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shes my friend shes also gay only i know
my friend was over my house she acts like a stud we switched cell phones for 2 day during them 2 day i got over 15 messages from her girlfriend saying stuff i dont even want to mention should i ask her is she gay or play like i dont know
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Does it matter to you whether your friend is gay or not? Does it make her any less your friend? She's still the same person whether she's a lesbian or not, and you liked her before finding out, right? Don't let her being gay scare you off of being her friend.
Don't ask her, because she'll let you know when she's comfortable doing so. Maybe let her know that you got some messages from one of her friends, and that you'll forward them and delete them for her. She can do what she wants with the knowledge that you're aware.
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you should definitely mention something about those fifteen messages. don't come on too strong and say something like "are you gay girl"? At the same time say it so that she can answer you without feeling embarrassed. because if she finds out you knew something and didn't tell her she might be angry and also if you don't tell her soon, you might find yourself starting to avoid her and making excuses to leave etc.
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huh? sorry i didn't understand what u put for the feedback thanks for the feedback though!
I wouldn't confront her about it because she may get really mad (or embaressed) that you heard that stuff. Although, she had to have known that you could've heard those messages so maybe this was her way of telling you, or hoping you'd find out. You may now see her as different (well obviously) but just try to be understanding, or a casual friend if you feel uncomfortable. She might need you at a time like this but just be friendly and nice. If it's really biting at you I would try asking her because you'll keep thinking about it. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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[EDIT: Yes, things are going to be a little different and such, but not totally. She's still the same person you know, the same friend. It's going to be a little tough to accept, but overtime I'm sure you'll get used to it. When she does come out and tell you, talk to her about it. Let her know at first that you might not be comfortable with her talking about her girlfriend or anything, but that you support her ; you just need some time to get adjusted. I'm sure she'll understand and she'll be glad you're willing to accept it. ]
I wouldn't just come out and ask her if she's gay, because maybe she's trying to wait and find the time where she's most comfortable & ready to let you know. Also, you never know ; it could all just be a joke with her and her friend. Me and my friend make weird pervy comments to eachother all the time, but we're not gay. Just let her be the one to tell you, but maybe help guide her along.
Whenever you guys go to switch your phones back, or see eachother next, just mention that you got alot of messages from this one girl, _____. You got like 15 of them. If she asks what they said, tell her. See what she says. If she doesn't tell you, she may not be ready to tell you. Or like I said, it could all be one big joke with a friend or something she's having. You just need to wait and see what happens. If she does turn out to be gay, she'll tell you, someday. Whenever she's ready and comfortable and feels like she'll be able to tell you and you'll understand and accept it. At least as of now you're partially aware your friend might be gay, so when the time comes for her to tell you, you'll be ready.
I hope I helped.
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Well if she's gay, why does it matter to you? I understand that's your friend, but her sexuality shouldn't matter. If you guys switch phones again, let her know to delete those messages before she gives it back to you if it makes you that uncomfortable. Talk to her about it. I'm sure she'll understand. But don't judge her because her sexual preferences are different.
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Shes your friend so go ahead and ask. Tell her about the calls you got. Might just be another friend goofing around. But, if she is maybe she could use someone to talk to about it. :)
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If she acts like a stud.. and you got messages from her "girlfriend" then you already know shes gay! lol
But when u see her again, i wouldnt come right out and ask her.. try somethin like.. "damn girl you got like 15 messages from so & so!.. so whats up with yall two?" Try and sound like you know shes gay, and you just want to find out about her and the other girls status. If you ask that way, you'll get your answer, and at the same time you wont wont freak her out by being attacking.
Hope I helped!
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