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Suicide
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Alright so im 13/f and my cousin is 23/f. shes been dating her boyfriend for 2 years and she broke up with him and so he killed himself. he warned her that if she broke up with him he'd kill himself. hes only 23! or was..
anyway, him and her dad didnt get along very well. i feel so bad for him bcuz he was brokenhearted but he was a HUGE JERK! His parents are blaming it on HER! I feel so bad 4 her and im not gonna get into details of what he said but he was like "dont worry baby it's not your fault, you arent doing this to me" just to make her feel worse! what can i do to make her feel better? im kinda shy around her cuz i barely know her but i wanna make her feel better please help!
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I wouldn't talk to her directly about it or get into it if you aren't that close.
Just hug her, tell her you love her and appreciate her. Maybe give her a small present or something to make her feel better.
Try to make sure that she doesn't spend too much time alone (especially on Valentine's day) and explain to your other cousins and relatives to be delicate with her.
The most IMPORTANT thing is to make sure she doesn't hurt herself.
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Well, there isn't too much you can do to make her feel better. The only thing that could possibly give her peace right now is the forgiveness of her ex-boyfriend's parents, which you can't give her.
Do nice things for her. Bake her cookies. Take her shopping, if you have the money to do so. Burn her a CD of some of her favorite songs. Get some funny movies and watch them with her. The little things matter so much more than you know, especially in times like these.
Give her a hug and let her know that you're always there for her and will always love her. That's what she needs right now.
I know that you want to do more to help her, but since you really aren't in the situation, there's not much more you can offer other than your support and love. It may not seem like much, but it is. She'll definitely appreciate it.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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put your shyness aside and be there for her. sit her down and explain to her that it's not her fault. people with correct state of minds are able to move on with their lives, it's just a normal characteristic in people. we forgive and forget. the boyfriend did this upon himself and no one should blame your cousin for HIS actions. he was just too weak to go on with life. tell your cousin she's stronger than anyone. tell her that whatever her exboyfriend's parents say are bogus. they should be more mature about this and not blame your cousin for their son's actions. i hope i helped and i'm deeply sorry about the situation.
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I don't mean to sound mean, but you guys are ten years apart. She's probably going through some really deep and sad emotions right now. I think she would be better off going to a therapist to talk about it or a psychologist. It doesn't seem like something you could help your cousin with (no offense) especially since you mentioned that you barely know her. If you see her just be friendly to her and i'm sure she wouldn't want to talk about so don't mentioin it.
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Wow I'm sorry. Umm ok, first of all she has to ask for advice or want to talk about it because she may not want to. Therefore she has to start the conversation first. If she doesn't then don't bring it up and don't push. But if you do start talking about it, you have to make it blatantly obvious that it is not her fault. Keep repeating that and make sure she really knows it. It was his selfish act to take his life. But I wouldn't bash the guy to much. I mean he is dead and you shouldn't bash people that have passed away to much. Bottom line just be there for her. Thats all you really can do.
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awee oh my god!! that`s so sadd. But anyway, what you could do to help her get through this & make her feel better is just talk to her tell her of how good of a person she is, even though you don`t know her that well. You need to spend as much time with her as possible & talk to her like you`ve known her for your whole life, be really nice to her. And explain to her that there are so many other guys in the world that would love to be with her, and remind her of how big of a jerk that guy was to her when they were going out. Just be there for her, and remind her that you wouldn`t want her to spend her life regreting something that isn`t her fault, just because some idiot decided to kill him self... isn`t her fault, AT ALLL! good luck! & I hope I helped ♥
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