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match maker
My girlfriend divorced her husband of 20 yrs for his best friend and they now live together. they seem happy.I set her ex husband up with my next door neighbor and they hit it off and fell in love. I was up front with my girlfriend and told her that I set them up. She got upset and does not want to be friendly anymore. Was I wrong for being a match maker for her ex? Should I have not been up front and told her that I was the match maker? My husband and I care about both of them.
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I wouldn't worry too much about this.
Your girlfriend is being petty - it's understandable to be a bit upset when an ex finds new love - hopefully she can get over that and realize you did nothing but be a good friend to him.
There was nothing wrong with setting up her ex on a date. If she isn't capable of being reasonable, even happy for him, as his life goes on without her, than maybe she isn't a person you want to be friends with anyways.
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I think you did the right thing. Some people may tell you that you shouldn't have gotten involved, but I think that's bad advice. If a friend would turn their back on another lonely friend because that person's ex (who has already found someone) may get mad, then they aren't a good friend.
Good for you for not letting your other friend down because "it's not your place to get involved" in something that was non-existent to be involved in in the first place. They were done. Meaning finished, over, no longer. You weren't interfering in anything or ruining anything. There wasn't anything there. You were merely helping a friend try and find some happiness.
Even if you are friends with both parties, it doesn't matter what either ex thinks of the other or how they feel about what the other is doing. Again, they are over, it's none of her business any longer. (Unless they have kids in the mix - which changes things. But you didn't state that, so I'm answering as if they don't have children between them.)
In any case, I believe that your girlfriend is out of line for being angry with you. Very out of line. I don't believe you did anything wrong at all. Don't go beating yourself up. Maybe you should talk to her and let her know that you're hurt and confused by her actions.
Let her know that you don't understand why she doesn't want him to be happy. She left him for his best friend... it doesn't seem like she has a lot of rights to go off judging people and being mad at others over the situation. (Then again none of us have the right to judge others.)
Anyway. I hope my ramblings helped in some way, lol. Good luck with your friends, I wish you all the best. May God bless you all!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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If you were friends with both of them then you shouldn't have gotten involved with their divorce. Although you ment well, Divorce is a painful thing and even more painful for some people to hear their former spouse has moved on. She may feel betrayed and as if you had no right to come between her and her ex problems. She is healing and the "match making" news may of deeply hurt her.
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