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I like this boy. But I dont think he likes me back. I know this on girl, who likes him and she's really pretty and honestly I think she'll go out with him. But she does like this other boy way more. How can I get this said boy to start liking me? I mean, were friends its just.. I dont know if he'd like me. (link)
Well tal kto him way more, and don't change yourself for a guy. Then ask him if he wants to go to the movies as friends or hang out. If that works out then do it again but clarify that this time its a date. See what happens after that. I hope I helped if there is anything else you need to know or I forgot to answer please e-mail me. I hope it works out.


15/f

okies hey

i've met this guy in the year below me
well we hit it off right away and i really like him and it clear he likes me too , which im really thrilled about :) but the trouble is he is only 13 right now, he does look older though and is mature for his ages. he is just 1 year 3 months younger.

is this too young for me?

please help. xxx (link)
If the age difference doesn't bother you or him go for it! Age is just a number!


k i got this friend we been friends since school. Then a found out she lied to me about tons of stuff. During summer break she calls me to tell me she was sorry. We are friends kinda. Do you think I made a mistake by taking her out. (link)
I wouldn't put up with it. You can make better friends and if I were you I would!!


ok the thing is i'm really shy around the guy i like and i don't think i could ever have a chance with him and i think he likes my friend so i have no idea what to do for him to like me and get the nerve to go talk to him. i mean it's really hard my friend has no problem talking to him and his friend but sometimes i'm scard i'm gonna say the wrong thing and make a fool of myself. can you please help me.
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Don't be scared to talk to him. I know it is scary talking to someone you like (trust me lol), but if you don't he probally will just think about your friend because he doesn't know you that well. Guys are actually shy, in the sense that girls have to make the first move. Whether it's just talking to them or asking them out.
You should talk to your friend about him so you can see what's going on with her part, but be careful a lot of girls get REALLY possesive over guys even if they are just friends. Hope I helped. :)


well im one of those girls who care about there weight 24-7! im so sick of feeling i have to be pretty,smart,athletic,and more improtanly SKINNY. sometimes when i see junk food its just there so why not eat it rite? ik its bad to eat it but it taste so good and i like it. then i do the worst thing ever look in the mirror and go gross im fat! it like duh you were just eating junk. so everytime i go to a party i go its just food think of it as garbage. doesnt work im also one of those people who like starve themselves and my friends know it because one time in school we were watching this movie that talked about crap like that and i looked so sad but i didnt care so they know! and well im 5'5 and like wiegh god who knows now probally still 123 and i dont like that if i ever get to 130 i will kill myself no like so what im trying to do is like l00se the pounds b4 november my next checkup so if i see a 130 something i will really no lie kill myself i dont like that so if you guys would help me any sugestions that would be great!! (link)
I'm almost 5'6, not quite though, but I would LOVE to weigh what you weigh. I'm Super skinny and HATE every mintue of it. Trust me it sucks, really really bad. I weigh about 100 LBS. I'm trying my hardest to gain weight, but I can't because of my metabolism. Being skinny is NOT fun! Everyone critisices you constantly, over and over again. So you are lucky!!!!


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Hey everyone.

I recently met a really great guy named Collin about a week ago. Ever since we met, we've hung out together 2 times. He seems amazing & we talk on the phone every night. Problem is he's 23 years old & I'm 16. I know, I know - big problem. It sucks. I never thought my parents would ever make such a big deal out of something, especially age - since they started dating when my dad was 21 & my mom was 16.

Everyone in my family thinks it's a HORRIBLE idea. They all tell me it makes them feel sick that he's even wanting to be around people my age. He's in college & he's an all-around great guy that just seems to be interested in me. We're great when we're together & we don't push things on each other. It's just like a relationship where we have mutual feelings.

I have no idea where to go from this point on. Both of my parents said they don't want me to see him anymore. [I never in a million years thought they would EVER tell me I couldn't see someone.] I know if I sit down & talk to them, and try and change their minds, they may. I just have no idea what to say.

My eldest sister, whose 29 years old is super close to my parents, so she's of course giving her opinions on the situation, and they're all bad, like "She shouldn't see him!" & "I don't want to meet him - he's not coming to my wedding!" & all of those negative things.

Please help.
Although I will want to hear all of the reasons why I shouldn't continue a relationship, please give me some ideas to where I could continue it. I don't think I could end it right now, it just seems way too much for me.

Thanks in advance. (link)
If you like him I think you should DEFIBATELY go for it!!! My thing is that anything could happen, you guys might not work out, or whatever, but it's awful to think back after you and a different guy broke up and have to say, "I wonder if I would still be alone if I would have satyed with him." Then you could resent your family for it. I think it's best that you give it a shot so you won't have to think like that, you know? If ending it seems like too much for you, then don't do it!! Good luck!


Which one is better? I'd like a decent response, so no one word answers or just saying the name. Say why. Also, which one is less likely to give you a virus. Thanks :D... (link)
Bear Share you are sharing so many files, it would be REALLY likely for you to get a virus.
Programs with Limewire have been completely taking over people's computer. I had it but lately everyone I know with it's cpu is being taken over so I had to get rid of it before it did that to mine.
I personally would try Limewire over Bearshare though because of the virus's you can get.


Ok well me and my mom have not been getting along at all lately. i mean she drinks constantly and i cant talk to someone when they are drunk. plus i dont want to go to that schoool. i really want to move in with my father. but i dont no what to tell her. for like a couple weeks now shes been threatnig to send me there and when i say i wanna go there supossedly "a problem"
How do i tell her i wanna live with my dad without making her feel bad? is she gunna feel bad no matter what?
i will rate high!!!!thanks in advance... (link)
Talk to your da and let him know you want to live with him, then have him brake the news to her. No matter what she will be hurt though. Good luck. :)


Ok my mom and brother argue all the time and my brother hates my mom alot and my mom never did anything to him, she just doesn't let him get away with anything, and my brother get's so mad and breaks things, and all the fighting makes everyone sad and upset, and every weekend my mom goes out with her friends and doesn't come home until morning, how can i get are family to get along.................Please Heeeeeeeeeeelp. (link)
Try talking to them. Sit your whole family down and have a good chat with them, let them know how you feel, and how there actions are upsetting you.


I want to put black highlights in my hair but i wanna see how it would look first so i need sone websites where you can upload a pic of your self and then see what it would look like but i dont want it to be just basic colors it would help if you could do pink n blue and other colors like that i already use clairol try-it-on-studio but it dontent realy help thanxs (link)
Here's a site I hope helps:

http://www.hairfinder.com/hair_imaging.htm


What are some good ways to flirt with a guy but not making it seem desperate? Thanks!!! (link)
Smile and giggle a lot! Look him in the eyes for at least 4 secs. that will let him know your interested. :)


well i like this guy. but he does'nt like me and that sucks. he never talkes to me or anything just because i'm not thaaaat popular. i dont know why he does'nt like me but i just wanna be friends! so what should i do now? i really want him to notice me and like me........heeeelp (link)
Do your hair/ make- up etc. Make sure you think you look really hott and talk to one iof his friends, that he is standing by. Or you could even just walk up to him and be like, "Hey." Casually. :)


well, i have an ash blonde hair color. it's blonde but it has like this touch of ash and it's a very uncommon haircolor. like not that many people have it. I LOVE MY HAIR! but, recently i just was wondering what i would look like as a brunet. like, a light brown/medium brown hair? but, i'm afraid to use hair dye because what if i never get my ash blonde back? is there anything i can use that won't harm my hair as much.l i hear celophane might work and henna. but, i wanted to get the opinion of others before i went ahead and did it because i
just want to see how i look like with brown hair, i want my blonde hair back after (link)
I have dyed my hair a bunch of times, and no matter what dye you usse your hair color will grow back. :)


I like this guy that lives downthe street from me hes really hott and i thinkhe likes me back. he alsoalready knows that i like him. The only problem is i already have a boyfriend and i know its not good to lead him on but i love being around him even though hes a little strange all of my friends sayi should breakup with my boy friend and go with the other guy i thinkthat to but wat should i tell my boyfriend.
Im 14 15 in september
and female (link)
If you luike this other guy more then it would only be right to break up with your boyfriend. No matter what it will hurt him but try saying something like, "I think we should just be friends," or "I see you as an older/ younger brother." Something like that maybe. :)


Ok i really like this guy. He goes to my school and i don't even think he knew that i even went to the same school or even was on the same plant. Well his brother asked me what if the guy i like would grap my hand when we are drivin around and i said i don't know. So then he was like HMMMMMMMMM. The only thing the guy that i like talks about is sex all the time. I have had sex but i dont' want to have sex till i am married. i like him but then i just don't know what i should do. Should i go out with him and give it up or should i just say that we need to be friends (link)
You can go out with him, and if he tries to get you to have sex with him tell him you don't want to. If he tries to pressure you break up with him. If he really likes you he won't care about not having sex.


Tonight I am going to the movies with four of my freinds. One of them is a girl, my best freind, and the otehr three are guys. The one guy, lets call him Tim, has been freaking me out. He's always liek I dreamed about you last night and we were hooking up and going out. And I'm thinking of you, I love you xo. And like, I bet you are good at hooking up. And I jsut don't like it. So tonight I am worried he will try and sit next to me and like try to make a move. There will be other girls there who I'm not exactly freinds with. What should I do? Ignore him? Or what? (link)
Tell him he's freaking you out and you want him to back off. Tell your best friend how you feel so she can sit by you so he won't be able to. :)


yesterday my boyfriend told me he was cheating on me which i was very upset about. i'm still with him and he is still cheating on me.he said he has been cheating on me for a year. i love him very much and he said he loved me too. but he said he wasn't going to leave the other girl and he said we could share him. i'm really thinking about breaking up with him. but i love him and i'm not sure what to do. should i break up with him or just keep our relationship still going? please help and thank you so much
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You deserve someone way better then that! You should break up with him and find a new guy, one that will like/ love you as much as you like/love them. Don't let him do that to you! I know it will be hard and it will hurt, but it will get better... I hope everything works out.


this morning i went to the bathroom and when i wiped there was a little bit of blood on the tolite paper does this mean i'm starting my period or that i've had my period? please help! p.s i'M 13 (link)
You probally started your period!!! :)


i hav a bf and hes rly sweet and nice, but i like neva get to see him cuz he lives in another town. wenever i go someplace and see a cute guy i always wanna flirt. is that bad since i already hav a bf? and since i wanna flirt wit otha ppl, does that mean i dont really like my bf as much as i thought? (link)
Long distant relationships are hard I know. Just because you flirt with other people doesn't mean you don't like your boyfriend as much as you thought. I do the same thing, it's because i'm a natural flirt. A lot of girls are. Don't worry, hope I helped.


Ok its me with my boyfriend problem again! You know the one when my boyfriends 3 years older then me! Well all my aunts know now. And im so embarresed! And all my aunts were and still are really good friends with my boyfrineds mom. Now like my whole family knows! And barely any 1 in his family knows about me. All the people my age that know me are just finding out! And some are refusing it. Some say it's not true! I dont know what to do! I really love him but i'm not sure it will work out. And one more thing his little brother is my age and we are only teens and so is my boyfriend. But remember he is 3 years older. Should i stay with him or dump him because i could get a really bad reputation in my family and friends? (link)
If you really like him, stay with him. Your family and friends shouldn't think badly of you. If your friends do then they aren't true friends. Your family might get worried for you but I don't think they will think badly of you. If you broke up with him because of your family and friends in the end you will resent them. Your next relationship might suck and you take it out on them because you think, "I bet I would be happy if I were still with him." I know trust me lol.




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