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best friend with controlling boyfriend -- could lead to abus
Background information: i've been with my b/f for over 6 months, my best friend HATED it cuz she liked him too.. but shes the one who set us up.
Now shes been dating this guy for about 3 months, and hes kind of controlling. She doesn't understand why her friends think this. He got mad at her because she and I went out on a day that she was supposed to be with him.. but she tried calling him for like 2 hours before we left and he never answered or called her back until after we had already left. We offered to meet up with him and hang out (though i dont like him) but he got mad at her and went out with his ex.
I also told her that this really sweet guy she likes also likes her. And she told her boyfriend i was trying to set her up. I NEVER said i wanted her to date the other guy, i told her he liked her.
Also, the guy she is with was telling us hes been with numerous girls (he doesnt know how many, he was on drugs when he was with most of them)
Am i being over protective of my friend? She can't even hang out with me or her other friends without him. He also comes to see her at lunch and gets mad if she has other things to do and cant spend time with her (we have open campus for lunch)
Am i right in telling her she can do better than this guy? I'm really concerned because when i was in a relationship like that, it turned into an abusive relationship and was really hard to get out of
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Hey. This guy does sound like an ultra control freak and your friend has fallen into his spell. Now this is going to sound silly but she's probably "brainwashed" which is why she told him what you said about the other guy. You're not wrong at all for wanting to get her out of this relationship and I would try talking to her or get help from someone else to show her what this guy's doing to her. I would also get help from a higher source because this guy sounds a little dangerous especially when he's on drugs (although he may be a completely harmless control freak). I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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your not wrong at all you should try to get your friend out of that relationship as soon as possible before she come to school with a black eye or something and she sounds like someone that when the abuse comes she's not gonna say anything about it she sound like if you question her she'll lie for him.and if she do call it off with him and he get pissed don't leave her alone make sure she always have someone there that can help and/or protect her cause if he's that pissed about her he will get violent
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You are right because you know how these type of relationships are, but your friend won't realize it until the abuse unfortunately starts.
I'd talk to her about it, and tell her that you're only looking out for her because you care about her & don't wanna see her get hurt. Especially from some dumb guy.
If she doesn't listen to you, then there isn't much you can do except wait. Or you can tell a counselor that you think he's abusive & you can get her help that way.
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Good for you for looking out for your friend. Of course you are right, you tell her this because you care about what happens to her. She is very lucky to have you.
Sadly, the only way she is going to see the situation that she's in for what it really is, is when she opens her eyes and looks at it from outside the box. It seems, from what you say, that she is denying the truth by refusing to face it. Only she can change that.
The best thing you can do is to be there for her. You can keep trying to reason with her and hope she sees it, but it may not work. It may just get her upset with you.
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