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My boyfriend and I have been dating for quite a while now. We're very in love and getting our own place soon. We both work full time jobs and he talks about wanting to marry me all the time.
For the last two weeks I had been staying at his apartment pretty much 24/7 but yesterday when he went to work I went home because I felt weird knowing that his parents knew I'd been there so much and I didn't want them to think I was living there and using him. He begged me to come back over last night and I didn't (because I wanted to show his parents I wasn't living there ,his parents pay for his apartment which is outside their house).
I explained all of that to him and he was okay with it after some convincing. Then tonight after I got off of work I waited around for him to get off because I was supposed to go back over to his place. He texted me a couple hours later "I just got off work and I'm heading home!" Immediately I got angry.
I don't understand why he always goes straight home and it makes me mad when he does because it makes me feel like he doesn't want to do anything he just wants to go straight home.
I'm always the one driving to him but he never wants to drive to me so it takes me an hour and a half to get to work and an hour and a half to get back and if I go to his place another hour which takes up a lot of gas even though I have a hybrid. I fill up pretty much every week because of it and it's costing me a lot of money too.
Whenever I ask him to come my way he says "I don't have enough gas for that" or "It takes a lot of gas to do that" and I feel like there's a double standard. It's okay to him for me to use lots of money on gas to see him but not okay for him to spend a lot of money on gas to see me?
I feel like I shouldn't really be mad but it always upsets me when he says that. Especially since he only lives ten minutes from his work place and pretty much everything else for him is really local where as he's 30 minutes away, one way and my job is 90 minutes away, one way.
It's not just that either. I often get angry when he works days I have off or when he has days off that I work. Today I got home around 6 and he got home around 8 so I was already thinking wow it's already 8pm I probably shouldn't go over there it's too late now unless I stay over since I have to work tomorrow and he has the day off.
He also won $1k a month ago and blew it all on an ipad mini and his car and I felt as if he should have saved part of it towards his share of wherever we move into or towards a cheap engagement ring and I'm still mad about that though I haven't told him that.
How can I not be so clingy? I'm just so in love with him that I want to be his world 24.7 because he's mine and I know that's wrong and selfish...
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In a relationship it's supposed to be both parties have a "give and take" but it sounds to me like you are the only one doing the "giving" and he's doing all the "taking" here. Honestly I would sit him down and tell him that there needs to be a plan put in place. Like you will drive out to his place on Monday through Wednesday and he can drive to yours on Thursday through Sunday. He is the guy. It is supposed to be in his nature to try to "provide" for his lady. He's not "providing" enough quality time and some give! Maybe a few days away from each other might be good though. Maybe it would make him get in the car and come see you for once! When I was dating my hubby, he came to my apartment to see me all the time! I didn't have a car, but I did come over and stay with him. He'd go get me from my apartment and I'd go stay at his house for a few days and then we'd go stay at my apartment for a few days after that. He made sacrifices to see me and I had to make some to go spend time with him at his house. He needs to step up!
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We've been together for over a year, he's my first boyfriend, I'm his first girlfriend and it started out brilliantly. He's going to uni in a month or two and I'm not and I wanted to make the most of the time we have left because I think a LDR is unlikely to happen. He's been so good to me, I have a few medical conditions that make life hard for me and he's been amazing, I really don't want to lose him. However, he recently has been trying to get me to go away with him for a weekend or so with his relatives (about 10-11 of them). I keep saying no because I've never been away from home, I'm not the sort of person to go away, I'm not great with people, I've had panic attacks in cities before and my parents aren't keen on the idea (we're both 18 & still live at home with parents). Any stress makes my medical conditions worse but I'm in the process of getting it sorted and I don't feel ready to go away yet because of them. I've tried to reason with my boyfriend and explain this but he won't drop it. I've told him I would consider it in the future if we're still together, when it's more serious but not right now. Also, in the past few months we've been arguing a lot more, and I've gone to bed at night in tears on many occasions because of how much our relationship has changed but then again, I am very easily upset. I don't know whether it's me being oversensitive but I don't understand why he would make me do something that he knows makes me very unhappy. All I wanted to do over the next couple of months is have fun. Every time I speak to him now I feel pressured, we end up arguing and it's ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do about it. Days where we don't argue are great, we have fun like we used to when we first started going out. Has anybody any advice about what to do? Thank you very much if you do. (link)
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Love is patient and kind! You shouldn't be getting pressured to do ANYTHING you don't want to do! If he will pressure you to try to go away with him, he will pressure you for other things. If he wins with one and gets what he wants, then he will always pressure you into doing what he wants!
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17/f
I have the urge to have sex but I don't want to lose my v-card. IDK, I'm pretty desperate for it and I kind of hate how I'm always fantasizing. (link)
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Well honestly hun, take it from a Romance Rep, sex if for a couple who love each other! You're not old enough to buy any toys yet. Most companies (mine included) require you to be 18 years of age to order products. If someone older than you bought you a toy, then they would be charged with "distributing to a minor" and could spend some time in jail, pay a large fine, or both. My advice is until you turn old enough to buy the toys, your finger(s) will have to work. You're body is going through the hormonal changes and it's normal. Just don't do something you will regret later! Your "v-card" is something you can only give to 1 person, so why waste it!?
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13/f
Some friends from school told me that having sex will make your boobs grow. I have really small boobs and I hate it so I thought I would give it a try. I'm not sure I'm doing it right though. I just dunno but I want my boobs to be pretty big.
I had sex with 7 boys from my grade at school but nothing really changed for me and my boobs were still small. I was talking to my dad's friend on Facebook and he said he thought sex made breasts grow only if the girl had sex with a guy older than her. So, we ended up having sex, obv.
It just seems like this is taking foreverrr and I just want my barely A cups to go to like a DD. I know that's a big leap but it's what I WANT. After having sex w/my dad's friend I think they seem to be a little more full but not much.
I went on and posted some match ads online and there is 4 guys who say they want to do it with me so my boobs will grow. My first thinking is that if I do it with them all at once then my boobs will grow faster all at once. They're all up for it but I want to know if it will still work that way. I don't want to like have sex with them all together and then my boobs don't grow at all. Does anyone know if you have sex with more than 1 guy at a time if your boobs will still grow? They're all a lot older than me so that shouldn't be a prob.
((And before you start answering don't worry about me getting pregnant. I know the guy has to cum in you for this to work but I haven't started my period yet so I can't get pregnant anyways.)) (link)
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Sweetheart I know this question was posted back some time ago, but maybe someone else is asking the same question! NO THE ANSWER IS NO!!!!!!!!! This is not true! Sex in no way increases your breast size! The older guys that are having sex with minors out there are called PEDOPHILES and they are committing a serious crime! They will tell you that it's ok and that you shouldn't tell anyone! They are predators and should be taken off the street before they do this to someone else! I never believed guys that said that to me! It's a serious crock and I have the smarts about me to know it's not true! Sex if for someone you love not for someone to lie to you to get it! I don't mean it mean, but whoever was to actually believe this is a fresh new kind of stupid! I hope this does come out to the local police department! I'm actually going to forward the link of the post to the sheriff's office for them to investigate into this if possible! So if this isn't true, this girl may get someone a lot of time in jail for something he didn't do. However, if he did commit the crime, then I hope to hell that they get a new jail built just for them and they are housed so far under it that they will never get out to see the light of day again!
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