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I'm getting really frustruated with my mom. Everytime I don't get invited to a party or some big event my mom goes off asking me a million questions about why I wasn't invited. She rubs it in more and more that I wasn't invited in the first place. Then when I ask her to stop, she goes off about how dramatic I am and thats probably why I wasn't invited.
What should I do? (link)
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I had a similar experience with my mom; different circumstances. Your mom doesnt mean to be...nosy and frustrating, maybe she doesn't know she is bothering you that much. Anyways, moms always do that so, your not alone. My advice is to talk to her and tell her how her questions bother you etc., she may get a little mad at first, anyone would when they're getting a telling off.
Or, bettter yet, do not even talk about the parties. But if you do,tell your mom when she asks about why you were not invited how they (the hosts) are messing out etc. because your not there. Stand up for yourself which will tell your mom that you do not care why you were not invited. (Even if you do kinda sorta care inside) Self confidence is everything. Maybe, just maybe, she will back off. That might work. Self esteem always does. That is my advice.
P.S. My problem was that my mom was extremley popular when she was younger and I am only in between, average, normal. She did not know what it felt like and that was why she kept pushing. I just told her that I didn't care if I wasn't invited to something because they were missing out on what it could be if I was there. I just held confidence and my mom backed off.
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ok i kno christmas is tomorrow but im a major procrastinator. i have no money, and my dad wont let me borrow money because i already owe him money and i need a gift for my mom. any ideas of something i can make her using thigns from home? she doesnt wear jewelry tho. (link)
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Ok here are a few ideas considering the materials you have:
1. A card, parents love that! A plus!
2. A thing of sugar with a card saying you are really sweet etc. have a happy x-mas etc. Tacky but sweet and simple
3. Bake her cookies or a loaf of gingerbread (borrow ingredients that you need from neighbors or close friends)
4. Get an old frame and put your parents picture or a photo of you etc.
5. Make a ton of cards with freebie tasks thaT you will do when she wants to use the card (For ex: Free Babysitting, or free garage cleaning etc.)
Or, just give her lots of love with an I.O.U :)
Hope I helped!
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okay i love photography a lot.
and today we given a fortune cookie and told to take the fortune...read it and make some sort of digital photography with what it is says.
and i got "Believe in yourself and others will too."
any ideas i can do?
thanks (link)
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You could take a picture of a group of girls laughing looking very spirited. A person staring at the sky (a bird flying by) laughing and smiling. You could take a picture of someone taking a dimploma in hand or shaking hands etc. A bird sometimes symbolizes belief. That is my advice.
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Im sad all the time it feels like. Every single day that goes by i am always so sad and i can never feel happy. I try to be happy but i can't becuase i just feel so alone and it scares me becausei just want to be able to not worry about things and smile. I'm on anti depression medication too. My hole life is falling apart. (link)
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If you want to feel better my advice it to figure out why you are sad. If you do you can figure out what can make you happy. Hang out with the people you love, it will get you in a good spirit. Also, so the things you love and dare yourself to do the things you were afraid of doing. That is my advice. Relax, be calm,talk to your doctor if you have to, and encourage yourself to be happy and not worry. Maybe you have a lot of things on your mind such as the future and are under a ton of stress. Stress can kill a person and play with their mind. Relxa and take a bubble bath, do yoga, anti depression medication can help, but you can help youself more. Pamper yourself....do something that makes you feel good. Always be confident of your decisions and keep a high self estem. That is my advice.
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Im getting a filling tomorrow for a cavity!! Im really scared. Does it hurt? (link)
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I have had a filling so many times. It does not hurt I promise you. All they do is numb your mouth etc. It will be done in no time. Do NOT be scared or when it happens you will be all jittery. Be calm and you will do fine. That is my advice.
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My dad has yelled and cussed since I was born. For example, last night his sister called and I went over to him and I had the phone in my hand. I said, "Dad? Do you want to talk to your sister? Here's the phone." And he ignored me, so I put it down and was walking up the stairs, and he heard his sister leaving a message. He ran over to the phone, turned to me, and yelled, "YOU IDIOT! WHY DIDN'T YOU ANSWER IT?" And I didn't know what to say because I had asked him if he wanted to talk to her, but he didn't answer. I coudn't cry in front of him. I did once and he started screaming at me for it. Do I even have a reason to be upset for him saying that to me? I don't know. Sometimes I feel so stupid for getting upset over things like that and I don't think I have a reason to. I was trying to tell my mom something earlier and he walked by, glared at me, and said, "SHUT UP!" For no reason. He yells and cusses at me and my brother almost every day for no reason at all. I've talked to my mom before and she didn't do anything. The only time she's tried talking to my dad about it, he simply started cussing at me and her. He's okay one minute, then the next he's yelling like a maniac. I can't take this anymore. I'm still crying over something he said to me LAST year. Do I have a reason to be upset? What am I supposed to do? (link)
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Always be strong is my advice. Your dad is having some anger issues that are not called for. Dads are NOT supposed to cuss and yell to their children. So, just remember, you have done nothing wrong. Block out every single thing he says that is false, ignore those comments. Your dad probably doesn't know he is hurting you that much.You are not stupid. Tell yourself this everytime you feel that you are, because if you don't, you will grow up with low self estem and no confidence. Your mom and your brother are going through the same ordeal so consult them and like I said before, stay strong. If things really turn out for the worst and your dad is hurting you so bad go to a school guide, teacher, or someone you trust.
Your dad has a problem, talk to him about it if you can, and if you can not,just be normal and follow my advice. Your dad loves you, he is just going through a tough time or has had a horrible childhood. Who knows, maybe he thinks cussing and yelling is no big deal.
Stay strong, no matter what, that is my advice.
P.S. I do not think school guides tell the parents but I am not exactly sure. Maybe if the situation is extreme. But, they (the school g.) are there to HELP you.
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Two of my supposed friends my friends have definitely been talking about me behind my back. How should I confront them? (link)
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That has happened to me before. First thing NOT to do is accuse them off the bat. They will accuse you etc. and then you guys will get REALLY mad and confused. I suggest you come up to them and talk to them normally then let the subject come up. That is when you make your move and tell them you know they are talking about you etc. (I suggest you get evidence first just in case, like ask ppl etc.) If they act innocent keep trying, do not try REALLy hard or they will gossip and completly ignore you all together. Ask them why and what have you done to them etc. etc. If you have to (and you are REALLy angry) be patient and act confused plus innocent if you are on your last nerve. Then, get some new friends, believe me there are a lot of good friends in the world. Your backstabbing friends are NOT true friends, so do not go begging back with them. Stand Strong. Hope that Helped!
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well my friend and i were going to go trick-or-treating together but then she got to know her neighbor (she is 19) and her son. it seemed like she was really nice and me and my friend usually went over to hang out with him but then today she told me that she had a problem with me and that i did something so im not aloud at her house any more or see the little boy. like holy i didnt do anything.. please help me!!! (link)
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This friend you talk about may have been either pressured to do so or was just feeling bad about something etc. She probably did not mean to say it like she did. Go and talk to her and see what you did wrong (if you did anything)and try to make things right between you two. If that doesn't work, do not lose patience and evaluate the situation. Is she the kind of person who would do that? Was something bothering her? Look for all the signs. If she plainly just has something against you, it is a lost cause, leave it be and find something/someone else to hang out with. It is not worth it if she will not tell you anything or speak to you. That is my advice. Good luck! Hope I helped a bit!
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Is blow drying bad for you hair?
Is shampoo bad for you hair?
Why?
Thanks guys! (link)
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Blow drying is bad for your hair is you do it to often. It drys out your hair I think....I'm not sure. I have never heard that shampoo is bad...maybe it is. If you want to be precationous though, I would check the label of ingredients. Hope I helped!
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I feel like I am not needed. Like I don't have a purpose on this Earth. I feel like if I was gone, no one would notice. And I honestly believe that no one would. I would be gone for weeks before any of my "friends" noticed I was gone. And my family, they would all move on extremely quickly. I am always forgotten, left on the sidelines, doing nothing, locked up in my room, wishing that someone loved me....
How do I get pass this? (link)
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You are needed. People would notice if you went missing. Your parents do care about you. It sometimes may not seem like it at first but your family would probably would not move on fast, or at all for that matter. As for your friends, if you don't think that they will notice if you went away then either talk to them and ask or make new friends.If you did not have a purpose on earth then you wouldn't be alive. Everyone has a purpose in life. We may not know what it is at first but eventually it will come. I hope this helped.
Also if you feel depressed get yourself into some summer activites. It gets you active and you get to make friends :)
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My friend met this guy and he is the sweetest guy ever and stuff, and im wicked jealous of her, and this guy talks to me about her because they like eachother and they know it and he told her he loved her and stuff and she said it back but idk what to do because im always talking to him about her..like im her best friend so he asks me for advice about what she likes & stuff, but idk...this whole thing is getting to me and getting me WICKED jealous like, its not right to feel this jealous about anything...so what should i do? Should i stop talking to him? should i stop talking about him with my best friend, or should i keep helping them? because this is like tearing me apart...anything helps thanks (link)
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That usually happens all the time to girls. Getting stuck in the middle is tough, especially when you like the guy. My advice is to think of him as a friend, not a boyfriend. Give him advice if he needs it, be pretty normal. Just control the jealousy. Do not wreak your friendship with ur friend. Friendships are awesome to have and majorly important. You could mention it to her....but keep it casual.
Whenever you get jealous remember friendship.
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so theres this girl and we were friends for a long time since 5th grade .. but this year we kinda stopped talking.. idk why but the people who we hated in september now shes BEST friends with them.. and it made me mad in the begining but now it doesnt bug me.. so we made plans sometime in december when we were close and we had a great time and lauging and everything and then the next day we went to the mall and had fun again.. but then after that we started talking less and less everyday.. we were in the same math class and lunch table and we hardly talked to eachother..i felt like we werent hanging out and talking much so i decided to try to become better friends with her again by asking her to go to this carnival by my house and she said yes so i went to go pick her up except my sister(one of her friends but they dont do anything out of school) and her best friend(my sisters best friend) went too! so this girl who i invited wasnt even hanging out with me just talking to them because shes better friends with them and i was like in myhead.. uh hello i invited you ! so then when we got there they ran off and me and this girl started walking around but we ddint really have enouigh money to buy those bracelt things so we didnt know if we should buy tickets.. so for like 20 minutes we were like in dead silencewalking around.. and it was really awkward cause everytime i tried to start a conversation or laugh or something she would just be like..yeah..whatever and keep walking and so then i said how bout we go get more money from my mom and buy tickets and so she said yeah.. and so we went on the rides and laughed a couple times but it was still awkward around her.. i thought she was ina bad mood that night or something but then when we ran out of tickets on our last ride.. my sister and her friend came right behind us and i was left out again because im not really friends with the other girl either. idk if i should keep on trying to be friends with this girl or not..it seems like evry time i try to talk to her or hang out with her its so awkward sorry that its long.. (link)
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I had the same problem with a friend. If your not getting a good vibe when your around your friend, then stop acting desperate and find some new friends who actually care to talk to you. It is tough, I know, but believe me she is not the only person out there. There are probably like a lot of ppl at your school. Make friends with them. If she is not making an effort to she how cool and nice you are, then do not try to be friends with her. Still be nice and all though but make new friends. If she comes back to you....then do what your heart tells you to do. That is my advice.
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My cousin is a big person, she's fat and big chested. Some of the clothes she wears are really inappropriate. Yesterday she had on something that looked like her boobs were going to fall out. What should I say to her about the way she dresses? At school she's just a big joke with all the boys. They called he Double D Lottay and stuff. So what should I do? (link)
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If this is bothering you a lot talk to your cousin about it. Express yourself and tell her how you feel. That's my adivce. Simple but complete.
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hey...alrite well anyone might be able to answer this one. um well i'm on the bball team at my school and we COULD be really good, but we have a bunch of people who wont play as a team. no one passes the ball, or cares about succeeding. we have lost almost every game so far because of this. what can happen so everybody participates, cares, and starts a "TEAM" i'll rate for good and helpful answers thanks (link)
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All my friends were like that on my fall volley-ball team, we could not even hit a ball w/o missing because we did not bump it over. No one helped one another etc. We tried to act a bit spirited and did some cheers which made us feel better, but since your a guy that may not be the answer you are looking for. i suggest hanging out more with your team and practicing working w/ eachother with some partner/team drills. My coach made this because she could she where all this was going. Tell your coach and if he/she knows already then...they may be a good person but a bad coach because all about being on a team is team work. Goodluck!
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A friend of one of my friends recently commited suicide, and it's really taking a toll on my friend. (Let's just call her Jane haha) So I've tried talking to Jane, but every time I try to comfort her or w/e she says something really rude or just turns away. I know she's grieving, and I'm trying to tell myself it's nothing personal, but what she's doing is really hurtful. How should I tell her how this makes me feel? Is it too early? (This happened just a couple days ago.) Can anyone tell me how I should try and make her feel better? Thanks. (link)
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Helping a friend get over something tragic is hard. My advice is to let her be for a while until she can get a hold of herself. But, a good friend would do exactly what you are trying to do...so great job. If she is being rude it IS because she is grieving and torturing herself in such away that she can not think of anything else but her friend. It is a bit early, so in a week or so tell her. It may be a bit hard..but try it, it may work. that is my advice and goodluck!
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Do you believe in God or not? Explain why. Don't say because that's the way you were raised, I'm talking about how you feel now.
Do you really believe that God is real just because a book was written saying there was one? Couldn't it be a fable?
Do you support evolution and the Big Bang Theory or not? Please explain as much as you can. I will give you all 5's! (link)
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I do believe in God, I really don't know why, it just makes me feel as if someone is looking after to me. God is kind of like a rolemodel. I hear about him all the time and even if I wasn't Catholic, I would still be interested. Sometimes, I ask myself is he real..etc. But it doesn't really matter..at least to me..whether he is real or not. Also, we had to be made out of something...I mean where did we come from? There are many theories I think, but I believe in the Bible, lies or not.
God was a rolemodel for every person..he was real( aka a man the Bible says called Jesus) ..maybe not EVERYTHING the Bible proclaims but a person along time ago proclaimed to love etc. I believe God is real...it doesn't matter what a book says. It could be a fable..we really don't know. I really do not know what the Big Bang Theory is. I do know though, I believe in God because he changed my life..as in little miracles that someone might think was a coincidence.
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My parents have been telling me Santa Claus is real..I mean I am trying to believe but my parents have given off to MANY clues. I asked my mom the other day and she gave me the whole pep talk. Is Santa Claus real or is it his "helpers" who live w/ me? (link)
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Listen to your heart...your parents will tell you out of their own free-will when they want to. Santa is part of the holiday.
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my boyfriend told me, i have the curiousity of a cat but the heart of a saint.
can someone translate it? i have no idea what it means, please. (: thanks loves. (link)
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I think it means you are curious and sneaky but you have the heart of a saint which i think means you have a big heart (you care a lot.)
Hope that helped,
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My friend stopped speaking to me beacuse of her other friend. I tried to apoligize but it didn't work. We haven't spoken in like 6 months and I never see her anymore because she moved. What would you do in this situation? What do you think of my friend?
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My friend did the same thing to me for a couple of days...but not months! We made up...it was a misunderstanding. But, in your situation I advise you not to make an effort anymore. Yuo apologized and tried to talk to her and all she's doing is pushing you away. If she hasen't make an effort to say she's sorry or something then she is no good friend. Why even call her a friend? If it was because of this other friend that she won't talk to you then maybe she is hearing rumors or afraid to talk to you. I would just be your normal self and say hi to her sometimes and if she mumbles hi or says nothing well, it is life. Like you said she moved so if you say hi in a e-mail, letter etc. and if she just mumbles forget about it. Good friends will always saty and bad friends will be left behind. Do not be intemidated by her! Be yourself and find some other friends that deserve to know who you are. That is my advice.
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I think I might like my ex boyfriends best friend. I don;t now what to do. I still like my ex but I think I may like his friend more. what should I do. If you have ever had a problem like this please tell me what you did. thanks. (link)
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I have never had that sort of problem but here is my advice: I think you should go tell him you like him. It will not hurt...only your ex's feelings a bit. Does your ex have a girlfriend already? Well if he does and you did not feel sad or mad or something like that then I bet her won't feel anything as well. But if he doesn't have a grlfriend, well you will have to make the 1st move because no mattter what you guys will get a boy/girl friend someday or another. Even if it is their best friend. Sure....it may hurt a little to them but after a while they will get used to it. But still sat friends with your ex, he may like you still a little too and would not want to always be left out. That is my advice.
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