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I like a high schooler
I really like this guy but im 12 and he is in the nineth grade. But we talk alot of facebook. But he cousins with my cousin but im one her moms side and he on her dads side.What do i should i stop likeing him cuz its werid or is that OK.And its ok cuz im in the 7th grade.But my our families know each other
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The relationship issue, him being cousin to your cousin is not a big deal. It does not meet the incest standard.
While looking at difference in grades or possibly your ages, 7th vs 9th, 12 vs 14, chronologically this too is not that much of a difference. Where the big difference comes in is maturity. He being in 9th grade and being 14 possibly closer to 15 makes him far more mature than you at this time. If you were say 22 and he 24 or 25 i don't think any of us would have a problem.
At his present age his interest in much younger girls is the ability to sway them into doing what he asks of them. To be perfectly blunt he finds it easier to get into the pants of a 12 year old then someone his age. To put it plainer he is looking for sex.
If you were my daughter, and I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I was once 15 as well. I would not be allowing you to date to begin with At your age exclusive dating is not what you should be doing. You need to learn how to socialize properly, how to handle boys when they become all hands and how to keep their hands and other parts out of your pants. You do this in the safety of group dates. Such as mall dating, group outings to the movies, bowling, skating or school dances.
You have plenty of time to date. First learn how to date. Learn what being a teenager, smell the roses which you have yet to become is all about. Slow down don't be in such a rush to grow up. As the saying goes stop and let yourself smell the roses. Give yourself time to enjoy being a young lady and a teenager.
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First, the age thing isn't an issue. You're only two years apart agewise. So that isn't a concern. Thus the only problem would be if you guys are first or second cousins because if you have sex that would technically be incest (depending on the state you live in). But if it is more distant than that then just go for it and don't overthink liking him. I would advise you to put off sex for a few years, though. Generally teenage boys aren't psychologically equipped to make a sexual relationship emotionally satisfying for the girl.
Also, keep this in mind: your chances of any relationship you have before you have graduated college becoming permanent are just about non-existent. So don't see any relationship you have between now and when you turn, say, 21, as the be all and end all because your sensibilities are still evolving and your attitudes are going to change a lot. Therefore, just have fun together and try to explore as much of life as you can.
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You are way to young to be dating a Freshman in High School. The only reason why boys talk to girls your age is because girls your age come off as naive and very gullible, which makes it easier for them to get in your pants. You really need to stop talkig to him because:
1. you need someone your age (the relationship won't last very long, because of the maturity level between the both of you)
2. He's your cousins, cousin. I'm not sure how this works; but any one who is somewhat in your family, should be an automatic no.
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hello, girls date guys that are older than them. but u should not get yourself involve with this guy .guys that are older than you can force you to do things you did not plan to do. i think you should wait until your old enought to date older guys peace and love :)
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You are 12 year old, Assuming this kid is around 14-15 yrs he is too old for you.
The reason he is likely talking to you is because you are young and he knows that you will probably believe whatever he tells you. No offense to you but you are too young to be dating at your age. Wait until you are in your teen years as there is no rush to try and date at 12.
Also isn't he your distant family?...That is just gross and should be a no. Dating family is disturbing and incest relationships are illegal.
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