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My partner and I have been together for just over 3 years and in that time things havent been bad but havent been the greatest. I am 26 he is 22, from the beginning I saw signs that something was up. When we first started dating if I didnt want to do something with him one night he would drive by my house several times asking if I want to see him - or just appear at my door. if I said no - he would get upset and not talk to me for hours.
We moved in together 2 years ago - and things have been getting worse...and I am starting to realize it now (everyone can see it). I am told when to get out of bed, when I can go to bed, when I can do everything, calling me stupid blaming EVERYTHING on me - He has a very short fuse - to the point i am scared to say anything to him. Just the other night we got into an argument (he wanted me to call someone and I didnt want to) he got VERY angry - got in my face clintched his fist and swung - stopping it less than an inch from my face. and stormed away. I have never been so scared - he has never done this kind of a thing before. and about 50 mins later he apologized and wnats to move on. But i dont know if I can. It scared me. Is this abuse? Should I leave??
You are in a very dangerous situation, both physically and mentally. You are from what you have written being mentally abused and in danger of being physically abused. You need to get out now.
If you need help in getting out of the house there are three numbers you can call. The first of course is 911.
If you call 911 and even if he pulls the phone away from you an officer will be dispatched. The officer(s) will need to speak with each of you separately. This is your opportunity to ask for help in leaving.
The second number is a hotline for an organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. The volunteers who answer the phone will help you contact a women's shelter in your area and other professionals you may need who can help you. Their number is 1-800-656-HOPE.
The third number is for the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Like RAINN this organization will help you find a women's shelter and the professional help you may need: Their number is 1-800-799-7233.
Your partner is controlling you or attempting to do so. This is the worst type of abuse. He may have caught himself from hitting you this time. What about next time. There will be a next time there always is. Please for your own safety get out now.
If you must leave everything behind do so. There are safe ways to retrieve your belongings safely. The organizations I've listed will show you how. No one deserves to be abused, controlled or physically harmed by another. If you need help it is out there for the asking. Get out before your partner physically harms you.
I'm not only old enough to be your grandfather I am also a volunteer with a volunteer rescue squad. I all to often have seen the results of situations such as yours. Please take my advice and that of the others and get out now.
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I had sex last night and he didn't even cum but the condom broke so I took plan B today just in case (because of precum). I know the chances that I was pregnant in the first place were very slim but I just wanted to be safe. I stopped taking birth control a few months ago but I'm planning on going back on it in the next few days. My question is... let's say I have sex tonight and the condom breaks again, is my plan B still effective for today? Or would I have to take another pill tomorrow? I know the chances of this happening again are really small but I just want to be safe! Thanks!
Since both you and I are unsure of the answer to this question. My suggestion would be to get an absolute correct answer to this question ask your Pharmacist.
Most pharmacist are very knowledgeable in over the counter medications. If they do not know the answer they have ways of looking up the answer or they will tell you to check with your doctor.
I had three wisdom teeth taken out on monday and today its friday. Only one side of my mouth hurts which is my right bottom. Its not too bad just feels like my tooth is still there and growing. that is the only tooth that i have had problems with. it was growing under the moler. anyway im super scared of getting a dry socket and today i was drinking from a straw and i didnt even notice until just now. i havent had any problems with the precedure and they didnt even bleed bad. just that first day and once i took the cotton out 30 mins later it wasnt bleeding. I just want to know if i really have anything to worry about or not. Oh also i get random dizzy/nausa spells that maybe last about 15 mins. I stopped taking my vicoden that was with tylonal and my amoxicillin (i asked) so im thinking it cant be them but ive been taking acetaminophen and i was wondering if it may be those but idk HELP PLEASE
As long as you doctor approved stopping the antibiotic I guess that is okay. I would think he/she would have given you a different one. Most dentist want you on antibiotics for 10 days after surgery like this.
As for what you are feeling I would think this about normal for where you are at in your recovery. What you may be feeling is called phantom pain. It is the same type of pain people feel when they have limb amputated. An over simplification of this is that your nerves believe the tooth is still there so they still send the signals to the brain. This will pass.
Today is Saturday, if you still feel this way on Monday give your Surgeon a call and see if he/she wants you to come in for a check up. It will have been8 days by then and most of the pain ans swelling should have gone down by then. If not the Surgeon may want to take a look at you.
Hello ladies! I've been reading some stories about miscarriages and finding out at the first ultra sound the baby isn't viable. My husband and I are so excited for this baby. Our first ultra sound is Dec 19th and these stories are starting to get me worked up. What if my baby isn't developing, what if this or that. I do have menstrual like cramps and i've been told thats the uterus growing and it's pretty frequent so does that mean the baby is still at least growing? Sorry i'm a first time mom and quite scared about everything!
First: Stress is not good for your baby. Stop worrying about that which you cannot control. The things you have written specifically about are rare and do not happen in the majority of pregnancy. Most often they happen in high risk pregnancies, which are women who are closer to age 40 or have abused drugs or use alcohol.
Two: This is the wrong place to have questions about your individual pregnancy answered. What one women may experience may sound as if it is the same as you are experiencing but can have an entirely different diagnoses. If you are concerned with something call your doctors office. Your Obstetricians office is quite use to dealing with first time mothers and expects your calls.
If for some reason you are not trusting of the answer(s) you receive or the treatment you are receiving from you doctor you can always get a second opinion or find a new doctor. Even if you are an HMO patient. All that is required is to call your insurance carrier and ask.
Third: Relax. If you have confidence in your doctor then relax and enjoy your first pregnancy. The less stress in your life, especially during the first trimester the better it is for the baby. The chances of you and your husband having anything but a healthy, happy baby are so small you really should not be stressing out over this.
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So I'm 17 and a female. I've been experiencing bad smells that i just can't seem to get rid of. Bad breath, armpit smells, and smells from my vaginal area that seems to smell like pee. These have become terrible just recently and not all three smells will be at the same time. But I'm extremely clean! I use toothpaste, floss, mouth wash three times a day. I shower with antibacterial soap & body wash, shampoo & conditioner, i change my sheets, and wash my clothes, i wipe properly. I do sweat allot & use deodorant for that. When i take off my panties they smell horrendously and they are sometimes wet? I'm not sure if it's sweat or what. I also drink allot of water. I've tried switching up my products (soaps, deodorants, toothpastes, etc..). nothing works.
I've also had some other weird noticeable problems lately that i think may have some medical connection. My hair is thinner and falling out, my lips have this annoying white buildup of what seems to be dead skin around the edges during the day, and although i have Primary Raynaud's disease (as my doctor says..) but I have been experiencing and increase in all-over blotchy discolored skin that is purple when it is supposed to be concentrated on my hands.
These problems are extremely frustrating and I'm wondering if all of this sounds like a Thyroid problem or maybe an immune issue? Or might I have a liver problem or a vaginal or bladder infection?
I'm at a loss.. Well, Thanks so much for reading this!
First none of us are doctors, so if your looking for a diagnoses you've come to the wrong place we cannot make diagnoses or offer any. I did look up Primary & Secondary Raynaud's disease. I did not find the symptoms you wrote about to be symptoms of this disease.
There are many things that can cause body odor, including a change in diet. Have you changed your eating habits recently. Garlic is a great cause of body odor and bad breath. I know some people who take garlic supplements because they believe in the medicinal benefits of garlic.
My best advice though is that you see a doctor. I really can't say if this what you have written about is normal or abnormal for you. The fact that you are this concerned says you are better off getting your a doctors opinion.
Based on your concerns I would suggest you see a gynecologist and an Internist.
I hope I've helped.
Well first off its sad how so many cute guys are playes, they cuss every word that comes outta their mouths, all they want is one thing, go out for girls for a day and then break up. I hate that it makes me sick! Well I was just wondering is it possible for people to change like when they get a little older like from a 15 year old boy to maybe 16 or 17 Or do you think they wouldn't? Thanks!
Have you ever heard the expression boys will be boys. Unfortunately most teenage boys do not change until well into their college years. Most boys that do not go to college never change.
I volunteer at a fire station with a young man who is in his late 20's. He has been suspended several times because he cannot speak without every other word being a cuss word. If you ask him he will tell you manly men cuss. He's wrong, you know it and so do I and the rest of the people I volunteer with. He just can't get it through his head that he is wrong.
Teenage boys thing it's cool to cuss with their friends and in front of girls. Makes them feel manly. One wonders how they can kiss their mothers with those mouths.
As for being players? Here again for teenage boys sex and dating is not mutually exclusive. It is more of a game to see who among them can have sex with more girls. This is a game that has been going on for as long as their has been boys and girls. Having sex proves they're a man. The more girls you bed the more manly you are. Boys also confuse lust and love, it is a hormonal problem with them. They need sex to relieve the sexual stress brought on by the hormones released at puberty. That stress is more urgent when around a pretty girl so they confuse lust and love.
Boys mature more slowly then girls but eventually most boys do mature. When they do most of them will stop being players and can identify the difference between lust and love. Those that do will stop playing and stop looking for a life mate. Unfortunately this doesn't happen, if it happens until their mid twenties.
For now you have two choices. Learn how to defend yourself from players and their roaming hands, or sit home and watch TV on weekends or better yet study so you can get into a good college where you will find guys who may have matured early.
There are some guy in school that are not players. They are the ones that may be called nerds or don't dress in the stylish clothes. They sit alone at lunch because they don't have many friends. They are really nice guys once you get to know them, their just not with the in crowd. Their shy and maybe a little awkward. They may get bullied or teased by the in crowd. But they can be fun to be with on a one on one basis. They will treat you with respect and show you a good time as well. They are the ones who ask you what you like to do rather than have you suffer through things they like to do.
That's the best I can offer for know. Hang in their it gets better. It takes time.
What does it mean if your sexually attracted to someone I think it means like you like someone but Why they sexually, because Just because I like someone dont mean I wanna Have sex with them. So what does it mean haha like the SEXUALLY attracted part? also what a SEX symbol means? another SEX inserted word? Thanks:P
the difference in being attracted to someone and sexually attracted to someone is just what it sounds like. It doesn't mean that if you are sexually attracted to someone that you two are going to crawl into bed together. It just means your hormones are exited and you need to be extra careful around this person because you are more vulnerable to having sex with that person.
Ok so I like this Guy but the thing is he is my cousin cousin but I'm am related by her mom side (her mom and my mom are sisters) and he is related to her by his dad(there brothers) . So I really don't Know if it's illegal or if its ok. To like him.
Please Help!!
I refer you to yesterdays answer.
As to the legality: In the eyes of the law it is only illegal to marry a first Cousin, sister or brother. It is unlawful to have sex with an immediate family member such as, mother, father, sister or brother. I'm not sure if this law also covers first cousins. When in doubt consider it is also unlawful to have sex with a first cousin.
Hopefully this answers the question of legality you asked. Pleas don't ask this question again.
I am trying to help my Aunt recover her windows live e-mail account. I received an e-mail from her account stating she was in the UK with a sick cousin and needed funds. I knew what had happened. But I am so frusterated with the help center. Without knowing better, she got phished & answered the questions from an e-mail looking legitamate, from windows live stating; in order for this account to remain active, fill in the info requested. Evidently they changed her password since when she tries to sign on, she gets the message password does not match. She needs this account for her work at school where she works with problem children. It was set up by another nephew and I am in a different state. I have gone through all the steps in the help center and recieved back a response (not enough info to prove the account has been hijacked). I have all the info she could provide & I have A++ training but have hit a brick wall with the help center. I'm frusterated...
I could be wrong here but my best guess is that they believe you may be trying to hijacking the account. You are attempting to fix the account from a computer other than the one they are use to seeing on their server.
You may need to have your cousin who originally set up the account repair the account from the computer it was set up from or from your Aunts computer if they are different. The other thing that you could do is have you Aunt email them from her computer, if possible as I am not familiar with widows live I don't use it, telling them of the problems. That she has asked you to fix it and give them your computer ID info.
As I said this is only a guess on my part but is logical to me and there for it makes sense that they would not accept anything from you in an effort to protect your Aunts account.
I really like this guy but im 12 and he is in the nineth grade. But we talk alot of facebook. But he cousins with my cousin but im one her moms side and he on her dads side.What do i should i stop likeing him cuz its werid or is that OK.And its ok cuz im in the 7th grade.But my our families know each other
The relationship issue, him being cousin to your cousin is not a big deal. It does not meet the incest standard.
While looking at difference in grades or possibly your ages, 7th vs 9th, 12 vs 14, chronologically this too is not that much of a difference. Where the big difference comes in is maturity. He being in 9th grade and being 14 possibly closer to 15 makes him far more mature than you at this time. If you were say 22 and he 24 or 25 i don't think any of us would have a problem.
At his present age his interest in much younger girls is the ability to sway them into doing what he asks of them. To be perfectly blunt he finds it easier to get into the pants of a 12 year old then someone his age. To put it plainer he is looking for sex.
If you were my daughter, and I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I was once 15 as well. I would not be allowing you to date to begin with At your age exclusive dating is not what you should be doing. You need to learn how to socialize properly, how to handle boys when they become all hands and how to keep their hands and other parts out of your pants. You do this in the safety of group dates. Such as mall dating, group outings to the movies, bowling, skating or school dances.
You have plenty of time to date. First learn how to date. Learn what being a teenager, smell the roses which you have yet to become is all about. Slow down don't be in such a rush to grow up. As the saying goes stop and let yourself smell the roses. Give yourself time to enjoy being a young lady and a teenager.
My mother is dramatic and over exaggerates. I don't just say this because I am her daughter, she slams doors and has tantrums like a child and I have been trying really hard not to yell back and try to stay calm. Point is this Christmas my mother in law is spending in Texas my sister is spending with her mother in law, and I'm stuck alone with my mother. I personally don't want to spend it with her because the last time I spent Christmas just with her and my dad that left 4 years ago I was in my room and she fell asleep on the couch. We don't talk about stuff or have anything in common. How do I tell her I want to go out alone with my bf to dinner and have a romantic Christmas. She could spend it with my aunt, a close friend or my sister and her mother in laws family because they get along. But I know when and if I tell her, she is going to flip out and cry and tell me I don't care about her and I only care about my dad because he gives me money. Than she goes off to say all these horrible things about my dad. We are European and so if anyone can relate you know what I mean by the drama. What do I do?
I'm not sure if your writing from the U.S. or Europe. Where I live in the U.S., very close to the Nations Capital, many restaurants close Christmas eve around Eight O'clock. I've also lived in other major cities in the U.S. and the closing times for them differed some but most closed early on Christmas Eve.
If this is true were you live maybe there is a compromise that you can offer your mom. You can go out and have dinner with your boyfriend then come back have a drink with your mom and exchange present. After an hour or so you leave telling her you have to go to his parents house, I'm guessing they live near by, to exchange presents with them.
You could even enlist the help of the people you wrote about by asking them to invite mom over Christmas eve. Then foster the idea of her accepting the invitation thus freeing your evening to spend with your boyfriend.
Mom is probably lonely. Sure she may have fallen asleep on the couch but took comfort that you were there even if you were in your room. She was not alone on such an important holiday.
Holidays such as Christmas can be extremely lonesome when a person is by themselves. There is comfort when someone else is present even if you are in separate parts of the house.
You don't say how old you are or why you live at home with mom. If you are over 18 you are an adult you are entitled to your own life. If your over 21 your entitlement increases as your dependant status, at least in the U.S. on parents end. So think about the suggestions I have offered then do what you think best. But you have every right to have an enjoyable evening with your BF and if mom throws a fit, let her. Don't let her tantrums control you which is what she is doing. If you don't they will stop.
She calls me stupid but I make straight A's She says ever since I was born I ruined her life. Is what she saying true? Have I ruined her life because she forgot me somewhere and I called my mother for help? Is she jeolus of me? I cant recall a time in my life when my sister loved me. I want to Kill myself for that is surely what she wants right? I want to die anyway but I want it to be painless please help me find a solution.
What is happening to you is called sibling rivalry. This rivalry tends to be greater when there is a large age difference between siblings.
There was a six year age difference between me and my sister. She use to torment the life out of me. She could also be very sweet and loving, especially when we were teenagers and she wanted something such as a ride to a friends house.
Sibling rivalry is unfortunately normal. It does not mean your sister does not love you. You are the younger child and as the older child your parents look to her to watch out for you. Maybe do things with you when she may have plans to do something else. Hence you are ruining her life. Your entry into the world also meant that she then had to vie for your parents attention and affection when she had grown accustom to having it all to herself.
The fact is your sister does love you. Just let someone try and hurt you when she is near you and see how protective she can be. Sure she may tease you along with her friends; that's what brothers and sister do. Should you get really sick she will be by your bedside helping you get better.
This is what life as a sibling is for now. As you get older it will change. Your sister being the older sibling will mature as she gets older, probably marry first and things will get better.
Wanting to die is not the answer. Talk to mom and dad. Tell them how you feel. If you feel you cannot talk to them then call this number 1-800-273-TALK(8255). This is the National Suicide Prevention Hotline. It is answered 24/7 265 days a year. The call takers are trained to spend as much time as you need on the phone with you. To help you find professional people in your home town to help you. People looking to suicide are people in distress caused by depression. There is help for depression.
If you feel actively suicidal, meaning you feel like hurting yourself. Then call 911 now. Tell the call taker how you feel. They will send help to you.
Write back and let me know how your doing.
Whats the inside scoop on the University of Maryland-College Park? How is the spirit there? How's the hype for games? How's the night life? I know that the education is what I want in a university, but I'm not sure if the "fun" factor is all there. Pros? Cons? Thanks
The UM is one of the best schools in the country. It is also a big party school which is a draw back for you can easily end up on academic probation is you party to much. The standards are high academically and it is easy to fall behind if you party hardy. Also under age drinking is dealt with very severely both by the school and campus police. Who are an agency of the Maryland State Police and not your usual campus rent a cops.
So if your intention is to party and drink alcohol and you live out of state. Don't waste your parents money as the out of state tuition has just gone up considerably. The school has a zero tolerance on underage drinking.
I am a 20 year old female and I have been sexually inactive for almost a year now. I just recently had sex the other day and I was very sore for a couple days, which I expected, but then I had sex a couple days later (with the same person) and it hurt. I figured it was because I was still sore, but when I touched my vagina, it felt like it was swollen and it hurt really bad. Also my (vaginal) lips felt very raw and itchy. This is really disgusting me and I don't know what is wrong. Can someone help me please!!!
I can't say what your problem is. You do need to see a doctor as it is important that you find out.
It is unfortunate in today's world that even if your man used a condom you could have contracted some type of STD as not all STDs are prevented by condoms. Their art of course other possibilities. The worry is in not knowing. While your at your doctor whether this is an STD or not; ask about the best way to protect yourself from being infected by someone.
This is going to be a long story, and I can't believe how I got to this point, but I feel like I have a huge metal problem on my hands.
I started dating my boyfriend last year. He was my first for everything of course, i lost my virginity to him, I opened up to him, told him I loved him. We're still dating to this day;
I remember myself last year, I was happy, random, confident, funny, always making people smile, I was the one giving everyone advice, inspiring everyone. I'm sure he was attracted to my personality,because I felt comfortable with myself.
I'm looking at myself and am finding that I've become completely lost, and on this website asking for some kind of help.
When we first met, I thought he was so handsome, and he was very artistic. Though I've always been confident on the surface, I was paranoid to be myself because I've always been shy with guys i'm into, and hated having my guard down. I liked to keep things light and fun, but every odd and crazy thing I said he didn't really respond to. This only made me try harder, and he did say some things and over time I felt successful in having conversation with him.
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This is very important : He said I reminded him of his ex (who was one of my good friends) But they technically didn't date. they dated for about 2 weeks and she wasn't into him, probably for the same reason as I stated above (he wasn't very..random..interesting..or whatever) **
When we met, he had 2 months until he went off to college to go to art school across the states. In those 2 months we had sex and were very close. Then, we broke up when he moved away.
Throughout the whole time he was across the country, he'd call me every night and we'd continue talking, opening up to each other (so technically,we considered it still dating. more like,on and off) and just becoming really good friends. Of course I wasn't over him,and when he was away I was in a state of deep depression.
He came back winter break, and we were more-so "friends with benefits". This ruined me more, but I would've rather been that than nothing (and I was also friends with his friends- so being together was kind of natural)
Then this time, he left without saying goodbye. I was heartbroken,but I still stayed strong, because I know this wasn't part of my mentality to break down- especially in front of my friends, though I know they could tell I was very much upset.
I finally regained my dignity and cut ties (unanswered phone calls, if there were even any at all).. until he came back this summer and we just "naturally" again, connected.
I told him off the bat that I didn't want to do the whole "benefit" thing again, and he said he wanted to "get to know" me more before we got into a relationship. I agreed, but needless to say that next week we were official again (A lot of my friends didn't approve).
(I'm trying to cut this as short as I can, I really hope you can stick through this!)
Then..some wave came over me. Slowly, I lost contact with all my friends. I became paranoid that I wasn't as good as his ex (my friend-- mind you I hadn't talked to her in awhile). And then his other ex (who is very also friends with his ex. Basically, the two ex's were best friends. They both broke up with him for the same reason)
So what I did was..become friends with his ex's this whole summer. Because I thought- if I hung around them, I'd be like them,and thus he'd like me more. But also- we did become really, really good friends because we were so alike! The catch, is - my boyfriend didn't know I was hanging out with them (he hated one of the girls). He doesn't know I was ever friends with them this whole summer. We went on crazy adventures, had amazing times.
He told me he loved me in the midst of the summer, and I fell more deeply for him and said I loved him as well(of course). Then, I started getting those feelings of ill confidence again. I felt like the ex he compared me to would always be better than me, and that's where I am now. I beat myself up about it from time to time, and I feel like I'm lesser of a person. This is clearly a confidence issue, and I'm afraid he's going just get bored of me because I'm not good enough.
I wish I could give every detail, because I feel like I'm in such a hole of psychotic behavior that I can't get out. I realize what I've done hasn't been normal or right or moral in anyway, and yet- I don't know how fix the way I feel anymore. I feel disconnected with reality, and different from who I used to be. I want to be back to who I was, and I feel like I'm close but something's stifling me. I love my boyfriend very much,and he's never done anything like what I've done (from what I've known). And he lights me up in ways no one else can. He knows more about me now than anyone in my life. Which is valuable, but makes me feel vulnerable. We still get along, but I don't know how to conquer this feeling.
I've cut contact with those two friends, and am trying to get myself back. But I need another perspective, if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it. I hope this wasn't too much torture to read :o thank you! so much
To be honest you really don't want a body like you see on those models. Those girls are not at all as healthy as they look. They are under weight, many are bulimic or anorexic. The are constantly starving themselves to maintain the figure VS wants for models. This is unhealthy and these girls are and will pay the price with their health later in life.
What you see in magazines and on television is done with lots of make-up. Both facial and body make-up. I Don't want to lead you wrong. Some of the girls seen last night were a little healthier than in years past. The real skinny ones are the ones you don't want to look like because they are the ones who are paying the price to look that way. Even the healthier ones work hard to maintain an acceptable figure and they too pay a price. It is really not worth it.
Boys that look at these women and say that is what a girl should look like are stupid. A girl can be sexy and not look like she hasn't had a good meal in ages.
Ummm hi its me again, my boyfriend broke up with me and he says that my family problems and my personality adds on to his anxiety! I said what the hell does that mean?! He said that a month and a half into our relationship he was thinking about breaking up with me. He told his beeeesssttttt friend and my ex beessssstttt friend that he wanted nothing to do with me and i hate her and when he says things to her like that, it gives her the advantage to call me a "slut" and that im worthless! She is hitting on my exes and she says that she is devoted to her boyfriend Nick and she calls me a whore! I don't know what to do! Please I need help!!! Thnx for everything you guys are trying to do! Love you guys!!! :'(
If you were any younger or he any older I would agree with your friends. Right now you two are right on the edge of what I would say is acceptable. The people that you really have to satisfy with this age difference are your parents. They may not be as liberal in their thinking as I am being.
Platonic relationship or not people will always wonder about people who date people younger than themselves. In the case of my in-laws, my mother in-law was 5 years older than my father in law when the met Of course he was 23 and she was 28 at the time.
At your age when they look at a 20 year old man dating a 17 year old girl they immediately think child molester. In a year when your 18 and he is 21 no one will think that. To say it is all in the numbers is really what it is. At 17 people see you as a child. At 18 you are seen as an adult there in lies the difference.
My advice: Talk to your parents, really. If they are accepting of your relationship with this young man. Then it does not matter what others think or say. I did not have a daughter though I helped my sister, a single parent, raise her two daughters. When they started dating I told them that they could never get in real trouble with me as long as I met their dates. They never fail to bring their dates to meet their Uncle. I did not always care for the boys they were dating but I never objected as long as the boy understood he was answerable to me.
I believe most father feel this way about their daughters. If you bring this young man to meet you parents they will probably be okay with this.
Im 15 years old. I recently switched school because of bullying and things are a lot better at my new school so far I've only been going for about 3 weeks but it seems I don't have a lot of energy. When I wake up its really hard for me to make myself get up and get ready. I haven't really made any friends yet. It also seems I sleep a lot! Sometimes I come home and sleep for 2-4 hours then wake up and then go to bed at like 1 or 2 in the morning. In the morning Im so tired still I often fall asleep in class. It kinda seems like I have no motivation or something to look forward to. Why am I so tired? I'm not sure if I really like my new school yet because I haven't been going very long but somedays when I wake up in the morning I try to make excuses in my head. I think about if I should pretend to be sick or something just so I can sleep more and stuff. Is there something wrong? Please help.
I don't think the problem is the new school. The problem is your sleep schedule. You can't go to bed at the times you are and expect to get up refreshed and ready to face the day. It is just not possible.
Part of the problem may also be that with all the problems at your other school you were so stressed out you came home and feel a sleep. That would be normal. Now you have gotten into that routine which is not normal and your falling asleep in class. It will be hard as in awkward but you are going to have to force yourself to stay awake and go to bed at a reasonable hour. Possibly as early as nine or ten at night.
You cannot make up for lost sleep so don't allow yourself to sleep in on the weekend, not at first anyway. You have to get yourself on a sleep/wake schedule that works for you before you start sleeping in on those cold winter mornings.
Exercising helps. Running or bike riding are good exercises that you can try. If you wake up in the middle of the night it is okay and you should get out of bed. DO NOT TURN ON ANY BRIGHT LIGHTS. If you need a light use a night light, walk around for a few minutes and get back in bed and go back to sleep. You'll have to trust me here but this will work. Just don't turn on a bright light which will interrupt the sleep cycle.
This may take a week or two to get a schedule that fits you. During that time you have to fight off the desire to take a nap. There is nothing wrong with the occasional nap. We all need one form time to time but not every day.
MY SON WHO IS 17YR 9MO WANT TO MOVE OUT AND GO TOO A DIFFERENT SCHOOL OUT OF TOWN HE HAS A'S AND b'S
It would help to have a bit more information. Such as is he in high school or college.
In any case for the next three months he can't move out without your permission. Until he is 18, and this may depend on the laws in the state you live in, he is a juvenile. If he leaves home without permission he could be considered a runaway.
If he is in high school changing schools even with your permission is a very hard thing to do. Even if he waits till he is 18 he will find the public school system will not treat him as an adult.
With my permission my son enlisted in the Army when he was 17 and a junior in high school. During the summer between his junior and senior year he went to basic training then returned to complete high school. He was an emancipated minor once he enlisted. The school system had major problems seeing him as an adult, responsible for his own welfare. I didn't have a problem with being responsible for my son or his actions in school The problem was that the Army had certain shall we say holds on him that I could not release him from. That is where we all butted heads.
So tell your son that whatever his reasons are for wanting to change school. That even though in a few months he may legally be an adult, he will be fighting an up hill battle. Especially if he is in his senior year.
If the problem is College. Then your answer to him, if your footing the bill is simple. "You have the money, then when you turn 18 you can do as you please." That should cool his jets. Kids always believe they are entitled to their cake and ice cream together.
I am a 31 year old female, about 12 years ago i was diagnosed with a sexual disorder ( cant remember the name of it) that basically was the female equivalent of blue balls, but it would not go away through masturbation i had to actually have sex with a man something about the combination of his hormones mixing with mine. About a year ago all that stopped ( i thought for good) but this week it has kind of come back with a vengeance. is this really normal or could it be that disorder again? masturbation is only making it way worse and i am getting off pretty good but 5 mins later seems like it is worse than before. please help, if you have any suggestions. Oh and before it gets said i do have a boyfriend, he works and is gone 4 days a week then is home 4 days and while he is home we prolly have sex an average of 4-6 times.
First; none of us are doctors and therefore we can not make any type of diagnoses.
Next like Crazy I have never heard of what your former doctor has told you. To me and by no means to I mean to insult you and this is strictly a layman's opinion, your symptoms sound more like a form of nymphomania. Which is actually Hypersexuality. I'm not sure if there is any type of pain associated with this disorder, anything is possible.
Hypersexuality
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Hypersexuality is extremely frequent or suddenly increased sexual urges or sexual activity. Hypersexuality is typically associated with lowered sexual inhibitions. Although hypersexuality can be caused by some medical conditions or medications, in most cases the cause is unknown. Medical conditions such as bipolar disorders can give rise to hypersexuality,[1] and alcohol and some drugs can affect social and sexual inhibitions in some people. A number of theoretical models have been used to explain or treat hypersexuality. The most common one, especially in the popular media, is the sexual addiction approach, but sexologists have not reached any consensus. Alternative explanations for the condition include compulsive and impulsive behavioral models.
The International Classification of Diseases (ICD-10) of the World Health Organization includes “Excessive Sexual Drive” (coded F52.8),[2] which is divided into satyriasis for males and nymphomania for females, and “Excessive Masturbation
Treatment
There does not yet exist any treatment approach uniformly endorsed by experts and/or community groups. Most clinical authors recommend a multifaceted or multimodal approach that includes a variety of treatments, including certain classes of anti-depressants (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, or SSRIs) that reduce sex drive in some people, motivational interviewing,[26] and individual, group, or couples' therapy (including cognitive-behavioral, psychodynamic, and relapse-prevention).
I know this is a lot of information but I felt you might want to see it as a back up to what my layman's thoughts were. The fact is you need to see a couple of doctors. First your GYN for a complete check up pf your sexual organs. Then a psychiatrist to discus the possibility of medications to help relieve the sexual tension that may be causing your problem.
I hope I have helped you.
how to stop masturbauting, i just fed up by trying many ways but i could'nt give me some tips to avoid this...
As long as your masturbating does not interfere with your other activities. Meaning you masturbate to the exclusion of all other activities. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. It is a good safe form of sexual relief. According to a resent survey 85% of us, this includes adults and teenagers, masturbate.
Masturbation includes self-masturbation, mutual masturbation which would be a handjob. this would also include Dry humping as well.
There is nothing wrong with masturbation as long as it does not interfere with other activities. It is possible that a person can masturbate more than once or twice a day and still there is nothing wrong. Relieving sexual tension is very important masturbation is a safe way to do so.