about

I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

lately i have beenbeing really lazy and mopey. and it seeems like i cant do anything right. i always drop things and ge tmy workds mixed up. and usually im the center of aattenin and a "social butterfly" but lately i ust dont feel like going threw the trouble of trying to start a conversation. and im REAL good at the flute and the other day at my lessons i kept messing up on my music. it was very simple but i just made clumsy mistakes. Also people around school know me as the " ditzy girl" and i swweeaarrr i dont do it on purpose but my teacher will ask me sometihng and ill think she means osmetihng else and say sometihng esle and sometimes my friends tell me that im really random. of course idont realize it becasue it makes complete sense to me " like we can be talking about going to the beach..then id think of when i was at the beach and think of when i was playing beach ball, then id just sort of blurt out " whats the proper rules for beach ball" and since know one knoews what im tihnking they kinda just laugh and call me jessica simpson or that i have ADD..it gets realy annoying.

It's normal to say things like that, I do it too. Trust me, I've been having a ton of "blonde" moments lately. The other day, I was trying to get on my bed & I fell off of it. Haha.

They laugh at you because they don't understand your thinking; or just you in general. I wouldn't worry about it too much. I think you're just having a bad day, or a bad week. It's completely normal to mess up & be lazy & not wanna do things. I do it everyday. =) And if it bothers you so much, it's alright to cry.

♥T!NA

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hi. i had sex for the 1st time on the night of january 20th. it is january 22nd and i am still randomly bleeding. its not blood like period blood, its thinner and lighter in color.like a wound. i know the 1st time you have sex you bleed and it hurt a lot so i was expecting it. has it been too long though, for me to have been bleeding? my boyriend used a condom and he did not cum. he said that there was absolutely no sperm. We waited until the condom was on to do anything. however, i have read about conceptional bleeding and im worried. im so stressed and nervous that i may be pregnant. what should i be thinking right now?

It's normal to bleed after sex. Usually it lasts a day or two, and it doesn't bleed much. He broke your hymen & that's why you're bleeding. Expect it to hurt the next few times.

But if he used a condom, there's only a 2% chance you could be pregnant. I doubt you are though. If you're really that worried, take a ept [early pregancy test] and reassure yourself.

You're fine though. No worries! =)

♥T!NA

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okay... so im 13 and my boyfriend just turned 14 he want to do setain thing that im afraid if i do i will get pregnant but the thing is i havent started my period so do think i will get pregant if i havent started my period.

Well, it depends on how long you've been dating him & if you truly love him or not. Girls your age don't really know what love is, and boys usually sweet talk girls so they can get in your pants.

Anyways, if you love your boyfriend enough to where you think you'd like to lose your virginity to him, go for it. Just think about it a ton first. Do you know the consequences? Do you know a ton about it? Are you scared/nervous?

If you can't answer any of those questions except the last one, you shouldn't be having sex. So wait until you're completely ready. And tell him you're not ready. If he loves you, he'll understand.

As for the pregnancy thing; use a condom & try to get on some birth control. It's the best thing to do. Unprotected sex is stupid, don't do it. Besides you're young, so don't ruin your life by having a kid. But all in all, yes it's possible for you to get pregnant even if you haven't started your period.

♥T!NA

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I really like my guy friend (lets call him Sam). He and I are always together in school and everyone guessed that I like him but i never admit it. Sam and I flirt alot, we talk, we make eye contact, we trust eachother, hes there for me, he defends me, he'll try to talk to me if he sees me cry, he smiles at me when we see eachother in the hall, and hes so sweet. Now, one of my guy friends got really depressed and I tried to help him through it. It didn't work so well and Sam could tell I was getting upset over something. He once overheard me telling my best friend how I couldn't take knowing about this and how in the end I told his parents. Sam overheard when I said I had cried the night before and as soon as class ended he came to the door and asked me what was wrong. I couldn't tell him the secret but I told him a bit. Now he is bugging me to tell him more and the othe guy is really mad I told even a little bit. What should I do?

If you completely trust Sam like you say you do, I would tell him the rest. Just make him promise to take it to his grave. Tell the other guy you're sorry about telling, but you were upset & needed somebody to talk to.

If you like Sam and you think he likes you back, ask him out. =) Worst he can say is no.

♥T!NA

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ok i want to get my ear lobbs pierced but my parents wont let me any advice on how to make my parents let me. plz help:)

Tell them the pros & cons about it. If you don't know what they are, research it & do something on it. And have some really good reasons for why you want it done. "It looks cute." and "Everyone else has it done." are not good reasons.

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ok this is going to sound weird.
but when i get my period, i get chunky bits along with the blood. hahah. well anyways, does anyone else get that? is it normal?

thanks

It's a blood clot. It's totally normal.

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Hi i was wondering,for anal sex,do you put the lubricant on her or on the guy?
Thanks

Both.

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I'm doing a project in English & I need to have a book. I'm having a lot of trouble finding one so I was hoping someone could help me out.

I'm interested in books like "Go Ask Alice" & things about teenage things that I can relate to. It has to be around 300 pages. I don't want Gossip Girls or anything like that, so does anyone have any good suggestions?

Thank you so much. I'm going to the library tomorrow so help before then would be appriciated.

I just read I'd Tell You I'd Love You, But Then I'd Have To Kill You. It's a pretty god book about a girl who goes to spy school & she meets a guy but she can't tell him the truth about her life.

Speak is also a pretty good book. This girl gets raped at a party, and shuts the whole thing down. Then everyone hates her until they find out what's really going on. The movie to it is pretty good as well. =)

♥T!NA

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My best guy friend who hangs out with me everyday has been blowing me off this past week. Usually he calls everynight and we hang out everyday. Now he's blowing me off. I duno what I did, nothing actually, he's just not talking to me or anything.

I don't know what to do he's the only one I can talk to that cares and I already talked to him about why he's blowing me off. He said he thought I was busy hanging with other ppl. Yeah, wtf, I've been hanging out with him everyday the past month, was I busy any of those times? Nope.

I just feel hurt & really confused. Should I do the same thing to him and just start ignoring him and losing contact and such? Or should I act like everything's okay? it's honestly killing me, I feel like I have no one to talk to and no one cares. Please, please help me.

He probably just wants to hang out with other people. Nothing personal.

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i was talking on my cell to a boy i'm not allowed to date (but am dating anyway) and my parents now have the call records and i'm afraid they're going to call him, and find out i've been seeing him against their wishes. should i tell the truth (and end up grounded until i'm 60) or say it's someone else? i have no clue what to do next? help!

Either tell the truth, or warn your friend & tell him to say that you had a question about homework or whatever.

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I was like really into it, now only simi. How can I find an alternative? Jogging lasted for a couple weeks but after that I wanted to get high more. I'm all out, now, and i REALLY want to quit. Thanks to advicenators I was off for a week or two, now I want to get off for good. PLEASE HELP!

See a counselor about it.

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what is alcohol poisoning and how can you get it?

It's when you rape your liver in the ass from drinking too much. It's not suggested.

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my friend was over my house she acts like a stud we switched cell phones for 2 day during them 2 day i got over 15 messages from her girlfriend saying stuff i dont even want to mention should i ask her is she gay or play like i dont know


sinceraly "cluless"

Well if she's gay, why does it matter to you? I understand that's your friend, but her sexuality shouldn't matter. If you guys switch phones again, let her know to delete those messages before she gives it back to you if it makes you that uncomfortable. Talk to her about it. I'm sure she'll understand. But don't judge her because her sexual preferences are different.

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Im 15. in 9th grade. like ALLL of my friends have had sex.. its so weird im like the only one who hasnt. Im perfectly fine with it, im waiting for a serious long relationship where im in love to do it.. but all my friends keep getting hurt, been very close to gettin pregnant. Guys around here treat girls like shit.. there's sooo lil guys that wont use a girl... but anyways, all my best friends who are jus tlike me like wanted to wait a long time to have sex, are having sex in like one month with there sweet talkin boyfriend, there boyfriends are just sayin thing sthey wanna hear to make them think they're in love. I know its not my business, but i loveee my friends to death, and i look out for them. cause im older than all of them.. what can i do, they're too young and ruining their morals over these fake playin guyss....

First off, good for you for waiting. That's wise. =)

Anywyas, there's not really much you can do. When girls are young, they're stupid. So of course they'll listen to the guy they think they're in love with.

The most you can do is sit them down & talk to them about it. Let them have sex, but tell them a condom is important, because obviously they didn't know that before hand.

♥T!NA

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Hi. I'm 14 years old and a female. I have gone to the same camp for years. Everyone basis how good their experience was during the summer on how far they went and with how many people. I too, took part of this. I hooked up with six people and gave one of them head and hand, but everyone did that. I ended up pissing off the wrong people and they called me a whore despite the fact that many had done the same thing. I left camp and it was rumored that I got kicked out. Now, when I went back to school, they got a lot of people who weren't even there and have created their own elaborate versions of the story and are mean to me. They openly talk about it during class even in front of the teacher during my presentations and such. I now know what I did was wrong but how can I get people to stop?




Tell them that they don't know what the hell went on and if they don't like you or what you do, that's their problem, not your's. Fuck what they think about you. It shouldn't matter. Sure, they think you're a slut, but who cares. You know the truth about what happened. Just ignore it. =)

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I have a question.

How do you make your mascara not - so - clumpy when you apply it?

Please don't say 'buy better, more high quality mascara,' because I'm sure it all works fine...

but any tricks?

Thanks in advance.

Buy an eyelash brush. It evens them out & takes the clumps away. =)

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Well, one of my guy friends who I actually did like confessed that he liked me. We decided to give going out a try. The thing is, he's more experienced (he's 17, I'm 16). I feel like I'm less experienced for my age, but now I don't know where things should go. He doesn't do much, sometimes we hug, but I'm afraid to do anything. And I don't know if we're technically boyfriend/girlfriend. I feel as if I should know all this, but I don't. What do you think is appropriate for the beggining stages of dating? And how can I be less nervous about it?

Honey, it's normal to be nervous. You just got into a relationship with one of your guy friends. Hell, it's normal to be nervous when you first start dating anyone. =) Just take it slow & hang out with him, one on one. Things should take off from there.

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alright so this may or may not be a dumb question
but my boyfreind told me that his biggest turn on is when a guy "eye f*cks" him

and i dont know what that is or how to do it...any pointers?

Wait, he said that he likes it when GUYS like MEN with PENISES eye fuck him?

I think maybe your boyfriend's had a little bit too much to drink. Cut him short.

♥T!NA

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Lmao, you're mad because I know how to specify what gender "eye fucks" him? Wow, grow up, seriously.

Baahaha, and I'm dumb. What an idiot question.

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What are your opinions on Gauchos (the pants) ?

I think they're a hideous waste of material. Don't buy them.

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Background information: i've been with my b/f for over 6 months, my best friend HATED it cuz she liked him too.. but shes the one who set us up.
Now shes been dating this guy for about 3 months, and hes kind of controlling. She doesn't understand why her friends think this. He got mad at her because she and I went out on a day that she was supposed to be with him.. but she tried calling him for like 2 hours before we left and he never answered or called her back until after we had already left. We offered to meet up with him and hang out (though i dont like him) but he got mad at her and went out with his ex.
I also told her that this really sweet guy she likes also likes her. And she told her boyfriend i was trying to set her up. I NEVER said i wanted her to date the other guy, i told her he liked her.
Also, the guy she is with was telling us hes been with numerous girls (he doesnt know how many, he was on drugs when he was with most of them)
Am i being over protective of my friend? She can't even hang out with me or her other friends without him. He also comes to see her at lunch and gets mad if she has other things to do and cant spend time with her (we have open campus for lunch)

Am i right in telling her she can do better than this guy? I'm really concerned because when i was in a relationship like that, it turned into an abusive relationship and was really hard to get out of

You are right because you know how these type of relationships are, but your friend won't realize it until the abuse unfortunately starts.

I'd talk to her about it, and tell her that you're only looking out for her because you care about her & don't wanna see her get hurt. Especially from some dumb guy.

If she doesn't listen to you, then there isn't much you can do except wait. Or you can tell a counselor that you think he's abusive & you can get her help that way.

♥T!NA

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