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There's nothing I can do. I don't want to live anymore.
Hi, I am 17 years old, and I have come to the point where I don't want to live anymore. Every time I find someone I like and end up with him, the only thing he wants is sex. So then I have to let him go b/c I realize the sweet things he had said to me were only to get to me to have sex with him. My heart hurts so much every time this happens, b/c I always thought they were being true to me. My other issue is that there's this girl in school that is always jealous of me b/c I'm friends with her best friend. My family treats me like I'm some stranger in the house. My mom and dad yell at me everyday for no reason. I feel like my life is worthless, no one cares about me. Now I feel like there is no one in this world I can trust anymore. I'm an object for guys, a stranger to my family, and my friends are being pulled away from me by their other friends. There's nothing I can do. I don't want to live anymore, I just hate everything and everyone!
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Sounds like your having a midlife crisis in your teenage years instead of later in life. In a way you should be glad to get it out of the way now. I spent the last 3 years going through what your going through now and I'm in my 30s! I wish I would have gotten it over with sooner. Eventually you will get through it and be much stronger because of it. It will make you have more patience, understanding, independence, and strength.
I think the best thing you can do is to focus on you. You sound like a very sensitive person and that can lead to people taking advantage of you. Be leary of who you have relationships with because it sounds like you value them more than the people you currently are hanging out with. Realize that some people just aren't worth your time. It's ok to associate with people without having to give them too much of yourself. Look at what benefit people give you and just focus on that part of the relationship while your with them. It's kind of like using them but it's ok. They wont see it that way.
As for your family. I'm sorry to hear that your mom treats you that way. That is so wrong! I had similar situation growing up and it took me years to finally come to peace with it. I eventually realized that part of growing up is realizing that everyone is human and there are some ugly parts of life. It's a loss of innocence in a way. If your mother is having issues and taking them out on you and you've confronted her about it and have tried to make things better then there really isnt' much more you can do. Just realize that ur parents are human too and make mistakes. Don't blame yourself for everything. Sometimes you just get put in bad spots and you have to ride it out. You're in a bad spot right now but realize life if LONG and you will eventually be stronger for the troubles that you go through now.
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I think you're a normal teenager going through your unique version of growing up.
It is hard to find out that guys of your age think sex should be available from anyone they fancy without commitment or even a relationship; friends argue and fight over who they like or dislike; families think you're just a stroppy kid who should be old enough to know better, but they don't look behind the mask to see the pain underneath.
Soon, you'll find guys who like to take things slower, learn about you and build a relationship; friends will start to become long-term friends; family may also become friends that you enjoy spending time with.
I think all you need is time. Time to decide what you want from life and the best way to get it. Look around you, is there someone you can talk to who may understand your feelings, a teacher, counsellor, family member? Tell them how you've been feeling and ask for advice.
Try to stand outside yourself and look at your behaviour as well as that of the other people involved in this, understand that part of growing up is feeling out of step with everyone else because you are becoming your own person.
Let me know how this goes? Hope this helps, X.
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Slow down. Think about all this for a minute. You're 17. It's just about time for you to either go to college or start a new life of your own. Don't worry about your family. In not too long, you won't have to deal with that on a regular basis. Depending on the type of people they are, you might be able to help fix this situation too. Have you ever talked to them about how you feel? Sometimes it's hard for parents to effectively communicate with their teenage children. It's not that they don't love you, they're just not picture perfect parents. I'm sure you're not a picture perfect daughter either. What I'm trying to say is that nobody's perfect. If they didn't love you, they'd just leave you alone. Try doing the mature thing and try to address the issues that you have with them by talking to them first before they start yelling. Maybe it won't work, maybe it will. If not, again, you'll be out of there soon anyway. There's no need to fret over a family that doesn't understand you when you'll be leaving soon. Once you do leave, things should slowly get better with them. It just takes some time.
As for the guys, I'm not sure what your particular relationships have been like, but it's definitely possible that you are mistaken about their intentions. You're at an age where people want to start having sex. You're not ready for it and it's not something that you want, but it's going to come up. If the guy is ready for it and he wants to try, does that make him a pig that's only in it for sex? No. It makes him human. Just because the guy wants to have sex with you doesn't mean that's all that he wants. It's possible that he actually does care about you and because of that he'd like to take the next step in the relationship. Have you tried to work things out with these guys or have you just overreacted and immediately dumped them? Take a step back and look at things from their perspectives. Were they just trying to use you for sex or did they just end up wanting to have sex with their awesome girlfriend? Never have sex if you're not ready for it. The fact that he wants it and you don't could end a relationship, but it doesn't necessarily make him a bad guy.
As for your friends, this is what happens at the age that you're at. Again, just chill for a year or two, hold your head high and be the mature one about things. Everyone else your age is as experiencing a lot of the same issues as you are so cut them a little slack. Eventually, everyone else will be mature about friendships too.
This isn't the time to not want to live anymore just because you're having normal teenage problems. You're not alone in this. Most teenagers go through stuff just like what you're going through. This is the time to get past your problems and start building the life that you want to live. It's a transition time; it's going to be a little awkward and a little difficult, but the good stuff is yet to come. Don't give up before you've even had the chance to live. You can work through these problems and come out a stronger, better person.
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try taking part in activites, that can get you some friends! And, it's not easy to find the right guy, but you will get there.
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Hey, I'm 17 years old too, let me give you a background of my life before I give you advice. My older brother killed himself from a heroin overdose a year and a half ago. I started smoking weed to give myself some relief from it until I started smoking everyday 2-4 times a day and kept that up for about half a year but itwasnt making me feel better, it made me depressed and made me want to to kill myself because I felt no one shared my pain and I felt worlhless. Soon after all of that my hair started falling out and that made me hate myself even more so I went sober for 2 months. I started smoking again but only on weekends and that was about 3 months ago. Being with that one of my best friends over the past year who helped me get through everything wo nt talk to me anymore and what makes it worst is I told her everything about my life. Ive never been closer to killing myself before in my entire life because if I don't, stress will. With that said, the only thing that helps is an outlet, something to help me escape. Try to find something that makes me feel satisfied with yourself, something you enjoy doing that doesn't hurt yourself. Happiness is the key to get out. Here's some advice from someone who might not know exactly how you feel but might be able to help. Try to find something that will help you escape. I also recommend 5htp. It's a natural amino acid in your body that causes your brain to create serotonin which makes you happy, it is helping me recover from the past couple years of my life. If your as far down as you say you are, it's worth a try but start with 50 mg a day with food, side effects may make your stomach hurt, make you depressed or give you nightmares but that usually only happens if you are taking 200+ mg a day. Trust me when I say give it a shot.
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