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Is it the fact that I am born that makes my sister hate me so much? I want to die now
She calls me stupid but I make straight A's She says ever since I was born I ruined her life. Is what she saying true? Have I ruined her life because she forgot me somewhere and I called my mother for help? Is she jeolus of me? I cant recall a time in my life when my sister loved me. I want to Kill myself for that is surely what she wants right? I want to die anyway but I want it to be painless please help me find a solution.
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What is happening to you is called sibling rivalry. This rivalry tends to be greater when there is a large age difference between siblings.
There was a six year age difference between me and my sister. She use to torment the life out of me. She could also be very sweet and loving, especially when we were teenagers and she wanted something such as a ride to a friends house.
Sibling rivalry is unfortunately normal. It does not mean your sister does not love you. You are the younger child and as the older child your parents look to her to watch out for you. Maybe do things with you when she may have plans to do something else. Hence you are ruining her life. Your entry into the world also meant that she then had to vie for your parents attention and affection when she had grown accustom to having it all to herself.
The fact is your sister does love you. Just let someone try and hurt you when she is near you and see how protective she can be. Sure she may tease you along with her friends; that's what brothers and sister do. Should you get really sick she will be by your bedside helping you get better.
This is what life as a sibling is for now. As you get older it will change. Your sister being the older sibling will mature as she gets older, probably marry first and things will get better.
Wanting to die is not the answer. Talk to mom and dad. Tell them how you feel. If you feel you cannot talk to them then call this number 1-800-273-TALK(8255). This is the National Suicide Prevention Hotline. It is answered 24/7 265 days a year. The call takers are trained to spend as much time as you need on the phone with you. To help you find professional people in your home town to help you. People looking to suicide are people in distress caused by depression. There is help for depression.
If you feel actively suicidal, meaning you feel like hurting yourself. Then call 911 now. Tell the call taker how you feel. They will send help to you.
Write back and let me know how your doing.
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You can 't define yourself by the irrational things people blurt out every now and again. If you do then they win. Just go back at her by being the adult and tell her in a calm voice that what she's saying is inherently selfish and immature and that the next time you will entertain anything she says is when she has something reasonable to say. Until then everything she says will be ignored. "Stupid at a loud volume is still stupid, only more noticeable."
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It sounds to me like your sister could be going through some stuff herself and instead of talking about it, she's bottling it up and taking it out on you. You did not ruin her life I'm sure. I think you need to focus on what's going on with you. It's very important for you to try to get help if you need it. Your sister may not have been making you feel this way but your life is far more valuable than you think. You have a whole life ahead of you, you don't need to feel like nothing's going to get better, things always eventually pan out. Please, get help if you think you may need it. You'll thank yourself in the future!
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You did not state how old you two are
Siblings argue, That is just typical and expected in almost every family. I grew up with 2 siblings and one I get along with and the other I despise. Does she hate me to the point where I want to kill myself? No and neither does yours. You sister is your sibling and you will have your disagreements.
I am in my mid 20's and to be honest my oldest sibling and I have never truly seen things eye to eye but as we both got older we realized that we are family and we must remain civil to one other. Things start to change as you get older. Maybe you two will never get along 100% but someday you will learn to respect one another and be civil. Killing yourself isn't going to solve your problems and as much as your sister may sometimes pick on you I know that she doesn't hate you to the point where she wishes you dead.
Seriously, Just chill out a bit on the death threat. Fighting with your sibling is normal and you aren't the only one to have to go through it. She is your sister, She is your sibling....It will all get easier as you get older.
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