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I feel like I am not needed. Like I don't have a purpose on this Earth. I feel like if I was gone, no one would notice. And I honestly believe that no one would. I would be gone for weeks before any of my "friends" noticed I was gone. And my family, they would all move on extremely quickly. I am always forgotten, left on the sidelines, doing nothing, locked up in my room, wishing that someone loved me....
How do I get pass this?
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Darling,
We all have feeling like this once in a while but it's not true. Think about it if your freinds didn't want you, you wouldn't be friends with them. If you family didn't want you they would find you another home. Talk to you mother about how you feel if she thinks its right she may take you to the doctor. Depression is a serious matter and can sneak up on you. Do more family things and activities that make you smile. Talk to a close friend and hang out with them when you get a chance. Notice little things like when your mom gets mad at you or says you can't do anything. It's because she loves you and wants you to be safe. Talk Talk Talk. Find things to keep yourself busy and active. Dancing, running, singing. Anything. Things will get better but be sure to tell your family or at least your mom how you feel. Tell me how the talk goes and how you feel in a week or two.
Sincerly,
Vennessa.
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I'm so sorry that things are so tough for you right now. What you're feeling right now really isn't that uncommon and that's the first thing you need to realise.
You need to have a good long think about what it is that has made you feel this way and if there is any way at all that you could have helped the situation. I'm not saying it's your fault but what I am saying is that sometimes we do things every day that separate ourselves from others without even realising it and if we can work out what we do, we can fix it and be open to others again. I went through the same thing myself and I used to shut myself away in a classroom away from my own, by myself because I felt like nobody noticed me. Then I realised nobody noticed me because I was never there and when I was there, I warded people away with my negativity. People avoided me becasue I was upset all the time and they didn't know what to say to me. So this is why I say you need to think about this.
Next, you need to find a reason, a purpose for your life. It doesn't have to be anything huge. You don't need to rush into meeting that special someone or having children. What you need to do is work out what you used to feel passionate about and then find a way to work with that. For example, if you were good at drama, find yourself an amateur dramatics group where you can get involved in acting in real productions. If you liked writing, commit yourself to writing a book or a story. If you liked sports, find a sport you enjoyed and join a team. Whatever it is, make sure it is something that you can devote yourself to and try to make it social if you can. If it's not social, make sure it's something uplifting (i.e - if you want to write something, write a comical or enchanting children's novel).
Believe me, people DO notice you and people would be devestated and crushed if anything happened to you. The fact is that with the busy lives everyone has today, sometimes they forget to truly appreciate the ones they care about and they feel pushed into the sidelines. If that is the case, then remind them you're there. Get out of your locked room and go join them. Try to get them engaged in a game or a family outing or even just sit and talk with them or watch TV. Please remember that however low you might feel right now, you won't make yourself feel like they notice you if you shut yourself away, which prevents them from noticing you. I hope that makes sense...
It always hurts to feel forgotten or unimportant and it's easy at times like this to subject ourselves to criticism and self loathing but it won't make things better. You need to throw open your curtains and MAKE people notice you. Just try being more involved and you really have to make an effort. If it doesn't work to begin with, it's purely because people might not be used to it but you keep at it and I promise you, you will notice a change in them. Maybe even you too.
In the meantime, if you need to talk, please feel free to contact me any time. I know how hard things can be.
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Dear ?,
Everyone feels that they aren't loved every once in a while. It is a simple part of life. But either you believe it or not your mom and dad and friends will always love you no matter what you do or say to them. If you don't think they love you, one person always will...God he is on your side 110% and he will always love and forgive you no matter what the price he loves everybody including you. Alot of people love you!
<3 Alli
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You need to get out there and be yourself. Don't be afraid to speak up, maybe that's what everyone is waiting for--to hear you. They know you are there but may feel that you wont enjoy yourself because you don't include yourself in anyway.
I suggest starting off slowly and asking your friends if you can participate in the activity. And by the way, they would miss you, trust me on this one!!
I hope this helps and by the way, this too will pass and getting away from your shyness will definitely help it all go away!!
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Everything you just said was how i felt before. It lasted almost 2 yrs until i began getting older i just put myself out there more and wasnt afaid to do anything and people noticed me. I told my mom i felt like i didn't wanna be here anymore and she told me that i have along life ahead of me and i should make the best of it. So i have been changing my life around and i have become very happy with my decisions i make. Don't worry about what people say and make sure they know u dont care, they will respect you. I still havnt found out why i am here to be who i am but i realized that i will soon find out.
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Just know this. Every person has a person who would die for them, and you do too. Someone cares deeply for you, even though you may not know them. And don't ever think that the people you care about wouldn't miss you. You have a deep influence on your friends and everyone who cares about you. Don't lose hope.
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First of all, I know how you feel because I've felt like that many times before. Every one has a prupose in life, or else we wouldn't be here. If songs and music help you, like they do me, listen to "Welcome to Wherever You Are" by Bon Jovi. It usually picks me up when I'm feeling like that. Second of all, you have to understand that there are at least 10 people in this world who truely care about you. Really take time for think about it and name them for yourself. I assume your parents and best friend would top the list. As someone else said, my friends (especialy my best friend) and I always say, "you go, i go". We don't even have to be talking about anything like that, but we can sense how we are feelign and that just makes us feel better. Another way to make you feel like you have a purpose in life is star helping around the community. I recently got invovled in a project that sends books to kids who need them, such as Katrina victims. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) You can also go to that website for more ideas. Last of all, you need to live for yourself. Other people are going to carry knives and stab you in the back or otherwise hurt you in some way. Be independent, self sufficiant, and love yourself first!
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You are needed. People would notice if you went missing. Your parents do care about you. It sometimes may not seem like it at first but your family would probably would not move on fast, or at all for that matter. As for your friends, if you don't think that they will notice if you went away then either talk to them and ask or make new friends.If you did not have a purpose on earth then you wouldn't be alive. Everyone has a purpose in life. We may not know what it is at first but eventually it will come. I hope this helped.
Also if you feel depressed get yourself into some summer activites. It gets you active and you get to make friends :)
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Aww, listen up you are needed and im pretty sure people would be devistated if you were to be gone. If you want someone to talk to im here, brautiganh212 is my screen name please talkto me sometime! Just keep your head up and dont do anything stupid, if its really that bad maybe you have some sickness, and im not lying i have friends like that. But im garanteeing you you have tons of friends and family that care for you! And if you're really locked up in your room thats crazy?
best of luck, please talk to me sometime if you want too! =)
-Heather
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dont say that im sure your a very speacial and kind person...and you are needed , by your family and your true friends i know you probably dont feel or notice it but your family loves you and so do many other people...if you were to be gone im sure many people would be crushed and there is noway they would get over it easy atall you dont notice it but you are loved by many people im sure...maybe you think you dont have a purpose on earth because you haven't found yours yet , and im sure you will one day i guess your just goin to have to look on the brightside and wait for whats coming....good or bad well i hope i helped in any way if i havent then im sorry and good luck if you ever need any advice im here
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Don't worry you aren't the only one feeling this way. I feel the same way all the time; I can't help you with how to get past it but try talking to your friends. They will probally tell you they feel the same way and you guys can reassure eachother that you do care. That's what I did. My friend and I were talking about it one day and we ended up feeling better knowing we weren't alone. Trust me your not alone.
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I feel like this a lot of the time, what I did was I told my friends how I was feeling. They told me that they would die if I died, and it really made me feel better also try to get more involded in what your friends and family do. Hope for the best!
~*Brianna*~
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