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Moms hurting my feelings.
I'm getting really frustruated with my mom. Everytime I don't get invited to a party or some big event my mom goes off asking me a million questions about why I wasn't invited. She rubs it in more and more that I wasn't invited in the first place. Then when I ask her to stop, she goes off about how dramatic I am and thats probably why I wasn't invited.
What should I do?
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I dont now, most parents (wel mine) are nosy.Ive learned to IGNORE them.they ask a question u dont feel comfortable answering or dont want to answer then dont.thats what i had to do, And in front of people muh mom is strict super mom but at home she knows i dont care what she says or does.At this point ive ignored her so much either i get grounded or i do what i want to do(Which is usually the case)But when i get grounde i dont listen anyways so it dont matter.I love my mom and all, but i had to somehow show her that i wasnt gonna let her do as she pleases if i cant do as i please!Any ways what ever you do,GOOD LUCK!!
Hope i helped!
love always
~Angel~
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I had a similar experience with my mom; different circumstances. Your mom doesnt mean to be...nosy and frustrating, maybe she doesn't know she is bothering you that much. Anyways, moms always do that so, your not alone. My advice is to talk to her and tell her how her questions bother you etc., she may get a little mad at first, anyone would when they're getting a telling off.
Or, bettter yet, do not even talk about the parties. But if you do,tell your mom when she asks about why you were not invited how they (the hosts) are messing out etc. because your not there. Stand up for yourself which will tell your mom that you do not care why you were not invited. (Even if you do kinda sorta care inside) Self confidence is everything. Maybe, just maybe, she will back off. That might work. Self esteem always does. That is my advice.
P.S. My problem was that my mom was extremley popular when she was younger and I am only in between, average, normal. She did not know what it felt like and that was why she kept pushing. I just told her that I didn't care if I wasn't invited to something because they were missing out on what it could be if I was there. I just held confidence and my mom backed off.
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My Mom does the same thing but one day I just burst out crying cause it sucks to feel that way from the one person whos supposed to help. Then my Mom finally realized what she was doing. So what I'm telling you is make your Mom realize that she's hurting your feelings. I'm not sure what to tell you on what to do to get her to but once she does realize, she'll stop. She doesn't want to hurt the person she loves most believe me.
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Personally, I wouldn't tell her anything anymore. Or tell her, calmly, that she's making you more upset. She may be doing it without realizing it.
Hope I helped!
-Jam
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