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Sex at 13
Dear Miss Ashlee, I am a 13 year old female wondering about sex. The thought of sex has been dancing around my mind lately and I always have an urge to do it. I know I can get STDs and get prego and i just turned 13 and I'm a christian but I just seem so carefree, I don't think I should feel this way and I can't stop the feeling of being more of a wild child. What should I do?
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Hey there!
The feelings you're having are actually super normal for a girl your age. That doesn't mean you should act on them though. It's good that you realize that you can get diseases from having sex, as well as end up pregnant. Those are very serious and very permanent things (not all sexually transmitted diseases/infections are permanent, but many of them are).
Any time you think you might do something that you shouldn't do, remind yourself that having sex with someone just one time, can lead to an incredibly miserable lifetime of burning, itching, oozing or worse, that will make it to where no one else will ever want to sleep with you. Not to mention, the number of people who have diseases are growing every year, and no not all of them are going to be honest and tell you that they have one either. And, at your age, you could end up known around school as a type of girl you really don't want to be known as, if you know what I'm saying.
Also remind yourself that a baby is also permanent. Something that will steal your youth, your body, money, sleep, fun/free time, and once again, keep you from looking desirable to a lot of men. (Don't get me wrong, I have a child and she's the light of my life. But, I had her after I was an adult and married. I couldn't imagine giving up my high school/college years to raise a child.)
I'm a Christian myself, so I hope I'm giving you good advice here. But it doesn't say anything in the Bible about masturbation being a sin. If you feel that you really really need some sexual pleasure and that you can't keep yourself from having sex, perhaps that's something you should consider. I'd never want someone to tell my daughter to masturbate (may your parents forgive me). But if you don't have the will to keep yourself from having sex before marriage, and it helps prevent that, then I suppose it's not terrible advice.
I'll pray about it for you, that God may give you the strength and wisdom to keep yourself from doing something you shouldn't do/something that you will regret. I suggest that you pray about it, too. :) He helps those who ask for it you know?
Good luck and may God bless you!
xoxo
MissAshlee
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