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Hi, I am 17 years old, and I have come to the point where I don't want to live anymore. Every time I find someone I like and end up with him, the only thing he wants is sex. So then I have to let him go b/c I realize the sweet things he had said to me were only to get to me to have sex with him. My heart hurts so much every time this happens, b/c I always thought they were being true to me. My other issue is that there's this girl in school that is always jealous of me b/c I'm friends with her best friend. My family treats me like I'm some stranger in the house. My mom and dad yell at me everyday for no reason. I feel like my life is worthless, no one cares about me. Now I feel like there is no one in this world I can trust anymore. I'm an object for guys, a stranger to my family, and my friends are being pulled away from me by their other friends. There's nothing I can do. I don't want to live anymore, I just hate everything and everyone! (link)
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Sounds like your having a midlife crisis in your teenage years instead of later in life. In a way you should be glad to get it out of the way now. I spent the last 3 years going through what your going through now and I'm in my 30s! I wish I would have gotten it over with sooner. Eventually you will get through it and be much stronger because of it. It will make you have more patience, understanding, independence, and strength.
I think the best thing you can do is to focus on you. You sound like a very sensitive person and that can lead to people taking advantage of you. Be leary of who you have relationships with because it sounds like you value them more than the people you currently are hanging out with. Realize that some people just aren't worth your time. It's ok to associate with people without having to give them too much of yourself. Look at what benefit people give you and just focus on that part of the relationship while your with them. It's kind of like using them but it's ok. They wont see it that way.
As for your family. I'm sorry to hear that your mom treats you that way. That is so wrong! I had similar situation growing up and it took me years to finally come to peace with it. I eventually realized that part of growing up is realizing that everyone is human and there are some ugly parts of life. It's a loss of innocence in a way. If your mother is having issues and taking them out on you and you've confronted her about it and have tried to make things better then there really isnt' much more you can do. Just realize that ur parents are human too and make mistakes. Don't blame yourself for everything. Sometimes you just get put in bad spots and you have to ride it out. You're in a bad spot right now but realize life if LONG and you will eventually be stronger for the troubles that you go through now.
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my amazing girlfriend is trying to leave me after 8 months. we are perfect for each other, have the same personality, love the same things, we are each others soul mates we both know it! :( for the last month odd i started getting really insecure about guys and one guy i particullar she started texting all the time, coz she never talks to guys usually and now she goes up her friends to be with usually a lot of guys from her college, i thin she's doing it because ive pushed her away with my moaning about loosign her and scared she'll cheat on me, but now she is trying to break up with me but she loves me so much :(. for the last few weeks all i've thought about is killing myself, its not a doubt anymore my mind is telling me to do it, please help me :/ (link)
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You're not alone. Most of us will eventually experience a failed relationship and nothing can be as painful as it. It's like a drug addiction or something and your mind, body, and sould crave it. It consumes and you feel like there is no end in site and that if you'll keep feeling this way the rest of your life then what is life worth living for. The only advice I can give is that time heals all wounds. Sounds cliche but it's true. I've had my fair share of failed relationships and some hurt more than others but eventually the pain goes away. it may never heal completely but it will heal. Life is long and your thoughts and feelings about things will change many times throughout your life. Don't give up hope, hang in there, and try and focus on you. Be selfish with your time. Focus on you. Think about what you want to do with your time and try to use it in a positive way to improve yourself. Never know how paths my cross. I was recovering from a break up and I made myself go to the gym just to get out of the house and to try and get a routine to get my mind off things. I met a girl at the gym. Said Hi a couple times and eventually (months later) ended up asking her out, turned out to be a great relationship that I totally would have missed out on if I wouldn't have made myself get up and get out the house and just try and move on. Be strong. Make yourself be active. Get a routine and don't think you NEED someone to make you happy. Take care.
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