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My girlfriend is tryin to leave me and all i want to do is kill myself
my amazing girlfriend is trying to leave me after 8 months. we are perfect for each other, have the same personality, love the same things, we are each others soul mates we both know it! :( for the last month odd i started getting really insecure about guys and one guy i particullar she started texting all the time, coz she never talks to guys usually and now she goes up her friends to be with usually a lot of guys from her college, i thin she's doing it because ive pushed her away with my moaning about loosign her and scared she'll cheat on me, but now she is trying to break up with me but she loves me so much :(. for the last few weeks all i've thought about is killing myself, its not a doubt anymore my mind is telling me to do it, please help me :/
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You're not alone. Most of us will eventually experience a failed relationship and nothing can be as painful as it. It's like a drug addiction or something and your mind, body, and sould crave it. It consumes and you feel like there is no end in site and that if you'll keep feeling this way the rest of your life then what is life worth living for. The only advice I can give is that time heals all wounds. Sounds cliche but it's true. I've had my fair share of failed relationships and some hurt more than others but eventually the pain goes away. it may never heal completely but it will heal. Life is long and your thoughts and feelings about things will change many times throughout your life. Don't give up hope, hang in there, and try and focus on you. Be selfish with your time. Focus on you. Think about what you want to do with your time and try to use it in a positive way to improve yourself. Never know how paths my cross. I was recovering from a break up and I made myself go to the gym just to get out of the house and to try and get a routine to get my mind off things. I met a girl at the gym. Said Hi a couple times and eventually (months later) ended up asking her out, turned out to be a great relationship that I totally would have missed out on if I wouldn't have made myself get up and get out the house and just try and move on. Be strong. Make yourself be active. Get a routine and don't think you NEED someone to make you happy. Take care.
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The thing is with all relationship, they have cracks. First you have the 'getting to know each other stage', where it's all casual and friendly.
Then you have the delirous stage, when you're all over each other and claim to be head over heels blah blah blah.
Then comes the stage your at now-the comfortable stage. During this stage, you guys are 'comfrotable' in each others company, but the relationship begins to become boring as you've done all the exciting 'new' stuff before.
It's at this stage where most arguments occur too unfortunatly. Every couples at this stage argue, and most break up. But its the ones who can stay together through this hardest stage that stay together for an extremly long time.
So ok, you need to add some fun into the relationship. In your case though, I'd discuss with your gf about taking a little bit of a break for a bit, so you can 'sort your head out' During this time,assess how you're relationship went wrong (your insecurities) and vow to change them when you do get back together.
You guys also have to have a talk. Most couples have it-where they decide either to accept their not going to agree on everything and move on, or whether they're not going to agree on everything and split up.
If your scared of her cheating, tell her gently. Then she'll understand why you have these insecurities. If she truly loves you she'd help you remove them.
And if things on't work out, then you'll find someone better and will have learnt from your mistakes.
Good luck :)
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