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What is wrong with him?
I really like my guy friend (lets call him Sam). He and I are always together in school and everyone guessed that I like him but i never admit it. Sam and I flirt alot, we talk, we make eye contact, we trust eachother, hes there for me, he defends me, he'll try to talk to me if he sees me cry, he smiles at me when we see eachother in the hall, and hes so sweet. Now, one of my guy friends got really depressed and I tried to help him through it. It didn't work so well and Sam could tell I was getting upset over something. He once overheard me telling my best friend how I couldn't take knowing about this and how in the end I told his parents. Sam overheard when I said I had cried the night before and as soon as class ended he came to the door and asked me what was wrong. I couldn't tell him the secret but I told him a bit. Now he is bugging me to tell him more and the othe guy is really mad I told even a little bit. What should I do?
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Tell Sam that the other guy told you a secret that you have to keep. So tell him you can't tell him because its a secret and you need to keep it. He needs to respect that. And apoligize to the other guy about you telling him a little bit and you won't tell anymore and that he can trust you. I hope everything goes well.
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Sam has to respect that you told the other guy that you would keep it a secret...and also how did the other guy know that you told Sam? sometimes its okay to have support from someone when you need to keep a secret...but the person cant get involved...and must be trustworthy...the guys whose secret ur keeping has to understand that its a burden for you and u somehow have to understand burn off steam and that might be confessing in another friend
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I think you should apologize to the other guy friend, for starters. He obviously thought he could talk to you in confidence, but you told not only one friend, but two, things he wanted you to keep to yourself. You broke his trust. Big no-no in any sort of relationship, friend or otherwise.
As for you telling his parents, since he is depressed, I'm sure that you did the right thing.
Sam? He may be sweet and all, but in this situation that holds no bearing. It is completely irrelevant. This other friend's personal situation is none of his business. THAT is what is important, here. Just because you like him and flirt with each other doesn't give him the right to bug you to break another friend's trust. And it doesn't give you the right, either.
If the tables were turned to him, he wouldn't want you to do that to HIM, would he? How about a friend talking to others about your deepest feelings shared in trust? Would you like some one talking about you? I think not.
So, as for what you should do about Sam? Tell him, so sorry, so sad. Gave you too much info already. Tell him you want to respect your other friend, and if he is any real friend to you, he will drop it out of respect for you.
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You were just wrong for letting it slip both of them are probably upset becaause i hate back stabbing and i hate when people start things they can't finish but people make mistakes and that is how you learn tobe a better person so. If you really trust him and that is only 100% and he is your best friend finish telling him make sure he doesn't repeat it and never make that mistake again be a trust worthy friend. Otherwise make up a simple non incriminating, harmless lie to tell him to finish it off. And apoligize to the other friend for telling his secret and tell him you'll never do it again and how and why you did it and mean it. Always be a dependable frined don't tell other friends secrets and never put other friends in a position where they feel like you don't trust them .
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If you completely trust Sam like you say you do, I would tell him the rest. Just make him promise to take it to his grave. Tell the other guy you're sorry about telling, but you were upset & needed somebody to talk to.
If you like Sam and you think he likes you back, ask him out. =) Worst he can say is no.
♥T!NA
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