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Do Players change as they get older?
Well first off its sad how so many cute guys are playes, they cuss every word that comes outta their mouths, all they want is one thing, go out for girls for a day and then break up. I hate that it makes me sick! Well I was just wondering is it possible for people to change like when they get a little older like from a 15 year old boy to maybe 16 or 17 Or do you think they wouldn't? Thanks!
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People do things because they can. These guys will continue that behavior until they begin paying some social penalty for it (pretty unlikely since women flock to guys who are in demand due to their own sense of competitiveness with other women).
Given that, you need to find yourself some better men. Sometimes not getting what you think you want is the best thing that could ever happen to you.
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Have you ever heard the expression boys will be boys. Unfortunately most teenage boys do not change until well into their college years. Most boys that do not go to college never change.
I volunteer at a fire station with a young man who is in his late 20's. He has been suspended several times because he cannot speak without every other word being a cuss word. If you ask him he will tell you manly men cuss. He's wrong, you know it and so do I and the rest of the people I volunteer with. He just can't get it through his head that he is wrong.
Teenage boys thing it's cool to cuss with their friends and in front of girls. Makes them feel manly. One wonders how they can kiss their mothers with those mouths.
As for being players? Here again for teenage boys sex and dating is not mutually exclusive. It is more of a game to see who among them can have sex with more girls. This is a game that has been going on for as long as their has been boys and girls. Having sex proves they're a man. The more girls you bed the more manly you are. Boys also confuse lust and love, it is a hormonal problem with them. They need sex to relieve the sexual stress brought on by the hormones released at puberty. That stress is more urgent when around a pretty girl so they confuse lust and love.
Boys mature more slowly then girls but eventually most boys do mature. When they do most of them will stop being players and can identify the difference between lust and love. Those that do will stop playing and stop looking for a life mate. Unfortunately this doesn't happen, if it happens until their mid twenties.
For now you have two choices. Learn how to defend yourself from players and their roaming hands, or sit home and watch TV on weekends or better yet study so you can get into a good college where you will find guys who may have matured early.
There are some guy in school that are not players. They are the ones that may be called nerds or don't dress in the stylish clothes. They sit alone at lunch because they don't have many friends. They are really nice guys once you get to know them, their just not with the in crowd. Their shy and maybe a little awkward. They may get bullied or teased by the in crowd. But they can be fun to be with on a one on one basis. They will treat you with respect and show you a good time as well. They are the ones who ask you what you like to do rather than have you suffer through things they like to do.
That's the best I can offer for know. Hang in their it gets better. It takes time.
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This is a complicated question
Generally speaking most "players" really never change. Some do and some don't
When you are in High School of course players are going to be players and the male generation are slower to mature then the females. Most men don't mature until they hit their mid 20's and even at that age there is no guarantee that they will grow out of it.
Basically to answer your question: Can a guy change in a years time? It's possible but at that age I highly doubt it. Your best bet is to move on and find someone who isn't into cheating. Cheaters will be cheaters and you cannot make someone change they have to change on their own.
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Sadly, chances are slim to none. Once a player, always a player. The only times guy like this DO change is when they meet someone worth changing the "game" for. OR they change when THEY realize THEY are ready on their OWN time to settle down. Kinda selfish if ya ask me, but like my mama use to say,
Boys will be boys! lol
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For the most part, not until they're much older...I'm 21 and most of the guys I meet are the same way.
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