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Tips for being with an older guy
So I've been talking to/hooking up with this guy that I met about a month ago. We have good chemistry together and don't seem to ever run out of things to talk about so things are going well between us. The thing is that he's 33 and I'm 19.
We've already had sex once but we're making plans to have a sleepover together soon and I was just seeking some advice as to what older guys might like in bed.. I know everybody has their own preference, and we're comfortable with each other so I can ask questions (like "do you like when I do that/what do you want me to do"), but what may be something that could kind of 'wow' him from me?
Being younger, I definitely don't think I'm as experienced as he is. My sex life for the past 2 1/2 years has been with the same guy, my ex-boyfriend, so I'm a little nervous that what I'm used to may be a little boring.
Any tips would be appreciated.. thanks!
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Have sex. Start talking after. Ask him what he's into, what he'd like to try, share a few of your own ideas, come up with some together, and keep an open mind about trying things you never have before.
Positions, acts, clothes, roleplay, new locations to have sex, there are plenty of subjects you can discuss. If all else fails, go find a tube porn site and go through categories together and see if anything is mutually appealing. Plenty of ideas there to look at, and you can have fun watching some porn together while you're at it.
Do some googling. Look up instructions for things you already know how to do. There are lots of ways to do oral, plenty of things you can do with your hands.
Look up videos of massages. Instruction pages. Whatever. Being able to give a good massage will win anyone points in a relationship.
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Ask him questions and just do what you can do best. And I'm sorry but I have to say this... He's 33 and single... Why can't he find someone his own age? Do you realize he's dropped down to a 19 year old? Who just graduated high school and is going to college when he should have a career be financially stable and done with Hookups and such and be with a family? Please think out of the box with this one. Maybe there's something h don't know about him to why he's single. And I'm sure your an attractive girl... So honestly if he has opportunity to get with it... He's going to because men don't think. (no offense to the men that do !!) but I'm sure there is a male on here that could back up what I'm saying and its only for your own protection. Think...why won't people his own age date him? 19 year olds are children going Ito the real world... He's been in the real world to quite some time now.
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Be your self. But if you really want to know what he likes ask him what his fantasy is and take it from there. I know I'm going to sound like an old lady and you probably don't want to hear what I'm going to say...... But I'll say it any way. The age difference is bothering me. The guy is 33 . Trust me when i say 9 times out of 10 he's up to no good. The fact that you're 19 may mean to him that he's just looking to hook up and when he's done move on to the next victim. If your not emotionally invested go ahead hook and have fun. But I already know its not going to go far. I'm 31 years old. There is nothing that a 33 year old man can have in common long term with a 19 year old. P.S just because he's older doesn't make him any different to a 19 year old guy. Men are all the same when it comes to sex and their pretty simple. You could brush you hair in front of him and he'll get turned on.
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This question is sort of difficult to answer because, like you said, everyone has their own unique preferences.
In my own experience, my boyfriend's preferences haven't really changed with age, I've just found out that he like things (that maybe he didnt even know he liked) by experimenting.
The thing is, with this guy you're seeing, he probably already knows what he likes so, don't be afraid to ask him! It will get all the awkwardness out of the way and on to enjoying the sex.
I have found that with the guys that I've been with, a lot of touching is always good. And I'm not talking about just sexual touching, I mean like a massage, or just rubbing your hands all over. Don't be afraid to go everywhere! It's a loving gesture and can feel extremely erotic in the right mood.
Another big one is to just not hold back. Take the lead and get a little rough every once in a while. Make sure it's not just one person putting in the effort. And don't be shy or afraid to try something new, if he suggests it!
Again, all of this is just from what I've experienced in my life, I can't say for sure that "guys that are 33 years old like this one position" (lol), but it has worked for me and I hope it works for you!
Best of wishes!
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