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I have known my ex for 7 years. He is the father of my son. We haven't been together dating wise in 5 years. I had moved away. I moved back and he's been very active in his child's life. I love him. I think about him all day every day. He doesn't want to rush or even talk about "us" we both got out of around 4 year relationships. But he says see what the future holds. Am I wasting my breath?
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A lot of it has to do with how you came to divorce/break up, and how you behaved. If he is raising his son, what more do you want from him? If you got back together, would it make his life better or worse?
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Hi! :)
I don't think you're wasting your breath. If he's very active in his child's life and is a good guy, I think it could be a great thing to take things slow and see if the two of you can rekindle your relationship.
It's been five years since whatever happened between the two of you has happened. I'm sure you've both done a lot of growing and changing since then. I think he's smart to want to take things slow and not rush into anything and just see how things are and who you are separately before making any decisions.
Respect his boundaries, make yours known as well, but be truthful and also let him know how you're feeling. Honesty from the start and until the end truly is always the best policy.
Give him some time before you bring up "us" again. Allow him time to see who you've become and to show him you and your son are worth taking another swing at something together, as a family. I hope it all works out!
Good luck to you and may God bless you all!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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Our heart and our subconscious mind will hold feelings for a person for a long time, maybe even lifelong. The real issue here is whether he is the kind of man you want as a life long mate. You broke up with him and with a second relationship.
Do you have any idea why? What is happening that needs to be addressed? Are there any growths in maturity that you need to make or he needs to make to have a successful relationship? It's usually a two way thing. Just because you have a child between you doesnt mean it's neccessarily a good idea to get back together.
Without really knowing more about you and him personally, all I can say is take care to not make any rash decisions about jumping into another relationship with him or any other for a while. Take the time to get to know yourself better, what you need and want in a guy, and how to recognize the things you don;t like in a guy. Obviously there's some of those for sure or you wouldn't have gone through two relationships already. It's okay dear, we all have to learn the hard way...same for me. But the idea is to learn from the failures in relationships. Good luck.
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