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divorce
about a week ago, my parents were fighting. it was so bad that me and my sister had to call my grandparents to tell them that we would like to sleepover. our parents tried to work it out but i don't know what will happen. also the next day when my dad saw us, he started crying and saying that he loves us. it was weird though to see my dad crying but i thought something was going on. yesterday i went blueberry picking with my parents and my sister. i wasn't really up to it but my mom said privately to me that we did this to be together and we don't have to be together and not have my father.
i am really scared now. please can you help me?
ty in advance. 13/f
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This you have no control over, my parents are going through that same thing but they`re getting a seperasion. i`m going to be living with my mom must of the time and i get to see my dad when ever i want. You have to be strong. because if your not then your mom or dad will fall deeper into pain. look at the upside, you get 2 rooms. haha thats what i always say. things happen for a reason. its hard to know you can`t control it, its even worse when you try.
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You don't have to be separated from the both if you don't want to you could stay with both at different days like half of the week with your mom and the other half with your dad but choose wisely for who to spend more time with if that's the case.Maybe your parents may not get divorced don't you know that when they are about to sign the papers usually the lawyer will tell them to think about it, and sometimes he lands up convincing them not to.Hopefully things work out with your parents.
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hey,
I don't want you to worry. I have been in this situation alot before. Its simply that your parents had this huge fight at first which was on the verge of ending with a divorce. But then they thought of you and your sister, and they didn't want to break down the family just for your sake. They wanted you to grow up and have one nice family with a father and a mother together. And thats why you all went to pick blue berries together, so you would be together as you always were. Both your parents realised after the fight,how much they had exaggerated and know they just want the best for you. So they probably sorted things out together and know everything is back to normal. But they feel alittle guilty because they hadn't thought of you at first, so now they are making it up for you and showing you that you are all together. And thats something nice, you shouldn't worry.
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I agree with younggrandma. I also think that maybe you could talk to your mom one on one about the situation. I would ask her if its ok for you to have somewhere to go so that you don't have to hear it. It's hard listening to all the fighting and very scary. If you tell your mom or father this maybe they will try to do it elsewhere or get you a counselor. It does sound like they love each other and I am glad that you are able to go see your grandparents. The biggest suggestion I have for you is to pray really hard about the situation and be strong for whatever may come your way. I hope things work out for you and your family. It sounds like its a good one with the blueberries and all. I sure wish that was my life...
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well i'm 13 and my parents
are always fighting.
i think you should ask them how long thay've
been together and why they fell in love in
the first place.
i'm sure you're parents love each other.
but are under a lot of stress.
just talk to them about it.
i'm sure you'll be ok.
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It sounds like your parents may be having a hard time right now. It also sounds like they are trying to work out their problems. This is very good!
Please try not to worry about it to much. Being married can be hard work and it needs worked on all the time. They aren't giving up so you don't either. It isn't unusual or anything. Think positive. :)
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