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how to get rid of a controlling Boy friend that lives with you
My boyfriend is very controlling. He is upset that i dated a lot of men in the past. He calls me all kinds of bad names, yells at me, says my children should know what kind of person i really am. I told him i do not like it at all. he's been doing this for 5 months. I am fed up, told him to get out. Now he's changed he's really nice. i keep telling him he'll go back to his old ways he says no. He has no place to go, i tell him we are over however i feel really bad if he ends up sleeping in his turck. Every time i go to kick him out he says i'm going to sleep in a park or in my truck. I feel so bad and take him back, i just can't get over all the bad names he's called me. I don't go anywere because if i do he'll ask me a 10000 questions as to what i did or where did i go.
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You need to have him move out. You are in an abusive and controlling relationship. You are also correct that in time he will revert back to what he was. The longer you allow him to stay the harder it will be to get him to leave. He is controlling you by telling you that he has no place to go, this is not your problem. You need to be concerned with the health, safety and welfare of your children and yourself.
What you may need to do is legally evict him. Each state has different laws. While your home or apartment may be in your name, the fact that he has been in residence there for a specific amount of time may mean that your home is his legal residence as well and a legal eviction by you is required.
As long as his name does not appear on a lease or title you have every right to have him leave. It just may mean that as a matter of law you may have to do so by court order.
Talk with your local police or Sheriff's office. They can help you get the legal paperwork than may be required for them to legally remove him from your home. One of them would be an order of protection that would require him to stay a certain distance from you and your children.
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You're in an abusive relationship hun. The longer you let this man manipulate you, the harder it gets to leave, believe me.
It's really not a healthy environment for you and your kids and you're right.. he won't get better long term without professional help. Aside from jealousy and a spiteful tongue, is he angry? Tell him to get some professional help or he can say goodbye to what he has, because quite frankly, you deserve better.
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You need to let him go, If you have children living with you having this man around is going to set a bad example. You as a parent need to protect your children and give them and yourself a healthy and safe living environment. Your boyfriend is mentally abusive, People who have behavior problems cannot change on their own they need to seek professional help. Five months in my mind is too long to put up with that crap I understand that you would feel bad as you are human. You need to understand that he put himself in this situation. You and your children come before him and taking him back is not going to solve anything nor make anything better. Any situation in life is conquerable but we need to choose what is best for us not what's best for other people. If he sleeps in his truck, It's up to him to find a way out of his situation not you. This man is manipulating you and abusing you, You need to tell him to pack his stuff and get the hell out. When you do, Do yourself and your children a favor by cutting all contact with him and please don't let him manipulate his way back into your home. Focus on you and your children.
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