you could actually call the police on her for that.
Just lay it out on the table for her. Either we're giving this a shot, neither of you will see anyone else, and there's no disappearing allowed, or you aren't together and what the two of you do in your own lives isn't any of the others business. But, you both need to be in your daughter's life and you need to be civil about it.
Remember that no matter how you're feeling, you have a little girl who's feeling lost and confused, too.
Good luck and may God bless you three!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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I have known my ex for 7 years. He is the father of my son. We haven't been together dating wise in 5 years. I had moved away. I moved back and he's been very active in his child's life. I love him. I think about him all day every day. He doesn't want to rush or even talk about "us" we both got out of around 4 year relationships. But he says see what the future holds. Am I wasting my breath? (link)
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Hi! :)
I don't think you're wasting your breath. If he's very active in his child's life and is a good guy, I think it could be a great thing to take things slow and see if the two of you can rekindle your relationship.
It's been five years since whatever happened between the two of you has happened. I'm sure you've both done a lot of growing and changing since then. I think he's smart to want to take things slow and not rush into anything and just see how things are and who you are separately before making any decisions.
Respect his boundaries, make yours known as well, but be truthful and also let him know how you're feeling. Honesty from the start and until the end truly is always the best policy.
Give him some time before you bring up "us" again. Allow him time to see who you've become and to show him you and your son are worth taking another swing at something together, as a family. I hope it all works out!
Good luck to you and may God bless you all!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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Is there a specific name for someone who is attractive to every type of human being?
My co-worker says that she is attracted to all types of people and that she has been with women, men, ftm trans, mtf trans, drag queens, etc. And she's practically attracted to all of them and even gay men/women and straight men/basically...Basically anyone!
Is there a name for that? (link)
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I believe that's call being pansexual. But I could be wrong. I heard a friend of mine call himself pansexual one time and then explained that he found himself attracted to any and everyone, lol. I'd maybe Google "pansexual" now and make sure before you call her that!
God bless you!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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so i would really like to be fit, well i mean like body builder fit (im a woman so i dont mean like a man i mean like a build woman with a feminine physique) i have 9 pounds to lose before im my ideal healthy weight. (link)
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Hey girl!
Well, unfortunately I'm not a trainer, or a body builder, so telling you exactly what you should do with confidence, probably isn't what I'm going to do, lol.
I would suggest finding a healthy eating plan. You know prepare healthy meals (which can be done in bulk via freezing and shakes, etc.) and start there. It's just as important to eat healthy as it is to exercise and work out.
I'd cut out things like fried foods, candies and pastries, colas and anything really that's high in calories as well as high in saturated or trans fats. As far as working out goes, all I know is that it's important to stretch first and drink lots of water.
My personal work-out routine is done at home and is to keep healthy, not for body building, so I really have no experience in that area. Perhaps you could try Googling something like, "How to start bodybuilding for females," or something like that.
If you've got money to spare, your best bet may actually be to call and consult with a trainer and or nutritionist. Good luck to you and may God bless you and your goals!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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My girlfriend divorced her husband of 20 yrs for his best friend and they now live together. they seem happy.I set her ex husband up with my next door neighbor and they hit it off and fell in love. I was up front with my girlfriend and told her that I set them up. She got upset and does not want to be friendly anymore. Was I wrong for being a match maker for her ex? Should I have not been up front and told her that I was the match maker? My husband and I care about both of them. (link)
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Hey there Cupid! :P
I think you did the right thing. Some people may tell you that you shouldn't have gotten involved, but I think that's bad advice. If a friend would turn their back on another lonely friend because that person's ex (who has already found someone) may get mad, then they aren't a good friend.
Good for you for not letting your other friend down because "it's not your place to get involved" in something that was non-existent to be involved in in the first place. They were done. Meaning finished, over, no longer. You weren't interfering in anything or ruining anything. There wasn't anything there. You were merely helping a friend try and find some happiness.
Even if you are friends with both parties, it doesn't matter what either ex thinks of the other or how they feel about what the other is doing. Again, they are over, it's none of her business any longer. (Unless they have kids in the mix - which changes things. But you didn't state that, so I'm answering as if they don't have children between them.)
In any case, I believe that your girlfriend is out of line for being angry with you. Very out of line. I don't believe you did anything wrong at all. Don't go beating yourself up. Maybe you should talk to her and let her know that you're hurt and confused by her actions.
Let her know that you don't understand why she doesn't want him to be happy. She left him for his best friend... it doesn't seem like she has a lot of rights to go off judging people and being mad at others over the situation. (Then again none of us have the right to judge others.)
Anyway. I hope my ramblings helped in some way, lol. Good luck with your friends, I wish you all the best. May God bless you all!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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I'm on my period and i was able to get the applicator in but i'm scared to push the tampon out and i'm scared of how bad it'll feel taking it out. what should I do? I have a party on tomorrow and I need a tampon so that I could wear my leggings. (link)
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Hey there!
Don't be scared! First you should realize that you don't push the old tampon out, you pull it out via the string that is attached. It shouldn't hurt at all, not a bit!
If it hurts at all, the likely reason is that you changed it too soon and it was still dry, or you've possibly left it in too long and are developing an infection.
While tampons do seem to make life a lot easier than a pad would, they're also a lot more dangerous. So you have to be careful when using them. You need to change them often, always wash your hands before and after, and take care when inserting the applicator so that you don't accidentally scratch the inner walls of your vagina.
You can get pretty severe infections from doing that as well as from leaving them in for too long. Don't be scared though! I've been using them for, gosh, like fifteen years now? I've never had an infection or problem with using them. So I don't want to scare you away from them, just caution you to make sure you're using them properly and let you know not to be scared to take them out.
Oh while I'm thinking about it. Try looking into "Organyc" tampons. I use them and they're all natural cotton without any harmful chemicals or perfumes that have been linked to irritation and cancers like in regular tampons. I love them!
Good luck and don't be afraid! Soon enough it will all come naturally to you and will be really easy and effortless. May God bless you, dear!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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Do men come back to you faster if you ignore them? (link)
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Hello!
Being a woman, it's hard to speak for men, especially all men. Remember that despite hearing, "They're all the same!" They actually aren't. So what may be true for one, may not be for another.
I think the more important question here is, if you have to play games, why do you want him back? I think the best thing to do, if he's gone, is let him go. Take the high road and don't play into any childish games.
Realize that the relationship wasn't what it should have been and look forward to the one that will be. In all honesty, I can't imagine how healthy of a relationship you two could have if he only comes back because he was challenged by the fact that you ignored him.
If he's going to come back it should be because he realized what he had, because he misses you and loves you. Not because he likes the challenge of a game. That's very unhealthy and you deserve better than that.
Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck! May God bless you!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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I have never wanted children. My entire life I have never felt that urge to mother, but I've recently found myself thinking about it more often. My boyfriend does want children, and its something we have talked pretty seriously about. Just trying to see it from each others point of views.
I don't know if I want kids now because my boyfriend does, or if its something else. I'm 22 and I just recently got promoted at my job, and my boyfriend is 28 and just enrolled in his doctorate programs, on top of having a full time job. It just wouldn't be a smart thing to do right now. Idk what I'm asking, I guess its more of an "is it normal to all the sudden have these feelings?" Kind of question...please help (link)
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Hey there!
I am a mom myself. I never pictured myself with a child, not once was a child something I ever thought about as a teen or young adult. So I can relate to the way your feeling in some ways.
Of course it's normal to have feelings like those. You are a woman after all. :P But there's nothing wrong with wondering what life would be like as a parent and maybe even desiring those bonds. Being a parent is like nothing else in the world. It's better than anything else in the world, even through the rough times.
As far as actually having a baby, timing isn't everything. I honestly believe that if everyone waited to have children until they were "ready" or financially stable, or had their degree, or had a bigger place or a better job, that few people would ever end up having children. (Perhaps that would be better for the Earth and its economy - but that's a discussion for another time.)
You never know what will happen in life. I feel like, it's a good idea to have hopes for a perfect timeline of events leading up to and involving a baby at some point. But it's unrealistic.
There will always be major pros and major cons to having a baby at any point in your life. It really just comes down to whether or not you and your spouse are ready to throw a baby into the mix that is your lives together and be responsible and loving parents on top of your other responsibilities.
More often than not, people don't plan children and they aren't ready for them and have a very hard time giving up things that are required of them to wake throughout the night for a newborn, to provide for a baby and to enrich a toddler and more.
More than finding the right time, since I believe there really is no "right" or "perfect" time, decide on whether or not the both of you actually want and are ready and prepared for a baby and to give up and change the things that make you happy and comfortable now.
You will still be happy and comfortable, don't get me wrong. But how you get to happy and comfortable will be very different with a baby than without one, lol. I would also consider marriage first. Whether you are religious or not, it's proven that being married before children puts you at a much higher rate of success in parenting and lowers your chance of divorce drastically as well. :)
Good luck and may God bless you!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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I saw a video of how they get animal fur (Stupid idea... I accidentally clicked it and continued watching...), and now I'm really sickened by it. I'm never wearing animal fur or eating animal products again, but how can I get the image and thought out of my mind? Please help. (link)
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Hey!
I'm sorry you had to see something that upset you like that. Unfortunately, that probably won't be the last time something like that happens to you.
There really isn't any reason to wear fur, unless you're an Eskimo. :P And I don't think Eskimos today even really wear fur anymore since they have access to coats and other things like you and I would wear. I do know that they don't waste any of the animal they kill, so I'm not sure what they do with the fur then. Perhaps they sell it?
That's something to think about. Not all fur is taken in the way you saw, I'm sure. Typically when people make videos like that, they intend to appall and even scare their viewers. There's a purpose behind the video and they make it a very emotional and dramatic experience on purpose.
Also, keeping yourself from all animal products is a little extreme. If you're concerned about the treatment of the animals I would maybe do some of my own research on the products and brands of foods that you like to eat and be sure that the places are humane. Not ALL animal related business is bad when it comes to consumer demands. Just keep that in mind.
As for getting the images and thoughts from your mind, the only thing that will make you forget those things is time. It won't happen right away, but at some point in the future you'll realize you haven't thought about it in a long time, and you'll be happy about that! XD
Just keep yourself busy with fun and happy things for the next few days. Hang out with your friends, watch some funny movies. Get your spirits back up and eventually the memories will become hazy.
Good luck and may God bless you!
xoxo
Miss Ashlee
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Someone told me that I can summon Archangel Michael to protect me & my aura. They said he can clear spaces, thoughts, and people of any negative or lower energies. I feel like there's an evil presence around me & it's been bothering me. I'm scared & I want it to go away. How do you get in touch with the Archangel? (link)
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Hello!
That's a great question. But no, you cannot summon archangel Michael to protect you. Before I was such an avid believer in the Bible and in God's word, my mother-in-law would tell me to do the same thing; to call on archangel Michael to protect me.
I would, and it never felt right and I never felt any safer. Now that I go to church every Sunday and Wednesday, I realize why it felt wrong. God was putting in on my heart to realize that archangel Michael wasn't the one I was supposed to be praying to, it was God I was supposed to be praying to.
I've learned since then that it actually says in the Bible itself that you aren't supposed to pray to anyone but the Lord Himself, that He is the only one who hears and answers prayers. He is the only one capable of casting away demons who intend you harm.
Since I've started praying to God regularly, throughout each day, my family and I are great. We're doing so much better. I fear so much less than I used to. I'm actually at peace now. He's blessed us greatly since I stopped listening to other people's crazy theories and actually just started listening to the Bible itself.
Whenever you're scared, just pray. Say something along the lines of, "Dear Lord, please protect me and my family. Keep us safe. Cast out demons and others who intend to harm to us. Deliver us from evil. Amen."
I never forget to throw in a "thank you for all your blessings". :) Just give it a shot and you'll see for yourself how much better you'll begin to feel and how much safer you become.
Good luck and may God bless you!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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