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friends and sex
Im 15. in 9th grade. like ALLL of my friends have had sex.. its so weird im like the only one who hasnt. Im perfectly fine with it, im waiting for a serious long relationship where im in love to do it.. but all my friends keep getting hurt, been very close to gettin pregnant. Guys around here treat girls like shit.. there's sooo lil guys that wont use a girl... but anyways, all my best friends who are jus tlike me like wanted to wait a long time to have sex, are having sex in like one month with there sweet talkin boyfriend, there boyfriends are just sayin thing sthey wanna hear to make them think they're in love. I know its not my business, but i loveee my friends to death, and i look out for them. cause im older than all of them.. what can i do, they're too young and ruining their morals over these fake playin guyss....
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start off by telling them what you see and then tell them if the guy is serious about them then he wont care if they want to wait.
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Well it's nice to see that there's one smart freshman still alive...I know exactly what you're talking about. The idiot freshmen coming in think they're the shit because upperclassmen hit on them...this is why there's a herpes epidemic going around the freshmen class at my school...but i digress. There's not a whole lot that you can do being that you're buddies are all grown up and "know everything" but you can talk to them and make them realize you care and tell them of how they could be easily ruining their lives. And furthermore, they don't get hit on because they're anything special, it happens because to older guys, new freshmen girls = easy ass
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First off, good for you for waiting. That's wise. =)
Anywyas, there's not really much you can do. When girls are young, they're stupid. So of course they'll listen to the guy they think they're in love with.
The most you can do is sit them down & talk to them about it. Let them have sex, but tell them a condom is important, because obviously they didn't know that before hand.
♥T!NA
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There's not a whole lot you can do. If your too close to your friends they might get angry and try to distance themselves but at the same time if something goes wrong they might turn to you and wonder why you hadn't been closer. Try to give them advice and relate it to something they'd understand to show just how important it is. If something does go wrong then be there for them catch them before they fall.
Hope I could help o^-^o
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You can't make people do (or not do) things; Everyone is in control of their own lives and actions. So basically, you can't MAKE them not have sex, but you can discourage it.
All you can do is talk to them about it. Let them know that you care about them, and don't want to see them hurt, diseased, or pregnant. Tell them that the risks of having sex (STD's, HIV/AIDS, pregnancy, bad reputations) are too much for someone so young to handle. Tell them that a guy who rushes to have sex with them is most likely using them, and that sex isn't needed to have a lasting, healthy relationship.
Try to let them know that if they aren't ready for a baby, they aren't ready for sex. At the same time, though, try not to sound too preachy.
If your friends are true, the least they can do is listen and appreciate the fact that they have a friend who cares enough to talk to them about the issue.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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It`s good that your a good friend and there for them. Also that you know for sure you want to wait and not do it to "be in" with everyone else. The most you can do is try to talk to your friends, warn them, and be there for them. Sometimes people choose to not listen to other people and learn the hard way then after realizing you were right. But being there for them let`s them know you will always be there and your a great friend. :) ♥
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