I am a teacher and I love working with teens. I am one of their favorite teachers because I do sit down and listen to them. I allow them to cry on my shoulder and have been noted as a second mother to many of my students. I enjoy answering questions from teens about their lives and when school is back in session I will have my students help me with the advice by asking them what they would do so hopefully that will further help any and all questions that do come my way.
Gender: Female
Location: California
Occupation: Language Arts Teacher
Age: 34
Member Since: July 4, 2006
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what are some good books you've read lately? i need to catch up on stuff (link)
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I teach reading and I know I can find the perfect book for you if you let me. I need to know your age, your favorite subjects in school, what youre passionate about, and what genre you like the most. Genre is Science Fiction, Romance, Novella, Mysteries. Do you like short stories or novels? Do you like plays? If you can answer these questions, I will make a list of books that you can check out. I also need to know how old you are and what level you read at. Email me if you get the chance at la7_Hamlett@yahoo.com
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What realy makeing out?Whats the diffrence between making otu and kissing?!?? im so lost.. (link)
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Making out used to mean just kissing but has evolved through the years. Making out usually leads to sex and is a ploy most boys use to get the girls to have sex with them. "We dont have to do anything but make out." Does that sound familiar? Ladies, DO NOT FALL FOR THAT OLD TRICK or anything else they have planned. If a kiss is innocently planted and not planned--the boy really likes you. Please do not go for their old tricks.
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about a week ago, my parents were fighting. it was so bad that me and my sister had to call my grandparents to tell them that we would like to sleepover. our parents tried to work it out but i don't know what will happen. also the next day when my dad saw us, he started crying and saying that he loves us. it was weird though to see my dad crying but i thought something was going on. yesterday i went blueberry picking with my parents and my sister. i wasn't really up to it but my mom said privately to me that we did this to be together and we don't have to be together and not have my father.
i am really scared now. please can you help me?
ty in advance. 13/f (link)
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I agree with younggrandma. I also think that maybe you could talk to your mom one on one about the situation. I would ask her if its ok for you to have somewhere to go so that you don't have to hear it. It's hard listening to all the fighting and very scary. If you tell your mom or father this maybe they will try to do it elsewhere or get you a counselor. It does sound like they love each other and I am glad that you are able to go see your grandparents. The biggest suggestion I have for you is to pray really hard about the situation and be strong for whatever may come your way. I hope things work out for you and your family. It sounds like its a good one with the blueberries and all. I sure wish that was my life...
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next year im going to high school. the seniors initiate all of the freshmen. has anyone been initiated before? what did they do to you? please help. im scared to go to high school. (link)
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All upperclassmen love to scare their lower classmen. It's almost kind of funny because its working. If you are seriously afraid, don't be. I suggest you stay with friends that will back you up if anything does happen. I also suggest talking to the teachers and getting to know some of the security guards. If you are scarce with friends, hang out around the security guards so if something does happen, you will get help immediately. Please let me know if this helps and if you need any further ideas on how to stay safe without everyone knowing it. Good Luck!! and remember to have fun in High School!!!!
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I'm eighteen and I've had a FWB relationship with a guy that I've had a crush on since my sister and he had graduated. Didnt see him again after that until I met him at a party one night and we hit it off.
We establsihed that we would just be FWB, but lately we have become like B/F and G/F without the title.
We both don't have that great of a track record of relationships, both our hearts were broken.
But I'm tired of this because I want to know what is up with this.
I don't want to weird him out - but I really do want to know how to approach him about it in a non pressuring way. I don't want to ruin what we have now to because I like it. Advice please? (link)
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This is the reason why I don't go for the whole FWB idea to begin with; however, you seem to finally want to get out and I want to help you. Most of the men I find walk away as soon as the feelings begin to blossom because they dont understand that the "F" means Friendship and from that it does grow. I think for the guys, they need to re-term their ways because the "F" is not working for them. I feel its a ploy to get women to sleep with them and keep on sleeping with them. In your case, it sounds like he may be falling for you and thus is a delicate situation. I suggest you two talk it out and remind him that you are his friend and are just being honest with yourself. You need to also make sure that you can walk away sane if he decides to leave. I do hope that things work out for you two, I would definitely love to see that these "FWB" relationships actually turn into the real thing. Good Luck!!!!
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what are some things I can do for a guy to make him feel special and aren't overly gooshy? (link)
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Guys enjoy it when you are into what they are into. If he loves his Xbox, play a game with him. If he loves the races, suggest going with him and have him explain things to you while you seem interested and dont forget to buy him the T-shirt. Whatever the guy is into, show interest by joining in and making him feel like the King he thinks he is. Have fun!!
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ok well my friend is having problems but i don't know how to help her. she has family problems and she just moved so she doesn't have any friends where she moved and she is having so much problems but i don't know how to help. what should i do? (link)
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Does she have email? Call her and talk to her. I think its awesome you want to help your friend and it sounds like you need to find some form of communication to keep in contact with her. If there is no form of communication, GET ON YOUR KNEES and Pray!! God will help!!
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okay I really like this boy but, I can't describe what I feel for him... Is it love? or just a 13 year old's crush?
TY in advance Jeni Lots Of love (link)
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Youre 13 go to the movies and stop playing house. You will get their someday and don't worry about all of this love stuff, its complicated enough for adults. Have fun being you and hanging out and if this boy likes you, you will know.
Love takes time and that little word is thrown out way too much. I hope that this boy likes you too and I hope you hold hands on the beach and play volleyball. And don't forget to build a sandcastle.
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There is a guy at school that I really like and I asked him out and he said yea so then we had dinner and all that then he took me to his house and he started to take of his clothes and so did I so now were naked and he came towards me and we started to have sex and then he cumed in me and he said "oh crap" and got his clothes imeditly and ran off with his car and I havent seen him since I havent told my parents yet and I missed my period. Somone please help what should I do (link)
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If you are pregnant you need to talk to your parents even though this will be the toughest day of your life. I also had a similiar experience and I was in love with the guy and yes I had his son. I was so scared of telling my mother but I knew I needed her more than life itself. She took me in, our relationship got better and my son was the best thing for her because of all the love he gave her. She is now in Heaven and I am glad I told my mother. Parents will surprise you. They will be in shock at first and you need to let them be in shock but the main thing is dont lie about anything. You made an honest mistake and now you are reaping what you sew. But life doesnt end here with being pregnant, it could be a new beginning for all of you. And please remember that if you are pregnant, your child did not ask to be conceived so please do not do anything you will regret later. I was asked to abort my child by his father and my mother stood up and said, "No way!" Go to your parents...
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Alriiight SO. Theres this guy I reallyyy like and hes like totally sexy. Weve gone out before, and I dumped him for another guy. I totally regret it because the guy I dumped him for I also broke up with. I want to go back to the first guy and I think he is a little mad at me. I dont remember his number because I never put it in my phone, and he hasn't gotten online in forever. I dont know what to do. I really miss talking to him, so if he gets on what should I say to make him forgive me? I have said like I love you again and I broke up with the guy I dumped him for but we dont seem satisfied. I really want him back! What should I doooo? Thanks in advance! lol (link)
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Ok I agree with telling him all that stuff Lola says to say but talking is not the answer. Actions speak louder than words. You need to show him that you care. Think of something that you can do for him as a silent gesture. I also want to make clear that the more you talk or not talk is not good either because he will consider you to be a stalker and run from you. You need to choose wisely what you will do and execute your plan. A little talk and a lot of action and does not include humping the boy's leg.
Good luck!!
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ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 2 & a half months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in less then a month and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. What should I do? (link)
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I think that you should put your feelings aside (at least try anyway) for a while. I say this because I feel that he wants a friendship from you and if you two go back to being friends, it may turn into something more special. Long distance relationships rarely last and if you are in front of him on a daily basis as a friend he will see that you have changed. Just go to school, focus on you school work and be his friend. I hope this helps. Keep in touch!!
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um i dont no how to spell it um lke he takes it rudely like i am trying to hurt him and what is really bothering me is that like i just got back from a three week trip and they dont even want to know about all atention is still on my sis but i may not hear your replie for two weeks because their is something wrong with my old dog who lives at my nanas and i wanna go see if i can help (link)
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I was talking about your father and not your boyfriend. Sometimes your letters are a bit confusing. You begin talking about one thing and then end on something else. I can only help you if you are clear and concise about your question and the situation at hand. Please try to clear up who you are talking about and the exact question you want answered.
I sure hope your dog is ok.
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but it seems like every time i try he takes it offencofly and then i get grounded or there is too many poeple around (link)
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What is offencofly?
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ok well but like i need her alot right now because of my mom and my sister we have never gotten along and now i feel like she is takeing my dad away and now i feel almoat like i resent her for the way guys always pick her its like i am the last option (link)
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Are you sitting in the corner not saying anything to anyone? You need to sit down with your father and talk to him. You are his little girl and he loves you I am sure of that. Please go talk to him and hug him no matter what.
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what i forgot to mentiion to you was that the way he dumped me was thro my best freind he asked her to tell me and then like 2 hours later he told her he dumped me becaus e he was in love with her and he even sent her 54 things he liked about her and now ,ii feel lik he lied to me because how he feel that way and still say all those nice things about me i was so upset that i calloed him while i was at my bf house and spazzed at him he told me the other reason he had dumped me was because i couldnt handle being complimented i feel so weird and i told her that if she waants to date him she can i have no right to hold her back but secretly i am worried he may hurt her aswell andthen i would seriously kill him because she is the only person i feel close to and i forgot to mentoin all my freinds and my ex live in reddeer and i live in calgary so i am sorta only there like once a month and over the comp and the phone i have no freinds here yet so that sucks really bad but any way do you have a name or a nickname or should i call you beety cuz i always wanna put dear _______________ buit what do i put after (link)
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You can call me betty. Moving can be a good thing. New friends, new start. Keep some of the old ones like this girlfriend of yours. It sounds like she may need your shoulder when all is said and done with this crazy boy. She may need more counseling than you and when she comes to you, open your arms but dont say "I told you so!" Just say, "You'll get through it" and have fun hanging out.
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ok so well um i decided i was not ready since every thing is going on at home i dont have the time or love3 for a boy freind it worked out perfectly tho cause he broke up with me cause um i geuss i have been mean lately so it helped figure rejection doesnt always hurt really bad but the reason i am messed up is cuz i have shed more tears in the past 2 months than in my life it is partly because my mom she lefft me a few years ago with my dad and now she never talks to me or any thing and she constantly lies and it really hurts and now my sis has moved in with me and my dad and his girlfreind has too and we also moved to calgary from reddeer and that was the only true place i felt happy but i didnt want to hold my dad back and i am just not feeling myself lately (link)
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It's tough that your mom left but do know this, it her problem and not yours. She isnt ready to be a mother while you sound definitely ready to be a good daughter. It sounds like you Dad is also trying to move on but perhaps is forgetting about his little girls feelings. Either way, you are the child and he is the adult and while some of their decisions are childish you still have to follow suit. My cousin had the same thing happen to him and the whole family was quite shocked because while growing up she loved him dearly and then one day she vanished. All this happened when he was also 12 or so. Every year goes by and I see him gain more strong because he is very close with his father. Perhaps you could gain strength from your sister. Hopefully you can ban together and make life good again. One thing is for sure and that is that God loves you and I dont know if you go to church but maybe you ought to seek out some friends that do go. This will give you more peace than you can imagine and it will fill that void. God has a plan for you and he is making you a very strong individual, go to him.
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Hi bettyboopstr ( love your name by the way) I am a 42 year old woman. I am married. and have 3 children. I have been a factory worker for many years but would love to get into some kind of counceling work. Preferably family counceling but am open to other possibilities. My problem is time. I live in a low income area of kenticky. The closest University to me would be a round trip of 3 hours. This would be very difficult for me wiht my work schedule and my family as well. I have been considering ditance learning. I see many programs offered on the internet ( PCDI, Penn Foster etc.) How can I be sure upon completing a program like this that I would be qualified to work in said field or whether or not that typt of degree would even be acceptable. I want to do this very badly as I feel it is my calling but I certainly don't want to waste my time or money either. Any ideas or suggestions would be very appreciated. thanks (link)
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I suggest you sit down with your husband and make a plan. I am single and made it through despite many years of obstacles but the one thing I made sure to do was to complete it. I am going on year 8 with two quarters to go. When there is a passion, it does not matter how long it takes you, it just matters if you finish.
As far as not knowing what to pursue I suggest talking to a University admissions counselor. They may have some sort of tests you can take that will determine what degree you want to pursue. Just so you know, the first two years are the exploration years anyway and so an A.A in Liberal Arts wouldnt be a bad idea because there you would get a taste of all the classes and perhaps form some type of opinion on what you want to do.
As far as the distance goes, maybe you guys could move closer to the university or take online classes that are offered from the university that you talked about. Perhaps the first year you could do all online courses to demonstrate to yourself and your family how serious you are and then maybe that would help your husband decide if you should move closer to the University.
I hope that this helped and keep in touch as to what your plans are for the future. Good Luck!! (and remember, its not an easy road but the uneasy roads are the most rewarding)
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Doctors recommend it but yet and still so many Americans turn they nose up at! Why do you think so? (link)
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I feel that many people turn their noses because of the exposure of the breast. Let's not forget the Timberlake-Jackson boobie incident. Yes, it's good for the baby but these days there are great formulas and the dad's need to bond too. Think of it this way, you already gave birth why torture your body further with possible humiliation or even scabs on the breasts from the infant sucking too hard. I pesonally would not breast feed and would not humiliate anyone for doing so but for pete's sake--If I do see a boobie, I will puke!! So please, if you are going to breastfeed, COVER IT UP!! (or fill the bottle before going out in public)
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this is nicole i found a comp camping lol just for the day but still i have decided i am a screwed up kid seriously for lots of reasons but i will talk only about one fornow and it is this 1 moment i want to dump him the nexti want to date him long term and i have no clue what to do what do i do some ppl say staywit him others say leave him wat do i do?!?!?!? (link)
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I am so confused as to what your question is because of the many spelling errors. I want to help I just do not know what you are saying. Something about a boy, give me more details so I can help you please.
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I dont understand how you think you are a messed up kid. And about the guy, what's the problem? Is he cheating? Is he hurting you? You need to allow him to love you and hug you. I have a feeling thats the bigger issue, the fact that you are having trouble accepting his love. Let me know.
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I feel like I am not needed. Like I don't have a purpose on this Earth. I feel like if I was gone, no one would notice. And I honestly believe that no one would. I would be gone for weeks before any of my "friends" noticed I was gone. And my family, they would all move on extremely quickly. I am always forgotten, left on the sidelines, doing nothing, locked up in my room, wishing that someone loved me....
How do I get pass this? (link)
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You need to get out there and be yourself. Don't be afraid to speak up, maybe that's what everyone is waiting for--to hear you. They know you are there but may feel that you wont enjoy yourself because you don't include yourself in anyway.
I suggest starting off slowly and asking your friends if you can participate in the activity. And by the way, they would miss you, trust me on this one!!
I hope this helps and by the way, this too will pass and getting away from your shyness will definitely help it all go away!!
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