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Ok. I am a shy person when i am in a crowd. Does anyone some excersizes to help that. Some people im comfortable with. Fives (link)
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Check this website and see if anything here will help you out.
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/shyness.html
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my boyfriend is sort of moving too fast for me. we've made out but he was trying to really touch my the whole time. i liked it for a while.then is just got annoying. i love him more then like..i think¿ what should i do? (link)
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You need to talk to him and set some ground rules.
You need to say right up front. I do not want you to touch me "fill in the blanks". Let him know you are serious.
Don't be rushed into doing something you aren't ready to deal with. :)
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okay i have a problem =/ my friend who i am really close to asked me to homecoming the other day, and i said no. well all along i have really wanted to go with him but people at my school hate him because he dumped one of them like 2 years ago, and they are still upset with him. the thing is, i said no because i didnt want people to be mad at me since it is only the 2nd week of school. Did i do the right thing? He seems really upset and i really want to go so does anyone have any advice? xO (link)
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Oh, but indeed I do know. You have to make your own decisions in life. Time, place, and what others think shouldn't matter. Let people walk on you now and forever be a doormat. Don't let others tell you how to think or who to date. You are alienating someone who you like because of what others think. Good thing others throughout history didn't do the same. Sorry, still think you did the wrong thing. Sorry you didn't want to hear it. :)
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I hate to say it but you did the wrong thing.
If you like someone and they ask you out...you go. If you want to.
Never, ever make decisions based on what your friends might think. You do whats best for you.
I shouldn't have said never ever. If they had info like he was a criminal or a drug abuser you might hear them out.
Just because he used to date one of them and doesn't any more is just silly. They all need to grow up.
Go tell him you changed your mind. The friends will just have to deal with it. :)
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If someone kicked a hole through a wall at a university, could they get jail time? And would it be considered an act of vandalism?
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It would be considered vandalism. You might get 24 hrs in jail if you got arrested for it (depending on if you had bail money).
More than likely you would have to pay for repairs. :)
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I know this is a dumb question but how do you stunt your growth? I don't want to get taller so how can I stop it, My mom is 5'5 and my dad is 5'7, so how can i stop it. (link)
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There is no way I've ever heard of to stunt your growth.
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Usually a girl.
Usually a pretty promiscuous girl. :)
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ok well i know this guy likes me. I know it for a fact. But he is stalling to ask me out. Does anyone know who to get him to ask me out before next friday ( The school halloween dance )?
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Don't rely on someone else to ask him. Do it yourself.
If he likes you he will say yes. Get your bravery up and go ask him before someone else beats you to it! :)
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I wrote before about how my mom was sick and that i wasnt sure what was wrong with my mom( http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=383493 ) Anyways, Now I do. I'm not realy in the mood to write this all out but here this will help alot. Today i decided to start up writing a journal again but this time on the computer since I can type realy fast just save it to a founder with that days date. Well anyways heres waht i wrote today (take in mind taht I started the journal thing today and the ---- means informatino i cant give out lol...
10-22-05- Saturday
Dear Journal,
I decided to start to write a journal. I used to when I was 9 or 10 or something like that but I never found it as a necessary as a teenager. Since I haven’t written in so long I guess I should start with the basics. I am 13 years old.I live at --------,Ohio. My home phone number is now ------. I’ve been living in -------- for about 10 years. I have a dog named Scotch and a Cat Named Magic. Ashley (my twin) is of course 13. Katie is 12 and Jenny is 23. Jenny is married to Brad and they have two Children; Alec who is 5 and Addison who is 3. I am in the 8th grade also and I go to East Palestine Middle School. My favorite color is pink. I am a East Palestine 8th grade Cheerleader. I was one last year too. I have a awesome boyfriend who I am sure that I am in love with. His name is Kevin Scott Ludwig. He’s 15 ½. He so handsome. He has blue eyes that I get lost in and has a laugh that can make anyone’s day. I have brown eyes and brown hair. My fears are really hard to explain so its easier to say that my fear that always haunts me has pretty much became reality.
My mom went to the doctors Last weekend for a yearly checkup, no big deal right? Well they drew blood work and such and she’s been waiting for results. Always, Thursday Addison and my mom went to school with me till after 4th period cause it was bring family to school day okay? Well when she got home she got a message from our doctor saying that they got the results from the blood work and to come in right away. So she called my dad and told him and he came home and them and Addison went to the doctors. Well, It turns out my mom has a disease. This is my worst fear / nightmare. Though I’m not really sure what the name of it is but its bad. Her bloods thick and it doesn’t have much oxygen and tons of carbon. She has to stop smoking. Also she is supposed to donate a quart (yes a whole quart) of blood every 4 months. She can have a heart attack and die any second. Its really scary and I cry if I think too much about it but the girls (my two sisters) are kind of acting like its nothing. Something tells me between the next couple months if it stays the same or gets worse my mom will go into a mild depression (that’s my opinion) just because she is already not doing well. She hasn’t been sleeping either. Like when my mom gets mad at my dad and goes to bed angry she will yell like once in her sleep at him ( its kind of funny). Anyways, she hasn’t been sleeping and when she is crying in her sleep and yelling and talking and a lot of other things. She is talking likes she going to die. She is scared for her life and she is terrified she is going to die. I don’t know what to do. I am lost confused and just out of it at some points.
Well I find myself that I cant write anymore.. I’m talking to my boyfriend and I really don’t want to cry right now and I feel the tears coming so I’ll leave it for today…
--Love--
Meg
Dear Journal,
Hey its me again! Well I wanted to fill you in on well more stuff. My dad was talking to my sisters and I about my mom. He was telling us some strange ways she’s been acting and how its extremely hard for her to give up smoking and she has to now because she will die if she doesn’t. Anyways, besides that miserable and unwanted news I found out some new stuff. Not only does my mom has a disease but something major is causing the disease . All the symptoms are saying it’s a brain aneurysm which as you know is not good at all. This is why my mom is scared for her life. She getting a appointment and will go to the hospital probably sometime next week to get a cat scan to see if that’s what it is. Wow you wouldn’t think this could get any worse huh? Between the disease and the brain aneurysm and the fact that my mom is just going wacky right now right? Well wrong. My dad last year went to the doctors and they said he might have a heart problem. So my dad was horrified and so was my mother. They had to take him to a heart specialist and the heart specialist said there was nothing wrong. Well wrong again! Due to what is going on with my mom and such my mom talked my dad into scheduling a appointment with the doctor to have a full physical. Well again they think something is wrong with his heart. He’s nervous but he’s not really one of those touchy feely guys . I’m not sure what to do. I cant control anything anymore I understand that I have to learn to treat both my mother and my father better because if something does happen .. I couldn’t survive knowing I treated them like crap. I don’t really know what to do right now. I really like the idea of writing in here though.. It helps me cop with what’s going on. Well I better go I have decided that I’m going to put today’s entry’s on this awesome website called advisonators.com so that I can have people help me out or help me cope with this really harsh situation.
-Sincerely-
Megan
Some basic Information-
My mom is 42 shes 110 pounds in great health and looks like shes atleast in her early 30's.
My dad is 41 hes not fat but not skinny. Hes all My dad is also in good health.
Just respond I'm not totaly sure what I'm asking for just give me words of encoaragement (sp?),knowledge, I dont care. Thanks you guys. (link)
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Oh my, where do I start!
Lets start with your dad. I am sure he is okay. He had a bunch of tests before and if the doctors said he was okay then, I am sure he still is. Yearly checkups are good for a persons peace of mind so, going and getting a physical now is going to be good for him.
I wish I knew what it was your mom had. If I did I could find you some information. See if you can find a name for it.
Right now, she is getting help and that is very good. Most things can be fixed if they are caught early. Sounds like she is working on it.
Aneurysms are bad things as you know. I'm sure at some point the doctors will take care of it. They may be waiting for her to quit smoking. If it was Really, really in danger of causing her immediate harm they would be doing it now. So that is a good thing (well, good for what it is).
She will probably get mighty testy at times while she is kicking the smoking habit. That would happen weather she was sick or not. Giving up the smokes can only help her. She doesn't really need any help getting sick. So, her quitting is a good thing.
The blood being thick, I'm not sure what that is. My grandpa had something similar too. I do know he didn't die from that so if she takes care and listens to the doctor that can probably be controlled to.
The fact that she is young and in otherwise good health is in her favor.
I can't tell you not to worry because that would just be stupid. You will anyway. But, she is under a doctors care and you need to trust that they will do their best to care for her.
Keep up the journal because its a really good idea. It will keep you from going bonkers.
I do have one bit of advice about it. If you have a live journal that can be accessed by others on the internet, take your address and phone number clear out of it (if you haven't already). Not a good idea to have that info out there.
Talk to your boyfriend. He sounds like a nice guy and I am sure he wants to help you out too. Be careful that you just cut up and have fun when with him too.
Right now everything seems to be under control. Don't let it get you down to much. Write any time you need to. I am always happy to listen, even if I don't have a good answer for you.
PS...Remember mom will have some really crabby moments while quitting the smoking. Don't take it to heart if she gets snappy with you. :)
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i have insomnia and i take ambien. i havent taken it for a little while, and now iam staring again. My pills are 10 mg. How many should i take? Iam supposed to adjust the amout based on how much it helps me and how fast my tolerance builds up. I looked at the website and i couldnt find the dosage or anything telling you not to exceed a certain amout of pills. Do you think 5 would be a good amount to take? Does anyone know the side effects of that?
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Side effects of taking that many would probably be staying asleep forever.
NEVER take more of a prescription drug ( or any for that matter) than your doctor recommends.
If the dosage isn't doing it for you anymore then you go back to your doctor. If he thinks it needs adjusted he will give you a new RX and will adjust it for you.
Any question of how many to take (which should be on the package of any legitimate RX) Call the doctors office and ask. Do not just take what you think would be a good amount.
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I asked a question awhile ago, and submitted it twice. Why hasnt it gotten on here yet? It shows up in my questions, but not where every1 can answer it??? (link)
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When you ask a question it has to first be approved to be seen on the site.
We have 3 hours to do this before it automatically gets put out there. You asked the questions at 9:30. This question was asked at 10:17.
So, Unless someone approves it before then the question could sit in approval until 12:30.
How soon it goes out just depends on how many people are approving questions.
Confused? Hope not! :)
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Well, there's this guy, omg where do I begin....I love him sooooo much, and I know this for a fact because in the past I've had two bad relationships, and I vowed to myself that I can never love a man again....until I met, well let's call him Jack. Jack and I work together, and we've actually gotten alot closer throughout the time we've worked together. I've liked Jack now for 7 months now. I found out a while back that Jack liked me too, but I never really believed the people who told me because I've been rejected quite a few times. So yeah, I'm like deeply in love with him, and where I work @ we're about to get laid-off, but he said we're gonna keep in touch and besides we live close to eachother. So should I break the ice? Our management staff (cause we're both on it) has this blog thing, I write on it how I feel about a certain someone being jack, be he dosen't know it. But everyone thinks we date, we act like a married couple, and we just basically enjoy eachother in eachothers presence. We're almost like best friends, cause he's been there through alot... so I want him to know how I care about him but I dunno how, and i'm afraid that I'll loose what I already have with Jack. Do yall think there's a possibility that we could date? (link)
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You definitely need to let him know how you feel.
Of course you have a chance. You are already friends. Hard parts over! Don't waste any more time. Talk to him. :)
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i like my friend and i cant stop thinking about hehr but i dont know if she likes me back what should i do? (link)
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Ask her.
I know its a creepy thought but its a sure way to find out. If you're friends then she must like you some anyway. :)
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ok, i am an 18 year old female and my boyfreind is 22 years old. we live a ways apart (him new york me ohio) because i was forced to move. well, we have been living apart for about a month and a half and we can't take it anymore. but we can't decide wether we should have me move up there with him or have him move down here with me. at first we had sorta planned me going and living with him. but then my mom found out that she might have a tumor on her ovaries, tubes, or liver. She doesnt want me to leave because she needs me and my brother will too. (in situations where there is trouble, my brother looks up to me, if im doing ok he will be fine and he knows that). So my mom asked me to ask him to move here so that we coudl both support her and each other. (my mom likes him) but then i owuld be asking him to uproot his life. from the place he lived for 20 years. from his family and his freinds and everything he knows. so i asked him if he would be WILLING to do so. He told me "Whatever i have to do to be with you". But now i feel like i am being selfish in asking him to do that. did i do the right thing in asking him to move here? please help i will rate all good answers as 5's. any smartass comments dont get rated! (link)
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I think you did the right thing. It is important you be with your family right now.
If you want to you can tell him you will be willing to move where he is as soon as all is well again at home. If he still wants to come to you then it may make you feel better about it.
I think he just wants to be with you. He is willing to move so let him and don't feel guilty about it. :)
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ok thers this boy i like, hes rele nice, and he knows i like him and i sorta asked today of he liked me through a note and here are some things i noticed:
1. he anwered the note quickly, like he knew exactly what he was gonna say
2. when he was leaning in his chair, he said that if he fell he would hold onto me (it sounded so romantic when he said it)
3.when the bell rang, he waited for me in the stairwell
4. when we were walking down the stairs, he was wlaking close to me, even though there was plenty of room
5. in last period, he offered to switch seats with the person next to me and kept touching my hand the whole period, he kept saying it was an accident but i dont think it was.
does it seem like he like me? i have a really strong feeling he does but i need it to be confirmed. will rate! nellie (link)
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Nellie, I think he probably likes you!
Keep talking to him every chance you get. Sooner or later I think he will get brave enough to say so. :)
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I was shaving this morning and used a new razor. I didn't pay attention to it but the blades were chipped. So, it cut me while I was shaving and it was pretty bad. Not too deep but not your normal shaving cut. I cleaned it up and wrapped the cuts and everything and at school it felt fine. Now, my leg is hot and red and the cuts kind of burn. I don't think that that shoudl be happening. My mom said it isn't anything to go to the doctors for but she'd take me if I really needed to. Should I go or do you think it will go away on it's own? (link)
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Shaving cuts have to one of the most painful things there is!
I had a friend pull the razor up her leg sideways in the shower once...OUCH!
It should be okay. Use some triple antibiotic cram on it if you have some. It will have a burning pain to it for a couple of days.
If it starts looking as if it is getting infected, then you need to go to a doctor. It shouldn't come to that though.
Peroxide will work too if you have some handy. Keep it as clean as you can. :)
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Hi,
well I am still in love with my x boyfriend lets just say his name is Harrison, and he told all my current x boyfriends that if they did anything to hurt me that he would hurt them very badly, or if they got me pergnet that he would hunt them down and hurt them even harder, but I aint going to get pergnet, but dose that mean he is still in love with me??? we both really like and miss each other and we only live 4 to 5 hours away from each other, can ya just give me any advice if is still in love with me or not???
he even has been trying to get a hold of my friends telling them that he misses me alot!!! and I have alot of strong feelings for him, but I am just wanting to know if he is still in love with me??? Please give me some advice....
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I would say even if it isn't love quite yet he still has some mighty strong feelings for you!
Seems he has done everything but just come right out and say so.
If you still have feelings for him and are interested in getting him back...I think you just need to let him know and it will be a done deal.
It might be that he is afraid you will say no. So, if you want him back...Go talk to the guy! :)
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This might be kind of gross, but for the sake of my friend, please try to help...
I recently found out that one of my friends is purging or becoming bulimic. I'm pretty sure she is but i have no clue how she's doing it. I mean, i've heard different stories and i really want to talk to her about it, but i can't yet. My only question is, is there any kind of medicine/drug that she might be taking for her to do this??? I dont know much about this so i really need to know to help. I know that alot of people just say, "stick your finger down your throat", but i'm not sure if she's doing that. I know she's taken drugs before but i don't know if that can literally cause you to purge. She's had trouble with stuff before but i just recently found out about this. I need to know if what she's taking is causing this. If you have any idea or can tell me what the pills are, i'll appreciate it. I'm just really worried and kind of naive about all this. Please help!!! (link)
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I doubt she is taking any kind of pills. Here is some info that I hope will be of help to you.
She is probably going to need some professionl help.
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/problems/friend_eating_disorder.html
http://www.anred.com/medpsy.html
http://www.anred.com/tx.html
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Ok. 13/m. I don't know if this question goes under Families or Work/School Relationships. Sorry it's so long. I'm really worried for my sister (14/f). She just found her first date at school this year. They went to the movies and all. My sister was just sitting there waiting for him to do something. She had her arm on the armrest the whole time waiting for him to hold it or something. She bought Junior Mints "just in case"---didn't use a single one. She could've talked to me. I've been asking and answering Advicenator questions for months now. I pretty much know what's going to happen and the pains she's going to feel. But no. She doesn't like to tell me stuff. Instead, she tells our cousin, who has serious boy problems. Boys rule her life. Her Bat Mitzvah was ruined because her newest ex was there. She couldn't enjoy Avenue Q because one of her exes liked it. She has serious issues. I know that. My parents know that. My sister just doesn't seem to get it, so she talks to her for advice.
My cousin is saying things like "Well, if he doesn't want to hold your hand, he must not be right. Dump him." or "Try rushing him, that usually works for me." I eavesdrop on their conversations because I'm concerned. I want her to listen to me. I've gotten chances to talk to her which I of course took advantage of, but she refuses to understand. She doesn't believe that she'll face hate, jealousy, rejection, etc. I felt most of it first-hand, but as for the parts actually IN the dating, I couldn't get that far. She doesn't think I know enough. Just because I'm younger and haven't actually dated doesn't mean that I haven't felt jealousy and rejection, I haven't been extremely depressed, etc.
How can I get her to listen to me? Thanks.
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No matter what you do, until you guys move away from home and apart from each other....she isn't going to listen to you.
At least not most of the time. Just seems to be that way most of the time.
She is older than you and I am sure in her head she thinks she knows better what to do than you do.She doesn't but she thinks she should.
Boys of the age you are talking about mature at different times (as I'm sure you know). The guy she went out with may be a little immature yet.
He could just be shy, or he may just want to get to know her better first. People are all brought up differently.
I haven't met a girl yet of that age who doesn't get a bit "boy crazy". It is a sign of immaturity too.
Hopefully, if she won't listen to you she doesn't take to much of what your cousin says to heart.
If she does though, she will just have to learn by her mistakes.
In the mean time, you continue to let her know your opinion.
Sooner or later she is going to wake up and say...Hey, maybe I need to listen to him, he's right. :)
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ok i think im pregnet but i havent had sex. but i learned that sperm can live up to an our after leaving the penis and i was all over my friend w/ benefets with only underwear on. i have one of the symptoms witch is being able to smell things really well. do u think i could be pregnet, if so what should i do?
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You're not pregnant.
I don't recall smelling things well being on the list of symptoms anyway :)
The thing is some people can be pregnant with only a missed period, no other symptoms at all.
You can also have the symptoms and have it be something else completely.
Here are the symptoms though for future reference. This is a great site with lots of info about other things too. Check them out while you are there. :)
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm
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How can i lose weight?!i am 13 female and i weight around 154 pounds!! thats about 50 pounds more than what i want to weigh. any suggestions about how i can diet and exercise to lose like stomach fat or leg fat. how can i eat a better diet? i need to lose weight because i get picked on at school a lot and i dont want that to happen anymore. Please help me out!!! (link)
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Stay away from fast food, candy, soda and things that contain a lot of fat.
Go for walks, ride a bicycle and other things like that for exercise. Just keep moving! ;)
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