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my mom is so annoying
My mom complains about me sitting round the house all dau but NEVER lets me hangout with my friends! Is that bs?
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Well in my point of view youur mom is doing the right thing and I'm 16, but once in a while she could let your friends come over, it's summer we should all have some fun before it ends.
Speaking of fun, you shouldn't be sitting around the house all day though. Get active, play some sports or join an activity. Don't be a couch potato, atleast read a book.
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Is this just over the summer vacation? It's summer in the USA, right?
Meh. I sympathise - women can't bear to see a guy kick back and relax, you know? To late to nail down a summer job. If you are going to do that, then you need to have organised it well in advance.
Look - you are going to leave home one day, right? Strike out on your own? Well, it's a fine time to learn to cook, maybe do a little housework. You could crack the books and study a bit for the upcoming year. Learn a martial art. Work out!
But realistically, all you can really do is put up with it for another few weeks. Them's the breaks.
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I think she's hinting its time for you to get a part time job.
As you get older, you're expected to pay your way more and more, and by the time you're 18 even pay a little rent.
Its more productive in her eyes for you to be out all day working and earning, not hanging out with friends. Would she be paying for you to hang out with friends?
Its very unhealthy to sit around the house all day. Perhaps she want you to realize this. I also think if you started something to fill you days with, a job or a voluntary job, she'll have more respect for you, and let you see your friends.
Work hard, play hard.
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What does she mean by sitting around the house all day? If she means you don't do anything but sit on your computer or sit in your room all day, and doesn't let you hang out with your friends, I can see why. If you do chores, clean up, cook, help in different ways, then I can see why you're having a problem with it.
So figure out why she's having this problem. If you're doing everything you're supposed to, and she still won't let you hang out with your friends, you might want to talk to her and figure out why.
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A complaint about sitting around all day without clarification as to why the complainer has a problem with it is unfair to the person it is directed at. How can you amend your behavior if you have no idea what she is REALLY getting at.
Ask her. What are you worried about? that i am not contributing enough to chores around the house? that i am not getting enough exercise, that I need more fresh air, that I need more socializing?
Find out what her specific Beef is. Then you will know if she is blowing things out of proportion or if she has a little valid reason for feeling that way. It is too easy to get lost in front of a computer screen. What I thought was a 1/2 hour I spent in front of mine was now 2 hrs later. With technology today too many of us are getting less fresh air and exercise.
If the only place you are able to see friends is at school and they are not allowed to come to your house or you go to theirs, that is an entirely different issue. And that is a separate discussion you'll have to have with mom.
If you want the freedom to take off for the mall or go to movies with a friend, I don't see a problem but it may be your age. Mom wants to know where you will be and that there won't be kids around who are a bad influence. I think the biggest reason parent subconsciously don't trust their kids out on their own with friends is because the frontal part of your brain which is responsible for making good mature decisions is still developing and not fully formed until we reach our mid twenties. By then our bodies will have been mature for years and the thoughts of daughters becoming sexual, possibly ending up with an abusive boyfriend, i think its one in 3 now adays, or experimenting with drinking or drugs or stealing petty stuff just for the fun... There's all sorts of things a teen could get into. But not all teens all like that and should be allowed to slowly build up their trust with parents. If the parents don't allow you the chance to learn how to build trust and be trustworthy, you are missing out on a good opportunity. I can't know your whole situation, but talking it out will get you further down the road than you were originally.
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