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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!




A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.




BU 2014 :)


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i was watching "you are what you eat" and it mentioned something about a woman who ate a lot of sugar and yeast and how that might connect to itching "down there". is this true?

I haven't heard of that, but I suppose anything is possbile. Anyway it's inevitable that a lot of women will get a yeast infection in their lives, and I wouldn't stop eating pasta and sugar just to try and reduce the risk of it. Life just wouldn't be as awesome without spaghetti.


Unless you read this in a reliable medical book or website I'd be wary of how much I believed it. For all we know, it could be the logic "Oh, well everyone who gets ear infections eats food. Food must cause ear infections!" Know what I mean?


Plus, it's possible that the woman in question was allergic to something she was eating a lot of, leading to a rash that could cause her to itch EVERYWHERE.


Anyway, if you actually have a yeast infection treat it with over the counter medication. If that doesn't help, see a doctor, because it could be something else.


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Is it possible to get pregnant by having anal sex?

It's possbile, yes.
There's also a higher risk for STDs and infections, since your body simply isn't designed for anything to be up that hole and rips/tears are very possbile. It's not exactly a great idea but since you'll probably be doing it anyway, please use protection. Condoms will reduce the risk of pregnancy & infection [pregnancy is unlikely, like I said, but still possbile].


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My friend has smelly ears.. how do you get rid of the smell..

Its the smell like if you ear is infected by your earings but she doesn't wear any ..??

WHat should she do ..??

See a doctor if at all possible. Try a local clinic if you can't afford it.

If she absolutely can't, consider getting drops for swimmer's ear. She might simply have water in her ear, that got stagnant. Ever smelled stagnant water? It ain't pretty.


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Hey, so on friday, i have to get my wisdom teeth out. i'm 15 so it's not really like the roots have really grown in or anything. but i'm still really scared. like, i hate shots, and of course they have to give me and shot, and they are sticking tubes through my nose. how far do the tubes go in? and how long does the pain last (like day wise, how many days does the pain last?)i'm just reallyyyyyy scared. please give me advice and answer questions! thanks!

You won't say anything too stupid, haha. I kept asking if it was over, and demanded repeatedly to see my teeth, to prove that the procedure was actually done. The only thing I remember saying is "Ryan [my ex] is a meanie. I wanna go mini golfing with Jeff!"


Anyway the pain is bad but it goes away. Take the meds they give you as directed, I had oxycodone and it resulted in the weirdest dreams ever and made me sleep a LOT. Get icepacks, like the squishy kind for injuries. You'll be icing your face as much as humanely possible.


You won't be eating much for the first couple days, all I was able to eat was Jello and a couple quarts of pudding. And I hate Jello.
Spaghettios can be swallowed easily and just mushed with your tongue. If you're craving real food it's a good item to try.


I'd say the pain lasted for about five days, gradually weaning to a dull ache that was muted with simple OTC ibuprofen [or a prescription for it if you get that].


Don't worry too much. It's a very common procedure and in the long run you'll be grateful you had it done. And even if you do say something related to having someone over, whoever you're with in recovery will assume it's nothing more than mindless babbling. Because that's all you'll say anyway. Really, you're fine =]


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ok i'm 15/f and my boobs are about a 36B. this past year i have gotten stretchmarks on them. like they go completely all around each one. i'm not too sure what caused them because they didn't just start growing, i've had boobs since 5th grade. i just don't understand what caused them now and how to get rid of them. i've tried cocoa butter but it doesn't work. and they are really noticable so i'd like to get rid of them. :/ please help. thanks!

p.s. my one friend had them and said that she switched to sports bras and hers went away. i've also tried this for a couple days, didn't work.

Nothing gets rid of stretch marks. They fade with time. Most people have them. And you're noticing them way more than anyone else ever will, especially on that location. Moisturizing on a daily basis minimizes their appearance & prevents them from getting worse. I've also read that Retin-A helps to fade them. Retin-A does pretty much anything, haha.


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i'm going up to boston next weekend and i really wanna see a red sox game. i found this website http://mlb.mlb.com/schedule/index.jsp?c_id=bos but like, i don't know where to buy tickets and when. also, is this schedule correct? and how much do tickets cost? this is my first time so i'm kinda clueless, thank youu.

Yeah I'd trust that schedule. It's the official site and everything so... that's about as accurate as you're going to get.

Tickets for a Red Sox game are almost impossible to come by. They're usually sold out before opening day. But check out this link:
http://boston.redsox.mlb.com/ticketing/singlegame.jsp?c_id=bos

You might get lucky.
If you get to go- you've got wicked good luck.


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i absolutely LOVE shoes.
any kind and just this past year ive been liking them. i definetly look good in them because i have a good style.
but see the thing is im white-ha ha- and i live in a town where all of my friends are a diferent color. and i just dont want them to think im posing as anything or something. its jsut my style.
no one has told me anything about it. but
can u tell me what you think they think of me?

Well, they're your friends.
Chances are pretty good that you're thought of as
"The girl with a lot of shoes"


But honestly, it's just shoes... so in this case, it doesn't really matter what other people think. Shoes are clothes. And you're allowed to wear anything you want. Especially out of school. If a good friend of yours says that a certain pair makes you look slutty, though, I'd seriously consider her opinion, because something like that she's just making sure you don't look bad. Know what I mean?


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Okie-dokie! Question time! One of my friends hooked me up with a girl I liked (god bless her) but I'm broke...we've only gone out twice and all...what could we do in a small town with no money and her parents and my parents restricting us to close proximity of our houses?

- Watch a movie you already have. It's better than the movies because a) you don't have to pay $10 for a soda and popcorn b) no annoying people sitting around you and c) You can cuddle up on the couch instead of sitting in plastic chairs with an armrest between you ;]

- Go for a walk together.

- Have a picnic, or cook dinner together.

- Hang out at a mutual friend's house. Maybe video/board games? I've seen games of Monopoly and Masterpiece between couples get pretty intense.

- If you have Rock Band or Guitar Hero, start your own band together. 4 of my friends [who happen to be 2 couples] have their own career in Rock Band as 'Clusterf*ck'. It's amazing, haha. =P

Basically you'll just love being together. You don't have to be spending a lot of money to be happy. =]


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how long do you have to wait until you can take a pregnancy test after you have sex?

For the most accurate results, wait until you miss your period.

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i'm not sure if it's my contacts or not.. but yeah. okay, well i just put on my contacts.. and everything seems clear, like how it's supposed to. but then it's also kinda blurry at the same time. like it can't really focus real clearly. especially when i'm staring at the computer screen. what should i do? & what is going on?

If you've recently gotten them, your eyes might not be used to them yet. I wore glasses for five years, and when I got contacts, woah, what an incredible difference. It's something to do with the amount of light that can enter your eye, and having clear vision everywhere, not just seeing through glasses- hopefully that makes sense.


If you're like many people, you might have different prescriptions for each eye. Check the numbers on the boxes [your doctor should have written LEFT and RIGHT on them if they're different]. You may have them in the wrong eyes.


Make sure your contacts are facing the right way and aren't "inside-out". They should look like this:
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/b/b8/Contact_lens.JPG
- and if they're inside out, you'll know after awhile, trust me- the edges will be sort of curled out. Many brands now [I know that Acuvue does] have 'inside out marks' like an AV or 123 imprinted on the lens.


If this is happening ONLY when you're focusing on something, or after long periods of time doing the same thing, you might not be blinking enough. Whenever I play Guitar Hero my lenses hurt because I forget to blink. Try shifting your gaze to something other than the screen every few minutes. A picture of a boyfriend/girlfriend/family pet/JD taped to the side of the monitor might be helpful.


And of course be sure you're cleaning your lenses properly. Even with 'no-rub' formulas you should be rubbing them. It's just better. Consider switching solution brands- you might be allergic to a preservative [but that's probably only the case if your eyes are hurting too]


If this continues, call your eye doctor.


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I see lots of people that do not sweat a lot. I do on my forehead....what can i do to help reduce this or something? Its unattractive and makes me feel ugly...

Hey, chances are, you're noticing your own sweat way more than anyone else is.


Anyway, periodically throughout the day you can blot your face with a tissue/napkin to get rid of moisture. Makeup like loose powder, or those for oily skin, may also help. Loose powder is better than pressed and absorbs sweat without looking too cakey.


If you truly think you're sweating too much talk to a doctor. There is such a thing as excessive sweating being a medical problem & it's a lot more common than you might realize, so don't be embarrassed. They've seen everything. Literally.


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I'm 18!...and i wear a 34a bra size BUT from the little girls. anything else is too big and does not fit right. I really skinny. and i wear patted bras. does any body know any website i can go to were i can buy bras that make it look like i have more than a 13 year old girl

Victoria's Secret bras have a large variety, and you'll find a style you love. Try to buy them on sale, if price is an issue.


Kohl's and Target also have really nice bras, and you'll find them on sale most of the time [this is especially true at Kohl's]. They have sizes starting at 32A.


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My best friend in the whole world is flurting wih my boyfriend.What should i do

Talk to them, separately.

Your best friend might just be one of those people who flirts with everyone (or at least a lot of people) and you never caught on until she was flirting with your boyfriend. Give her the benefit of the doubt here, especially since she's your "best friend in the whole world". Mention that she's been getting flirty around your boyfriend, and that it bothers you. Like I said she might not even realize she's doing it.

If she continues, talk to your boyfriend. Say that you've noticed your friend flirting with him, and it's making you uncomfortable, because she might have other motives than harmless flirting [say this only if your friend's flirting is intentional]

Otherwise, just try and let it go. It's human nature to be flirty, at least most of my friends are like this. Trust is important in a relationship and you should be able to trust your boyfriend.


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how come some schools wont let the girls wear makeup?

It's considered to be a distraction to the learning process. I've only seen an example of this once, in my town. In the elementary school dress code, makeup and hair dye are not allowed.


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does anybody know anything of possible the cure of erythema dyschromicum perstans?

my friend has that skindisease and its been 2 years. i really feel bad for her she said that there is no cure for it or at least not that she knows of... it hurts me that she just has to wait for it to go away by itself andi wanna help her find the cure for it because i feel that she has given up..

she told me that she doesnt research anymore..or even go for regular check ups with a dermatologist...


also the dermatologist here are expensive i dont think she can afford it :(



ANY HELP FOR THE TREATMENT OF IT???

I couldn't find much, but according to this article:
http://dermatology.cdlib.org/94/NYU/Apr2002/1.html

a drug used to treat leprosy has been used before for that condition.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clofazimine


So a dermatologist might know about it. Check with a local clinic like WIC or something like that in your area about an affordable way to see one.

Good luck.


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i read somewhere that you shouldnt do cardioand weights, as cardio uses up muscle or something? basically, i want muscle, from losing fact, so im doing weight training. i also do about 20mins of cardio. should i stop doing cardio?

Nope, ideally you should be doing both.
If you're a beginner it's suggested that you do one every other day. Like one day do cardio, the next day do weight training. That way, you get the benefits of both, but you won't over-work yourself and/or lose motivation.


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HEY,
well okay i have an awsome boyfriend. I love him to death, im really happy with him. I seriously have strong feelings for him, but here is the thing an old love has returned to town and i kind of been thinking about him. I dont want to mess up my relationship of 2 years with my boyfriend. Is it wrong what i feel, should i pay any attention to this feelings. Should i tell my boyfriend anything???? HELP.

What you're feeling is perfectly normal. You're remembering the past relationship you once had with your old boyfriend, and I'm assuming these are good memories. It's totally fine to look back on it and think fondly of him [breakups don't have to end in you hating each other] but he's your ex for a reason, and you 'love your boyfriend to death' so stay with him. No need to mess anything up over what happened in the past, right? =]


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Alright so ive been dating this girl for about 5 months now and ever so slowly ive started to wonder when to have sex. I dont have much expierence in the dating world and i wanted to know if its too early "to do it" or not. Please help me as i am very confused.

Every relationship is different. Talk to her about it, and if you're both totally ready, that's your decision to make, and no one else's.


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i did nopt know what to classify this under so i chose technology-computers. My girlfriend has a mechanical dildo and she seems to enjoy using that more than she enjoys being pleasured by me...what do u think i should do about this?

Ask her what you could do differently, or what she would enjoy.
Communication is key, in every aspect of a relationship.

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Do you think that it is morally correct to have your own sex slave? i know that slavery was outlawed, but we aren't talk a real slave here...just somebody who will pleasure you 24/7. get back to me on this one.

If both of you are willing participants, no one else is bothered.
Just be sure to control yourselves in public, of course. Because THAT is illegal. =]


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