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MY oldest Sister is IMMATURE. 19 yr old bum
My family is very roudy and not like normal fams really. I mean my moms family was normal why are ours all unclassy like? I'm tired of this stupid shiz. Why does a college drop out living under her mom's roof who disrespects her mom and eats up all the food still be able to be in this family. I HATE my oldest sister. You have know Idea what she has caused over the years. Stuff so deep I won't get into it. I'm 14 and did I mention she has attacked me and my 17 yr old sister??? Because of HER I almost got taken by cps because when we lived in an apartment there were fights all the time and the neighbors knew something was wrong but they assumed it was my mother. SOOO WRONG! Now that she was such a bad kid, our mom sometimes takes her anger out on me and my other sister. She has changed big time. I just hate this. I wish I could leave far away from this family. I want out. I have 3 more years to go and I don't know how much I can take. Please can someone give me advice???
Ps. My 19 yr old sister has a permit but she SUCKS at driving. No wonder she has no license. She doesn't act her age she acts as immature at me. And I'm 14!!! Literally and everybody sees it. She's also a perv...I won't say what happened with my old dolls I use to play with when I was like 10...but you can all make your own assumptions.
Sorry for making this long, one more thing, she has jobs but that's not good enough. She is so stupid because she was in college with an apartment and a job and couldn't hold her own. What a dumbass. Any advice?
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While your letter is somewhat long it is short on actual information. In fact you make yourself out to be bad guy in this situation to some extent. There is one point you appear to be looking out for you slightly older sister. It also appears by your writing you have what I will call youngest child syndrome.
Your oldest sister not being able to get by on her own right now does not make her a bad person or a bum. Because of the present economy about 9% of the people, and that number is not quite exact it could be more than double when long term unemployed are accounted for, can't find work. That figure increase even more for people like your sister who was working and had to return home because they can;t make it on their own.
More and more children, many of them who are married with their own children, are returning to their parents home because the economy has turned against them. Your sister needs your love and support, not your pity or anger.
Many 19 year old are quite young and immature themselves. Your sister may be one of them. How do you think a 19 year old should act? Should she act like an adult, which she truly is not or the teenager she still is? You're 14; are you very mature for your age or judging by what you see on television which is make believe?
A rowdy family does not mean your family is not normal. Every family has their own dynamic; yours is somewhat rowdy, mine is exploratory. As long as we are law abiding and do not upset the neighbors who's to say what is normal and what is strange?
As I said to begin with I see a child suffering from youngest child syndrome. This is real and it hurts that I'm sure of. What you have to be careful of is what you say and who you say it to. For if you say it to the wrong people you can cause more problems. I would suggest you sit down with mom or dad and tell them CALMLY how you feel. I think you feel a little left out, which again is somewhat normal for the youngest child.
If you tell mom and dad CAlMLY how you feel instead of acting up and getting in trouble. You may find that they are able to change some things so you are happier.
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Why are you so focused on what your sister does? Worrying about her and the things that she does or done in her life is only going to cause you bottle up even more hatred then you already have. Your sister is person and makes mistakes, Everyone does. The economy is preventing a lot of people to be able to live Independently. A lot of people are having to live with their parents because they cannot afford to live on their own. Many places have cut back pay and jobs and still today thousands of people get laid off everyday. I am 27 years old and I struggle to get by this is not uncommon especially in the hard days with a weak economy. This does not make your sister a bum, Right now your family could use your support. That is what family is supposed to do.
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Hey,
Okay, so I'm not sure what it is exactly that you want advice on.
But I'm going to give you my advice.
It sounds like your sister is going through a bad patch in her life. And the thing she needs the most is the support of her family. So by telling people her antics on here your not exactly being a supportive sister are you?
Sit down with her, be a friendly face and a listening ear, but don't keep critising her no matter how much she annoys you, because she's your sidter, and some people would do anything to have a sister. You should love her unconditionally,no matter her antics.
If you really think she needs help talk to this about your mum-she may feel the same.
Good luck :)
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