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ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 2 & a half months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in less then a month and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. What should I do?
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I know how you feel. Long time away from someone can change the way you feel, but once you see them again you start to feel the same way you used to. The same thing happened to me, but it's ok. I got over it. Just talk to him calmly and explain how your feeling (be sure its somewhere where no one can interupt so you can focus on the surrent situation) You don't have to wait until he breaks up with his current girlfriend, talking to him now won't do any harm. If all goes well, he will explain how he feels, and then you can work something out.
I am not exactly sure if it's just a rebound. You have to ask yourself, "do i really really like him?" if so, its not a rebound.
This is kind of a sticky situatuion, so if you need anymore answers, just ask =]
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Okay well, maybe he did just need a break, but I dunno about going out with the other girl. Sorry to say this, but he might have just said that as an excuse. When school starts, sure you'll see him, just try to stay strong if it hurts. I can't tell you if he's gonna call you, that's up to him. School's starting up, and you might even find a new guy you like better. Just stay positive!
Hope this helps.
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Ok it sounds like he has for him what is an ideal relationship, she lives far enough away so that he rarely sees her and doesn't feel "tied down", I think that by you looking for an apology you are expecting too much from him. I mean that yes he may have hurt you but in his eyes he was doing what he felt it right so he thinks that he has nothing to apologize for.
While his relationship is probably a rebound that doesn't mean he will come back to you when it ends, why would you want him back when chances are he would do the same thing again? I think that you need to move on in a positive way, date a few people as you have been with the same guy for 2 years "playing the field" will probably give you a bigger picture as to how you should be treated.
I hope this helps.
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I'm glad to hear that you have been making progress. I think that maybe in his mind, he wanted to "try something different" as in a new relationship. It is possible that it is a rebound, but you can not be sure. No matter what you may feel, you WILL eventually get over it, but that is only if you allow yourself to. I think you should keep on doing what you are now, keep working on yourself and getting over him. Seeing him in school will be hard, but you just have to try and be strong about it and as time goes on, it will be easier to deal with. As far as him calling to apologize, it depends on what kind of guy he is. If he is stubborn, then most likely he wont. Only you know how he really is and you can be the judge of that. If you don't want to talk to him until he breaks up with her, then you will not know when you will get the answers you are looking for. I think in order for you to completely get over this, you should ask him for answers now and not have this as a black cloud hanging over your head. Take things slowly, and when/if you get to talk to him, try to keep a calm, collective tone so things don't get out of hand, and you don't push him so far away that he won't give you the information you are looking for. If you need to talk more about this, or have more questions, feel free to contact me.
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I think that you should put your feelings aside (at least try anyway) for a while. I say this because I feel that he wants a friendship from you and if you two go back to being friends, it may turn into something more special. Long distance relationships rarely last and if you are in front of him on a daily basis as a friend he will see that you have changed. Just go to school, focus on you school work and be his friend. I hope this helps. Keep in touch!!
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forget about him,he broke up with you,got over you AND is even dating another girl!is he the last guy on earth?your probably a sweet person with a great personality and many guys would want you.itll take a while to get over him but time DOES heal everything and the sooner you feel your feelings thew more you are able to get over it later on.he doesnt seem to care and you shouldnt either.school is starting and all you should care about is your education so it wont be his fault your marks are low.nobodys worth it.open up about this to a freind,parent and they will help you get over it.who CARES if hes got a girlfreind hes 17 and probably not even ready to be in a relationship.your still going to be going to grade 10,11,12 and college and i think thats like a lot of years full of a lot of guys!and besides you woulda gitten bored of him anywayz cuz your 15 and IMAJINE having to know him all your life...now THATS boring lol dont worry you WILL get over him because you can get any guy you want.
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