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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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My friend got mono a couple of weeks ago and she came to school for the first time since today. She said she's not really supposed to be back-doctors orders- but she wanted to come. But I don't really want to be like near her bc i don't want mono! Can mono go through the air? Obviosly I won't drink after her or anything... what should I do and can someone give me info on mono?
Thnks!
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Mono is spread by saliva. You will probably be safe around her.

Here is a website if you want more info the site includes the symptoms of mono etc. :)


okay im 13.. i started my period 2 months 3 months ago.. and like they went okay for the 1stand 2nd month i had it.. but this month i havent had my period and i usualy start on the 20th and its the 24th.. and im a virgin just so you kno ..lol .. whats wrong with me?? is this normal?THANKS! (link)
It is very normal. There may be months when you skip it all together.Then you will probably go back to normal periods.


your body is learning to settle into a regular menstrual cycle. In a few months, your body should figure out which cycle is best for you.

That might mean a period every 20 days, 28 days, 34 days, or something in between.

Some girls have irregular periods their whole lives.




16/m.-will rate- we met in a chat room, along with id say about 20 other kids. this was before the summer of 2003 and you know we were mostly from the same general area, east coast, but a few random people from cali n stuff. well anyways we all became pretty good friends, guys and girls all between 8th grade[where I was in at that time] and seniors and somehowI knew there was something different about one of them. well I thought you know: she didn’t notice me, she lives too far, blah blah blah. until I decided to, along with one of the guys there who was older, play a prank on her that id ask her out, and when she said no pretend to wanna kill myself.
at first it was hilarious, but then once I realized I hurt her feelings, I knew somethin was wrong
because I liked her as a friend nothing more, because I really didn’t know but I knew she liked me more than that so she felt terrible and then I felt bad too and I was like: wow I guess I must really care
so I told her everything n she told me everything how we felt n stuff. from then on we were...I guess u culd say closer friends. I asked her out everyday as a joke, n she always sed no and then I actually got serious, so I convinced her to believe me. after like 3 weeks and around august
she came around and sed yes. now ur thinkin, wtf is that, thats beyond insane.
she actually doesn’t live too far and yeah I know, we wer young n had no idea what we wer getting into it wasn’t like you know, something real, just for fun I guess. since then
shes been i guess... my 'gf'. now 2 things
1. she knew what i looked like and were i lived
2. i didnt know where she lived, or what she looked like. even crazier right? We actually met for the first time in person 3 days ago, still cant believe we pulled it off. Well what I wanna know is…would you consider this to be real love or a real relationship, why or why not. thanks
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Anything that lasts as long as your relationship is something special.

I think you have a relationship. It may take a little longer for you to decide on weather or not it is love....but I will tell you this. You have a great start.

Good luck to you both. :)


Things are getting super super stressful what with school and everything else. Its really taking its toll on me emotionally and even physically. Does anybody have any advice on what I can do to relax and calm down, and to help me not get as stressed as usual? (link)
I have found a website that might help you find something that will work for you.

There are so many things that cause stress. You just can't get rid of them all. But if you have any that you can get rid of do it. :)

http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=243&np=293&id=2210


well i just tried my first cigarrete and i want another. All thats going through my mind is i want a cig. If my parents find out i tried one they'll kill me!!!!!!! PLz help


-someone (link)
Lets see. Its easier to stop now than it will be 20 years from now. Trust me on this.

They make everything you wear stink. Your hair smells like smoke.

They will cause wrinkles. They cost a fortune.

Not to mention your parents will shit a Christmas tree already lit and decorated.

Still want another? Aw, I tried anyway. ;)


Alright, well I'm going to the doctors tommorrow for it, cuz i alreayd told my mom, but i was just wondering if anyone could tell me what it is before i go..

After i pee, i get like a stinging burning feeling and it feels like i still have to pee but i dont and it hurts.. and just tonight i started peeing blood.. does anyone know what this could be? A bladder infection maybe?

I'll rate 5's for an opinion







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It sounds like a urinary tract infection (UTI). Of course your doctor will tell you for sure.

Once you get some medication for it you'll feel a lot better.

Here are the symptoms by the way You can have just a couple of them or all of them.

Here is a website too if you want to read more.

Don't let the mention of stds in the url scare you. It is not one. It is a whole section of different problems. The page will open on UTIs. :)

http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/stds/uti.html

SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS UTI

frequent urination
burning or pain during urination
the feeling of having to pee even though little or no urine actually comes out
pain in the lower abdomen
pain above the pubic bone (in women)
a full feeling in the rectum (in men)
bloody or foul-smelling urine
mild fever
a general feeling of shakiness and fatigue





What actually IS a thrift store and where on earth can I find one?
I'm English lol so I'm really not getting this and it would help if someone English could explain it to me...no offence if you are another nationality, but an English person will be more likely to be able to give me examples of these 'thrift stores' :) (link)
They might also be called used clothes store or second hand stores.

The easiest way to describe it may be an indoor garage sale. The prices are usually pretty cheap and most iof the stuff is in good condition. :)


this site is annoying i try to get help with stuff and it keeps deleteing my question before people can answer it which is hella dumb becuase i thought this was a place i can get help with stuff on but i guess not...yea this probably get deleted to freakin mofos! Why is this is happening??Why isnt my question being answered? (link)
There are a lot of reasons questions can be deleted.

Check the help/faq for some of them.

If you ask something that could be answered by just looking it up yourself...I know those will sometimes be deleted. Usually you will be given a reason though.

http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php


I'm really close to this guy named Kevin. He's one of my best friends & I just met him about a month ago when I first moved to this state. He told me he was gay when we first met. It didn't bother me at all, seen as I have a lot of gay friends. But, this was our conversation tonight:

HIM: I love you a lot! :)
ME: Hah, you can't you're gay.
HIM: No, I'm bisexual. I just prefer guys more.
ME: Lol, well youre 75% gay.
HIM: Yeah, but the other 25% is you.


Okay, Well, basically my question is, do you think he really likes me? Like from that 25% thing? Just wondering.. Thanks a bunch. (link)
I think he is probably attracted to you.

When you think about it though 25% of a 100 isn't something I would count on to heavily. I think being friends will have to be enough. You want someone to have you 100% in their heart. :)


I have a little crush on Adam Brody from the OC. Is it normal to get a crush on an actor as long as you don't go nutso (which I don't)? (link)
Yes it is normal. I remember having my room wallpapered with My favorite stars.

Wasn't to long ago I had a door sized poster of Bruce Springsteen hanging on the garage door. Inside not outside. My kids who were in High school at the time loved it. My husband rolled his eyes but didn't say much. ;)


i met a cute guy this weekend, at a rebel paintball cuarse - he works there - my house is jus a few blocks away from it - we started chattin right away - well - long story short - i was playin with his phone, and he told me 2 put my number on - i asked him why, and he told me its so he can call me when hes there again - i dont know if he likes me - but it sure looks that way - i jus wanna know - does he like me - or doesnt he - cause i sure-as-hell like him. (link)
If he wants your number chances are pretty darn good he plans on calling.

He wants to see you again. I think he likes you! Hope he comes there again real soon! :)


Hi! I have read your column and you see like you give excellent advice (you got a gold star so that is a hint!) my user is xobarbiegirlox9 and i was wondering if i could list you as a favorite because I think all of your advice is really helpful. Let me no
xoxo kelli (link)
Sure! I'm glad you like my advice.

The gold star means I am a paid member though. Other than that it doesn't mean a whole lot.

The green ones are the imoportant ones. :)


hey guys.. well pretty soon my friend is having a keg party(drinking) and inviting everyone because her moms going to be out of town that night.. and i want to go but im scared that the cops will come and we all will get busted.. shes done a lot before and never gotten caught by her mom or anything but since its this big of a party im not sure if i should go or not it would be a ton of fun but i dont want to get totally screwed.. so let me know what i should do, thanks... (link)
I think its a bad idea. Of course I am a parent!
The enemy!!

No really, if shes gone this long without getting caught you have to know lucks going to run out.

You know if the party gets busted there will be hell to pay. You'll probably be grounded for who knows how long...it will be awful. Is that really worth a few hours of debauchery?

Think about it.


this mornin i woke up and i had a hurt on my side at the bottom of my rib cage. it feels like i bruised it, but i didnt. it also hurts when i turn me upper body. any ideas on what it is or what i shuld do?
thanx (link)
If it the side but more towards your back I could guess you pulled something.

I do this all the time. I finally discovered I was turning my upper body but not my lower. I think that is what may cause it.

It will hurt for about a week. It does go away after that. I don't know much you can do for it.
I have cut down on having it ( I think once you get it once it will do it again more easily), by turning my whole body instead of just the upper half.

You should probably go to a doctor and find out for sure. Since I am not one. It does sound familiar though. :)


Hey so I'm going to go get my lip periced on Nov. 26th and I was just wondering if it hurts when you get it periced and if theres like any tips to keeping it really clean or anything else I should know before getting it done. Thank You (link)
Here is a site that should tell you about anything you can think of. :)

http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=243&np=292&id=2227







im 17 and im a gurl! well me and my boyfriend have been together for alittle over 2 months..and i really love him and he loves me. I want to be intimate with him but im not sure if im ready. he is the most caring boyfriend and he is so sweet and he said he'll wait until im ready. well im not sure if i should wait longer or not like what should i do? im a virgin so should i save myself for someone i kno i will be with for along time or think i will be with forever? what should i do?
~not sure~ (link)
I personally would lean towards the forever kind of guy. That decision is a pretty personal one though so you will have to make up your own mind about it.

Here is a website that might help you in your decision. Actually Two. :)

http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=243&np=291&id=2170


http://familydoctor.org/276.xml


Hey I'm a guy and have a situation I'm embarrased about. When I'm with my girlfriend, I feel comfortable and myself...except for one part. My body sometimes responds in the wrong way, like it feels like I'm gonna stain my shorts or something. Anyways, just wondering because I don't think thats normal, doesn't feel right either, and its embarrassing. I never even think about going there or want to. So what should I do? Is this normal? Will rate, thanks. (link)
Yes you are very normal. It will get better.
Here is a website that should give you some reassurance.

http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/guys/normal_erections.html


My girlfriend and I have been split up for 3 wks. We went out 4 times this week and its almost like we're together again. She has a $250 digital camara and printer that she gave me for Christmas, she says they're hers. Last night we had a stupid fight in the car and I took the camara from the compartment next to the seat. She tried to snatch it from me, but I took it anyways. I'm just wondering if I was so wrong for doing that? or if she is wrong for trying to take back something she gave me? (link)
If it was a christmas gift, its yours to keep. :)


Does anyone here have the poem "Democracy" by E.B. White? It starts out "Surely the Board knows what democracy is..." I need it for school! Or can someone tell me where to find it? I tried Google, but no luck (link)
I tried everything I could think of. I may have found a way to get it but it keeps giving me the
Page cannot be found nonsense.

Here is what I found. This New Yorker article seems to be the original source no matter where I try. It is highlighted on the wikipedia page so if you care to try later, maybe the page will be back up. Go here....http://wiki.u.szu.pl/en/E._B.html

"new yorker" is hilighted in this quote. Hopefully it is only down temporarily. :)

"Democracy is the recurrent suspicion that more than half of the people are right more than half of the time."

New Yorker. July 3, 1944.


hello well i was txing this guy (we are going out but only for like 2 weeks so far) and at the end i put lots of love and he replied love ya too.
now what does the YA mean?? does he not like me enough to say u?? or what i need to know..
xxxthanksxxx (link)
ya means u about the same way u means u.

he likes ya :)




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