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I want my butt to be real round, tight, and BIG. how can i get my butt bigger??
The Gluteus Maximus, aka the butt, is a muscle and can be firmed through proper exercise. Some of the firming and toning will enlarge your butt to a degree, just how much I cannot say.
If exercise does not give you the butt you desired then you have the option of plastic surgery, if you are 18 or older. The surgery is much like breast enhancement and cost about the same.
I do not recommend the surgery as it is painful. The recovery period is about 3 weeks. Like breast enhancement if not done correctly under the muscle, most painful, the implant will or could be noticeable when wearing a swim suit.
My wife had a breast implant to restore her breast after a mastectomy. Her surgeon put the implant under the muscle. I have to tell you that as her husband the look and feel of that breast is as natural as her other breast, which was lifted without implant, to the point if I didn't know which one was the replacement I couldn't tell.
This replacement cost me $1,500.00 and our insurance company $9,500. Worth every penny spent as my wife is happy and a couple of her coworkers who are having surgery because of Breast cancer are demanding the same of their insurance company. Realism is the difference of the implant being above or below the muscle. Keep this in mind should you look at a surgical option.
I am 17, senior in high school, female. My number one choice of college is West Chester University for elementary education. I was so carefree last year that I didn't take my SAT's, so I took them for my first time senior year. Please don't tell me I'm stupid or that I'm dumb but I received at 1350. West Chester wants for math and critical reading a 1020 which when mine added together is 930. Everybody says that SAT scores are what colleges look at most but there are also other things they look at. Should I try to apply and get in at West Chester or should I start my first year in my community college and try my second year to get in at West Chester? My brother's girlfriend currently goes to her community college and she then gets the opportunity to travel to all of her friend's college and party. All of my friends are spread out at all different schools and it would be cool to still live at my home while being a college student but I also want to hop into college life and get out on my own and meet new people. What should I do? Thanks!
SAT scores are only part of what colleges look at when they look at admission requests. Many colleges are also no longer are relying on or placing the emphasis they use to place on SAT scores. They also look at the course of study you are looking for, make sure to cover this in your admissions letter to them.
Given the present economy many colleges are not getting the number of admissions request they need meet their admissions goals. With this in mid I would recommend that you go ahead and apply. You have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain by doing so. Your fall back options are: a) apply to a secondary school of choice with the intent of transferring at a later date if accepted, b) starting in a community college.
What I would not recommend is starting at a community college with the intent of going there and then traveling to different colleges to party. The purpose of going to your community college is to gain what you need to reapply to your school of choice for acceptance if you are denied the first time. This will require your full dedication and not allow for travel time to party.
how do i keep my husband focused on things that we NEED to talk about to resolve the continuous and serious marital issues? he cannot face truth or facts. he always finds a way to divert the subjects either by acting out, anger or changing the subject. if i say something he doesnt want to hear, he 'acts out'.
One suggestion would be marriage counseling. You could start the counseling separately as in you attending first and learning from the therapist how to approach your husband on joining you in counseling and how to communicate better on the problems in your marriage.
I have found that at times the best way for me to approach my wife on, a subject where I need her to stay focused and calm,is to do so in a public space. Such as coffee at the mall or even at dinner in a family style restaurant where the noise level assures us that my voice does not travel to the next table. while it is possible for my wife or your husband to just get up and walk away this has never happened in my conversations with my wife.
As for him changing the subject; you have to keep him focused. You say; "husband I am talking about this and I need to get this resolved." "We can talk about that next if you want to." Say that as many times as you need to, to keep him focused.
If you feel you marriage is in serious jeopardy then I feel marriage counseling is the best course of action.
I'm 16f I lost myself over the past couple year actually when I started to really like boys. Like 6th grade that when I lost myself because over the years I've changed so guys could like me I change for every guy I like as in I turn to there interweave that I don't even know what I truly like. I feel lost and alone. Never had a boyfriend or kiss. I remember when I was all into sports and I allways wore shorts but since I lost myself Im not really good in anything. I'm not good in a particular thing I feel like I'm not good at anything that I can't do anything right. I just want to get good grades and find what I really like. How?? I study so much and I still get b's in my family everyone gets A's I get some A's and some B's.help
You have asked a question that is really hard to answer.
First I would say your doing something right if your getting A's and B's in school. Not everyone gets all A's or all B's. The majority of people are average meaning they earn C's and B's. The fact that the rest of your family gets all A's does not mean you are doing anything wrong. In fact it is very possible you are trying to hard. Think about that for a moment.
The next step in finding out who you are is stop trying to be all things to all people. Meaning don't change to be something you think a boy wants you to be just to be with him. It is normal for a young teenager to, not exactly be lost, but to try and identify themselves. As with your studies you may be trying to hard.
I would suggest you make a list, in your head or even on paper if you want, of the things YOU feel YOU like. Start with sports, then entertainment, clothing, hairstyles, makeup, foods, nature so on and so forth until you have a complete list of things you like to do. Then take that list and under each heading find the things that are the REAL YOU. Meaning say makeup; experiment with different makeup to find YOUR style, same with hair and clothing. you see the point I'm making.
I think you know who you are you just may have lost yourself in the confusion of trying to be all things for all people. Boys, girls and adults will like you for who the real you is, not for who you pretend to be. Kids, teenagers, can identify fakes and pretenders quickly and they tend to be turned off by them. Teenagers are not adults and do not care for pretence, neither do adults but adults will put up with pretence better.
So stop pretending. Find the real you again and find the real you again. Relax and be you; the only person you have to be better than is the person you are today. That is part of a saying I used as a motivational saying for most of my working life. "I must be a better person tomorrow than I am today." "If I can be a better person to morrow than I am today, then I have bees successful"
These are very true motivational statements that I used to motivate myself. It must have worked as I always lead the sales force in sales and had a wonderful career that allowed me to provide very well for my family. So please stop worrying about or trying to be someone else. Just be yourself.
My family is very roudy and not like normal fams really. I mean my moms family was normal why are ours all unclassy like? I'm tired of this stupid shiz. Why does a college drop out living under her mom's roof who disrespects her mom and eats up all the food still be able to be in this family. I HATE my oldest sister. You have know Idea what she has caused over the years. Stuff so deep I won't get into it. I'm 14 and did I mention she has attacked me and my 17 yr old sister??? Because of HER I almost got taken by cps because when we lived in an apartment there were fights all the time and the neighbors knew something was wrong but they assumed it was my mother. SOOO WRONG! Now that she was such a bad kid, our mom sometimes takes her anger out on me and my other sister. She has changed big time. I just hate this. I wish I could leave far away from this family. I want out. I have 3 more years to go and I don't know how much I can take. Please can someone give me advice???
Ps. My 19 yr old sister has a permit but she SUCKS at driving. No wonder she has no license. She doesn't act her age she acts as immature at me. And I'm 14!!! Literally and everybody sees it. She's also a perv...I won't say what happened with my old dolls I use to play with when I was like 10...but you can all make your own assumptions.
Sorry for making this long, one more thing, she has jobs but that's not good enough. She is so stupid because she was in college with an apartment and a job and couldn't hold her own. What a dumbass. Any advice?
While your letter is somewhat long it is short on actual information. In fact you make yourself out to be bad guy in this situation to some extent. There is one point you appear to be looking out for you slightly older sister. It also appears by your writing you have what I will call youngest child syndrome.
Your oldest sister not being able to get by on her own right now does not make her a bad person or a bum. Because of the present economy about 9% of the people, and that number is not quite exact it could be more than double when long term unemployed are accounted for, can't find work. That figure increase even more for people like your sister who was working and had to return home because they can;t make it on their own.
More and more children, many of them who are married with their own children, are returning to their parents home because the economy has turned against them. Your sister needs your love and support, not your pity or anger.
Many 19 year old are quite young and immature themselves. Your sister may be one of them. How do you think a 19 year old should act? Should she act like an adult, which she truly is not or the teenager she still is? You're 14; are you very mature for your age or judging by what you see on television which is make believe?
A rowdy family does not mean your family is not normal. Every family has their own dynamic; yours is somewhat rowdy, mine is exploratory. As long as we are law abiding and do not upset the neighbors who's to say what is normal and what is strange?
As I said to begin with I see a child suffering from youngest child syndrome. This is real and it hurts that I'm sure of. What you have to be careful of is what you say and who you say it to. For if you say it to the wrong people you can cause more problems. I would suggest you sit down with mom or dad and tell them CALMLY how you feel. I think you feel a little left out, which again is somewhat normal for the youngest child.
If you tell mom and dad CAlMLY how you feel instead of acting up and getting in trouble. You may find that they are able to change some things so you are happier.
Hi I'm 13/f
Ok first i wanna say that my mom is one of those old fashioned moms and she thinks that tampons "pop your cherry". I strongly disagree with her. so i Googled it, and what do i see? A bunch of girls saying the same thing! So i guess what I'm asking is how do I tell my mom that what she thinks is not true?
Thanks to any answers in advice!
This is a tuff subject to address with your Mom as it appears to be something she is not only adamant about but she is also correct in. A tampon can break your Hymen depending on how your Hymen is shaped and positioned. All Hymens have a hole in them so blood can flow out. If you are able to but the tampon in through his hole the question becomes can you remove it without tearing the Hymen after the tampon swells up.
There are a number of reason your mother may not want you using a tampon right know. The biggest reason being Toxic Shock Syndrome. It is recommended that a tampon be changed at least every 8 hours or more often to avoid Toxic Shock Syndrome. Your mother may feel you are not reliant enough to trust you to be diligent in changing your tampon often enough. She may have other reason but this one is the biggest.
You also have valid reasons for wanting to use tampons. You have to convince mom that your reasons are valid enough for her to allow you to use tampons. I could see if you are a swimmer or on a swim team. Play sports, such as Tennis, Soccer, or field hockey. Then a tampon is better than a pad for protection and does not give off an embarrassing signal if you spread you legs during the game. Also you cannot swim using a pad.
If any of the reasons I listed are valid for you then you might be able to reach a compromise with your mother. Just remember the definition of a compromise is a solution or agreement no one likes but everyone can agree to.
If you need to use a tampon from the reasons I listed ask you mom if you could use them during those times. All other times, while at home, sleeping and at school you will wear a pad. If I were your dad I would help you convince your mom that this is a good compromise that she should agree to. I truly believe this agreement resolves your issues, as I listed them, and resolves your mothers issues which are probably not the loss of your Hymen.
Even if your mom is "Old Fashion" she has to be educated enough in today's world to realize you can loose your Hymen in a hundred different ways that do not include using a tampon or having sex. So try the compromise I suggested if it is applicable to your situation.
Theres this boy in my class that is so disgusting and peverted.He is always harassing me and doesn't know how to keep his hands to himself.He would touch me wrong then say oops i'm sorry.He would say things like I know you like me becuase last night you were loving it when we had sex.I've never had sex and I dont plan to what is wrong with him and hes made cry before becuase he did something to me that I can never say.Please help.What do I do about him?
-Alexa
This is serious and requires that you report this to school authorities immediately, as well as you parents. Sexual harassment and bullying are two of the biggest attention getter's at this time to school authorities. Most if not all schools have a zero tolerance policy towards this problem.
If this is happening in a number of course and in the hallways and lunch room between classes then inform the Principal. Inform your parents as well. They have the option of going to school authorities or asking your local police or Sheriff's department for help.
You have the right to attend school without being harassed or bullied. This boy may think he is being funny. I can assure you that he is not and hopefully his parent will feel the same way. He's teased or harass you to the point of crying this should have told him you didn't feel he was being funny and should have stopped. Now he will have to learn the hard way.
You have done nothing wrong and do not have to prove anything. So tell your parents and report him to school authorities.
Hi, I am a 43 year old Police Officer who lives in New zealand. In the last year my father has passed, my mother has been diagnosed with a severe mental illness and my wife of 25 years has left me. The first two i think I have coped with but my wife leaving has left me ruined. Three months ago I overdosed and was found unconsciouss in a phone booth. I ahve two children which I love to pieces and I would hate to hurt them. But this has not stopped me constantly thinking of ending my life to stop the pain I feel at losing my wife, my childhood sweatrheat. She is 40 and recently has an affair with my sons 22 year old tennis coach. I came accross them one night having sex and this memory of the guy naked on top of my wife haunts me every day. I am seeing a physchologist and spent 5 hours with him last week. This has been going on for close to 1 year now and the pain has not lessoned at all. I really dont want to die because i know how selfish that is and how much pain that would cause. It does not stop the constant thoughts tho. i feel completely broken and even the time I spend with my kids i keep thinking about my wife and the what if's. What if I had of treated her better, what if I had told her i loved her more often, etc etc. I am not a dumb person but I have been in so much pain for so long and just want it to end. My confidence is gone now and I know my company is not that great. I am a kind and good person at heart but I am just so sad.I look forward to any suggestions of help. Thanks
I feel it is harder for those of us in public service positions to go through what you, and to a certain extent what I have been through. For we find it harder to accept the help we so easily hand out to others. As I found out there is no shame in asking for help, the right kind of help will allow you to heal. A therapist is the right kind of help, but you are I believe, like I was, clinically depressed. I needed medications to help me get back to an even plain. That is of course the part I had the hardest part in dealing with yet the easiest thing I found to recommend to others.
A psychiatrist is the best doctor to treat depression. Not because you are crazy but because clinical depression deals with hormones effecting our brain. With proper medication and talk therapy you will begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel, this I can assure you of as I did. It took time and hard work with my therapist.
It is seven years since the accident which sent me in to clinical depression. The accident caused me to become disabled. I had to deal with that, the lawyers and the disability people plus the loss of a job I dearly loved. It was to much stress and I found myself falling into a deep hole I couldn't climb out of. I toyed with the idea of stepping in front of a freight train. I was lucky I found help before I actually considered this option.
You are already a step ahead of where I was. You know suicide will only hurt those you leave behind. The questions you are asking yourself are normal, the answer you are giving yourself are not as you are seeing the answers through the fog of depression and you perception is off. Your perception as a whole is off so you must, for a time question that which you perceive to make sure what you think you hear is what you hear.
I know what I am saying sounds strange, it did to me at first. It took me time to understand this as well. I was fortunate that after 2 different therapist on the third try I found one I was comfortable working with. One who was able to identify my problem and was comfortable working at a pace I was comfortable at. I believe this as much or even more than the medication is the key to my successful outcome. Sometimes you have to go through several therapist to find the one you are comfortable with. Being comfortable with your therapist is also very important for you must trust the therapist enough to be totally open and hold nothing back.
Your wife left you for a younger man. Is it something you did or didn't do? Is it something she had planned to do or did it just happen? The most likely answer is it is not something either of you did or didn't do. It is something that just happened.
Yes it hurts and after 22 years of marriage I would be surprised if it didn't hurt. For the sake of your children and for yourself you have to learn to put this behind you and move on. This is where talk therapy comes in.
You are a kind and good person, I can tell this from your writing. You have to be a kind and good person to be in public Service to be a Police Officer. If you were not you couldn't do your job for as long as you have.
Work with your therapist, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
How long does it take for an std to show in a man
STDs can show up with in days or not at all. You can be a carrier for an STD and have no sign of an infection. This is why if sexually active; have multiple partners, you should be checked regularly for STDs as well as your partners.
You should also learn how to protect yourself from STDS and learn which STDs you cannot protect yourself from and how to avoid infection. Did you know that the HPV virus infects men as well as women. Check with your doctor to see if you are within the age range for the HPV inoculations.
Okay, here is the thing, next semester is my last semester then I get my associates in applied science for photography. I have a minor background in psychology..and plan to go to a school like NYU for my master's in art therapy when I get older.. (if I ever reach that point..haha)
Anyways, my question is that.. I need one more photography elective and I am not fond of what is being offered to me next semester, and I rather do an independent study topic through the semester as an independent study, I just have to write a proposal and hand it in to my head professor for approval. I want to do something along with Art Therapy..but I feel I can't get that far, though I know Art Therapy is offered in a bachelors degree at a school I had looked into...so I know I can possibly try to make it work at my level, I also thought about doing something with psychology and photography..with something of the stages of life or some sort.. I know I am going to have to write a paper for each thing I do.. I'm just not sure how I can make this work, I have my heart set that I can do this.. but I don't know what I can write for my proposal.. I always tend to get these ideas, that I find hard to pull off..but I still managed to push myself to get through it.
Any ideas on what I could do? Thanks.
To me when someone talks about Art Therapy what I envision is sitting someone down with either paper and pencil or canvas and brush and have them draw or paint something. As the drawing or painting develops the therapist can pull ideas from them to discuss with patient. Just how you could work this into photography is hard for me to understand.
Thinking about it what I foresee is starting with a blank canvas or paper and then through a series of photographs follow the art work through. Describing each photo and its meaning to the therapist and how it is helpful to them. Since there is a privacy situation here I'm not sure how you would go about taking these photographs.
I'm not sure this is of any help to you but these are my thoughts.
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Alright so I'm married and my husband is in the Navy. I won't be able to move with him until May. By then I'll only have about 5 more classes to take to finish my Associate's. But it's been really hard with him gone. We've been married for about 3 months and I've seen him once. I know most people would say to stay and finish but it just sucks. The thing with college is I have a scholarship that pays 3/4 of my classes but that last semester I'll be short about 2 hours so I won't be able to qualify for it. It's just staying till next December seems so far away. I love him so much that I just want to be with him. And I knew what I was getting into when I married him. I just want someone's opinion on the matter and what I should do. Thanks so much!
I am going to suggest you go and talk with your husbands recruiter or any Navy recruiter close to you.
As a dependant of an active duty military person you may qualify for the same on base educational opportunities available to the military personnel themselves. At worst they may be available to you at a greatly reduced price.
If not there will be a community college close to wherever you husband is stationed. Many of these Community Colleges are quite adept at handling situations such as yours and accepting transfer credits. As a military dependant you also receive instate tuition fees; as well as eligibility for any grants or financial assistance available through the colleges finance office.
My advice: Go be with your husband. Take advantage of what may be available to you on base or from the local community.
One other thing. If you would please tell your husband I send my thanks for serving.
at my daughters school ,(9th grade) in PE there will be a swim unit and boys and girls have it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable, being in a bathing suit around boys. Wouldn't boys use this opportunity to harass or humilate girls
As a parent myself I feel you are way over thinking the situation.
First girls of this age spend most of their summers at the community pools in bathing suits. The purpose of which is to attract boys. In school the bathing suit they will need for swim class will be far more modest then what they would wear, if allowed, to the community pool.
As for boys harassing the girls; not a chance. This class will have both the boys and girls physical education teachers there to both teach and monitor the class. I don't know how it was for the girls but for the boys the most feared teacher(s) in the school was the gym teacher and specifically the football coach.
Boys may tease or even harass girls in any other class. In this class with their gym teacher there. If they value their lives, poetically speaking, they wouldn't dare get out of line.
If your daughter is voicing concerns about taking a coed swim class then you have a better reason to be concerned. I would then suggest to you that you then speak to the school principal about an alternative class she could take for that credit.
What does "White people stole my car" mean to people? All my friends told me to google it... but these are these are the same friends that told me to google two females and a glass if you get my drift. so before I go and put something else like that in my brain forever I would like to know what, exactly is so special about googling that phrase?
It appears to be some type of bad racist joke based on what is returned if you type that phrase into google. You have some very strange friends.
basically i think i broke my hymen i dont actully know .. i know stupid but like i fell down but kind of awkwardly against a wall all the pressure of the fall went on my hips and when i went to the bathroom i saw a small amount of blood but i wasnt on my period
i tried looking at my special area in the mirror but all i saw was a hole .. no extra bit of skin around it
so like what ya think do you think i dont have one anymore?
Yes, you may have broken your hymen. The hymen can be broken through a variety of of non sexual activities such as certain sports, horse back riding and gymnastics.
This does not mean you are no longer a virgin. By definition, and there are several differing definitions of virginity today; a virgin is someone who has not had sexual intercourse. In the dark days of womanhood a woman was only considered a virgin if her hymen was intact. That is no longer true today.
The standard for virginity has always been non intercourse meaning a penis has never penetrated the vagina. Today virginity has been given different definitions such as no sexual activity at all. Meaning no fingering, no oral sex, no anal sex, or handjobs.
The truest definition and the most common is the one where sexual intercourse has not occurred. The fact that a hymen is not present, in today's standards, does not mean a women is not a virgin.
I know this wasn't your question but had a feeling it might be your next question.
I asked a similar question like this a while ago, so it may be a little repetitive. But I had to had a lot of extra information to this one, and I'm dealing with a completly different problem now, so here we go. There are two main questions here both tying in to the same story (I apologize for the length, but this is very important)
My friend is extremely bipolar. To the point where she's crying in a corner during a party ten minutes after dancing, and when I ask what the reason is she says she just feels sad. It's heartbreaking- she can be such a optomistic, adorable, happy girl one minute, and a crying, cutting, suicidal one the next. Yes, she does cut, she has been for almost a year. And she's recently become suicidal.
The suicidal thing scares me the most. She got really close at one point, and I did what all the online websites tell you to do and I told guidance, but it only made things worse. She became much more depressed, and lied through her teeth to get out of the hospital. A month later, she's back and worse than ever. She can't stand doctors of any kind, and she hates therapists because of how they are forced to tell the parents if a patient is suicidal or showing sucidal thoughts. I know that if I go to guidance or her parents or the hospital, it will only make things worse and push her closer and closer to the edge. But I need to find things out fast- she told me a long time ago a certain time she planned to do it, and she says she sometimes things she will still do it during that time, and it scares me.
SO HERE ARE THE QUESTIONS
1. What are some good ways (other than therapists and medication) that she can get over the bipolar disorder? Anything I can do to help?
2. What should I do about her suicidal plans?
Bipolar disorder is both the scariest and hardest form of depression to treat. It requires medication and therapy to treat and you never really are cured. In a sense you put it into remission as you do with most forms of depression.
The biggest problem with bipolar disorder is the hi and the low of the disorder. When the person is on a hi they don't feel sick so they are non compliant with their medications and therapy. When they are on a low it can be hard to talk to them and keep them compliant with their medications. This is also the time when suicide enters their thoughts.
There is no better way to help your friend with her disorder than to help her stay compliant with her medication and therapist visits. Offer to go with her to therapy. You can if she wants even sit in on the therapy session itself. Remind her and make sure she takes her medications.
As to the suicidal thoughts and cutting. She may end up hatting you for what I am about to suggest. Lets hope if she does that it is a very, very long hate.
When a depressed person has a plan for suicide is when they are in the most danger. Suicidal ideation is when someone is thinking of or thing of a way to commit suicide. When someone has an actual plan the are thought to be actively suicidal, this is bad. From what you have written your friend is actively suicidal.
If the time she plans to commit suicide is close then you have no alternative but to call the police and let them handle it. No they will not arrest her, but they will take her voluntarily or involuntarily to the hospital.
If your friend has become good at lying to doctors and school authorities and her parents; then calling the police is your best option. Besides keeping the peace the police are also responsible for your safety and well being.
In this case they after your telling them what your friend has told you they are required to look out for her. Tell the police about her plan and her cutting. Then let them handle it. You may or should consult with your parents as well. As having your parents with you when you speak to the police will add credibility to what you tell them.
Unfortunately there is no good answers to the questions you've asked. Your friend is a very sick girls in need of very special treatment. As her friend the best thing you can do for her is what you are doing. Which is looking for ways to help her. You should be proud of yourself for doing this as most people with bipolar friends would run away from them as they would fear what they don't understand and that includes adults.
Like I said you should be proud of yourself for wanting to help her. I am proud of you for wanting too.
hi my name is emma i am 13 and my boyfriend wants to have sex with me what do i do
What do you do; You tell him no!!! You are way to young to be even thing of having adult sexual relations(Intercourse).
When boys enter puberty they become hard wired to have sex. That is about all they think of. It is a normal reaction to the hormones coursing through their bodies. They need to relieve the sexual tension brought on by these hormones and they look for someone, anyone who will give them that relief. Because of this they confuse lust with love.
You do not have to give in to him and have intercourse with him. He can relieve the sexual tension in the privacy of his bedroom or bathroom by masturbating.
If you were to give into him and help him in anyway say with a handjob or blowjob you will get a reputation you do not want. For there is another thing about a teenage boy that is also common to all teenage boys; they cannot keep a secret, especially about sex.
My advice is to tell him you are not yet ready for any type of sexual relations. If he cannot respect that and leaves you. Then you will know it was not love but lust that he saw in dating you. Then you can find someone that will love and respect you.
Is it ok for a 4yr old who is allergic to all cillins to have her tonsils taken out?
I agree with Zane you need to discuss this with Surgeon who will perform the Tonsillectomy. Make sure the doctor is aware of any and all alergies you child may have including alergies to medication prior to surgery.
There are a variety of medications the doctors can choose from to use as an antibiotic during surgery. The most common and usually the best tolerated medications are probably the "cillins". That does not mean they are the only medication the doctor can choose.
Hello,
I'm supposed to do a research paper for my Death and Dying class (I'm in college). I'm allowed to choose whatever I want, as long as it's about death and it's something remotely interesting that I can present to my class.
I know that I'm really interested in death in the arts (music, poetry, film, photography, etc) but I'm not sure what kinds of questions I could pose about all of these things to write a research paper?
I'm also sort of interested in the dynamics of suicide, as well as the mindset of people who are terminally ill (whether it is possible or not for them to reach some point of "acceptance" or "peace")
I'm open to lots of different ideas because honestly, I feel kind of lost and I really want to write a good paper that I'm really interested in..
Thank you!
You pose and interesting question. I'm not sure the best way to research this question. I don't think there is much literature on this subject although there has been much debate.
One place I think you could start would be to research the assisted suicide law(s). I believe the state of Washington has one. You might also talk with an undertaker or two to see if they could help you find a doctor or hospice center that works with the terminally ill.
The information gained from this research may help you find the direction you need to find away to incorporate what you have learned into the arts as you want.
Sorry I could not be of more help.
I am a young woman ( 15 years ) of age i need a job and i need it bad i am trying to find a job but there is one problem i don't know where to look and or what place would hire me since im so young could you help me?
You probably don't want to hear this but State and Federal Law requires you to be 16 years of age and to have working papers from your school. The working papers tells the school were you will be working and the hours you will work. The school must approve of where you work as there are strict guidelines as to places a teenager may work. Fast food restaurants, restaurants in general as servers or food runners & table bussers usually meet the guidelines.
My boyfriend is very controlling. He is upset that i dated a lot of men in the past. He calls me all kinds of bad names, yells at me, says my children should know what kind of person i really am. I told him i do not like it at all. he's been doing this for 5 months. I am fed up, told him to get out. Now he's changed he's really nice. i keep telling him he'll go back to his old ways he says no. He has no place to go, i tell him we are over however i feel really bad if he ends up sleeping in his turck. Every time i go to kick him out he says i'm going to sleep in a park or in my truck. I feel so bad and take him back, i just can't get over all the bad names he's called me. I don't go anywere because if i do he'll ask me a 10000 questions as to what i did or where did i go.
You need to have him move out. You are in an abusive and controlling relationship. You are also correct that in time he will revert back to what he was. The longer you allow him to stay the harder it will be to get him to leave. He is controlling you by telling you that he has no place to go, this is not your problem. You need to be concerned with the health, safety and welfare of your children and yourself.
What you may need to do is legally evict him. Each state has different laws. While your home or apartment may be in your name, the fact that he has been in residence there for a specific amount of time may mean that your home is his legal residence as well and a legal eviction by you is required.
As long as his name does not appear on a lease or title you have every right to have him leave. It just may mean that as a matter of law you may have to do so by court order.
Talk with your local police or Sheriff's office. They can help you get the legal paperwork than may be required for them to legally remove him from your home. One of them would be an order of protection that would require him to stay a certain distance from you and your children.