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It's no fun being the school slut.
Hi. I'm 14 years old and a female. I have gone to the same camp for years. Everyone basis how good their experience was during the summer on how far they went and with how many people. I too, took part of this. I hooked up with six people and gave one of them head and hand, but everyone did that. I ended up pissing off the wrong people and they called me a whore despite the fact that many had done the same thing. I left camp and it was rumored that I got kicked out. Now, when I went back to school, they got a lot of people who weren't even there and have created their own elaborate versions of the story and are mean to me. They openly talk about it during class even in front of the teacher during my presentations and such. I now know what I did was wrong but how can I get people to stop?
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Heyy, who cares what they think, ignore them and they'll lose interest. Don't give up hope.
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i hate to say this but once people start talking they usually don't stop take it from someone who is kind of in your position but i have dealt with this kind of stuff my whole life and listen if you want them to stop then show them it doesn't bother you even though it does. because once they think that it's not hurting you anymore they don't want to do that. i used to tell people that they didn't know what they were talking about so they shouldn't say shit bout it but they still did so i went to my mom and i asked her for some advice and she told me that i should ignore what they say because i know who i am but they don't and if their stupid enough not to want to get to know you that's their problem not yours. if they think your getting angry and upset about it they'll keep on doing it cuz they know it annoys you so i hope my advice helps.
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You want them to stop? When they are doing it when other people are around heres what you do: first when you hear them say something about it just make the comment "she's just trying to make things up about me so I wont tell the truth about what she did at camp!" and get a little smirk when you say it. Then you can lie about what they did and when they say that its a lie tell them its as truthful as what they are saying about you. That leaves them with the choice of owning up to what they did, in turn making look less intense for you, or they can say its all lies. Either way it will take some heat off of you.
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First thing I'm gonna have to say is that your teachers are idiots for not hearing/stopping all these conversations going on in class.
You know that going around from guy to guy was wrong and YOU know it and that's really all that matters. I know really trite and corny answer. Hmm, yet again I seem to use thse 2 quotes.
"Be yourself. Don't take anyone's shit and never let them get you alive." Gerard Way
"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Eleanor Roosevelt.
Keep your head up hide and don't seclude yourself or walk away ashamed because you're just letting them confirm their little chit chats. The next time you hear something about you being a slut, go up to them and say "Were you at the camp? (If they were): Then you should know better that everyone took part in this and secluding me from doing what everyone else did doesn't make much sense. (If they weren't) No you weren't. You don't even know what you're talking about and enjoying repeating other's words that are false just proves how pathetic your life is."
Or just point out that what they're saying is called a R-U-M-O-R and that rumors have no basis for facts and they have no clue as to what the hell they're saying. They should really get over themselves and the stupid words and move on with their lives instead of trying to make someone else's life miserable just to boost their little self confidence up.
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Uh.. and these people starting this crap didn't take part in this weird ritual? Hmm... I would say they did if that's how they consider making going to camp a "good time."
To hell with them. Let them say what they want. They are idiots, and are probably sluts themselves but want to rank you. You don't see yourself that way, I'm sure, and that's all that really matters.
If they get away with having such topics for open discussion during class, your teacher is an idiot too, who has no business teaching children.
Lesson learned:
It doesn't always pay to go with the flow. Don't follow the crowd, lead yourself- no matter if others follow or not.
Who talked you into basing YOUR good time at camp by how many sexual acts you preformed? Now you know better, and that's what is most important about that.
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Tell them that they don't know what the hell went on and if they don't like you or what you do, that's their problem, not your's. Fuck what they think about you. It shouldn't matter. Sure, they think you're a slut, but who cares. You know the truth about what happened. Just ignore it. =)
♥T!NA
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