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my friends hate him =/
okay i have a problem =/ my friend who i am really close to asked me to homecoming the other day, and i said no. well all along i have really wanted to go with him but people at my school hate him because he dumped one of them like 2 years ago, and they are still upset with him. the thing is, i said no because i didnt want people to be mad at me since it is only the 2nd week of school. Did i do the right thing? He seems really upset and i really want to go so does anyone have any advice? xO
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*gasp* he dumped a girl...?? *double gasps* and only 2 years ago...??? Good god he sounds like a total arsehole/playa/loser...(ATTENTION: Hardhats must be warn at all times to protect against free-falling sarcasm)
It may well only be the second week of school but start as you mean to go on- trusting your own judgement and using your own mind rather than that of the general populace. Most people in highschool are stupid. Don't be one of them.
If you like the guy, date him.
I know you've had a million responses like this but I thought i'd add another voice to the general roar trying to stop you missing out on what could be a great opportunity for the sake of some random girls with bruised egos and chips on their shoulders.
Have fun.
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No i dont think you did the right thing. I think that you should say your really sorry you acted like such a jerk, yes you acted like a jerk, and ask him if he still wants to go to the dance with a hartless fool. Im sorry but that was really mean that you said that it dosent matter what other people think if he is your friend you shouldnt care that people dont like him.
Im sorry but its the truth, and truth hurts!
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Oh, but indeed I do know. You have to make your own decisions in life. Time, place, and what others think shouldn't matter. Let people walk on you now and forever be a doormat. Don't let others tell you how to think or who to date. You are alienating someone who you like because of what others think. Good thing others throughout history didn't do the same. Sorry, still think you did the wrong thing. Sorry you didn't want to hear it. :)
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I hate to say it but you did the wrong thing.
If you like someone and they ask you out...you go. If you want to.
Never, ever make decisions based on what your friends might think. You do whats best for you.
I shouldn't have said never ever. If they had info like he was a criminal or a drug abuser you might hear them out.
Just because he used to date one of them and doesn't any more is just silly. They all need to grow up.
Go tell him you changed your mind. The friends will just have to deal with it. :)
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Honestly, I think that not going with him just because you want to be well liked is really petty. I don't think that dumping someone two years ago should be held against him because people change a lot in two years. You can't really just go back up to him and say you changed your mind after you rejected him like that, but you should talk to him about it. You should say something that's true, no lies, and something that makes him feel a little better. Maybe you could invite him to go to a movie with you or something? I think you should talk to him and maybe find someone else to go to the dance with or else just go with a big group of friends.
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personally i would just tell him that i would go with him. who cares what other people think?? i've had to deal with the fact that my guy isn't the most well liked guy *not b/c he isn't nice, b/c he isn't the best looking*, but i've learned to just not care, and i think you should try to do the same! hope i helped!
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I would have said yes. There is still time! He probably feels bad and upset and now he has no date to the homecoming dance. You shouldn't care what other people think. If your friends were really good friends they would understand. Since it is only the second week of school I guess making good impressions are important. But that is no excuse because now you may become a heartbreaker. So my advice is go tell him your sorry...right in front of your friend if you have too! And if he as no one to go with ask HIM to the dance. I wish you luck :)!
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you shouldnt care about what they think. its about you! if you like him go with him. who ever got dumped will get over it and if they dont that is there problem not yours. don't let other people ruin your night
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I think you did the wrong thing. Maybe the poor kid regrets what he did, but now, because of your other friends grudges, he has no date for homecoming. It's unfair to him, and it's unfair of your friends to take away a good time you might have. I think what you should really do is tell him you feel bad for turning him down and you want to go with him. It's not like your dating him, your friends have no reason to be mad. They have to accept the fact that in life everyone choses different people to be their friends with their own discernment.
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Look in matters like this it is not about what your friends think or want. This is about you and how you feel. If you have wanted to go with him then you shoudl. If you friends get mad over something like that then they are not really your friends. He is really close to you and you shouldnt let him get away. If he is upset its b/c he really liked you and felt that you felt the same way and when you told him no you broke his heart. If your friends didnt feel upset about him and didnt hate would you go with hime to the dance? If so then you should go with him b/c you want to. You cares what your friends think if they are your true friends then they will support you no matter what you do. You should call him.
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Ok:: He's upset you're not going with him. You really want to go with him.
What's the problem there? Don't worry about what other people will think of you if you go. It's your choice. You both want to go with eachother, so GO.
There's not much else to it =)
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well if i were you i would go out with the guy it seems to me like you both really like each other and hey you never know it could be the best choice you ever made.. maybe you should talk to your friends and just be like what if i went out with him or went to homecoming what would you do .. and just see what they say.. hope i heled
~*Deb*~
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Then go with him. Forget anyone else. Those people might be pissed at first but they'll have to get over it, what choice do they have?
And by 'people', do you mean 'friends'? Because going out with another friend's ex is a no-no, in which case you did the right thing.
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