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pregnant and worried (first time mom)
Hello ladies! I've been reading some stories about miscarriages and finding out at the first ultra sound the baby isn't viable. My husband and I are so excited for this baby. Our first ultra sound is Dec 19th and these stories are starting to get me worked up. What if my baby isn't developing, what if this or that. I do have menstrual like cramps and i've been told thats the uterus growing and it's pretty frequent so does that mean the baby is still at least growing? Sorry i'm a first time mom and quite scared about everything!
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Take a deep breath and try to relax. Im in the 17th week of my 3rd pregnancy and still have the nagging thoughts in the back of my mind, but i keep reminding myself that its is out of my control and what ever happens, happens. Its true that in many cases things do go wrong, but in the majority of cases everything goes perfectly and you're left at the end with an amazing little person that you created with the person you love. One way to tell if things are going well is morning sickness. If you've been getting sickness then its a sign that everything is going well and your hormone levels are up. Not saying that no morning sickness is a sign that things are going bad. Some people dont get sick at all (not me)... But if you're getting the sickness and it just stops all of a sudden (before 12 weeks) then it may be a sign that you need to speak to your doctor.
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First: Stress is not good for your baby. Stop worrying about that which you cannot control. The things you have written specifically about are rare and do not happen in the majority of pregnancy. Most often they happen in high risk pregnancies, which are women who are closer to age 40 or have abused drugs or use alcohol.
Two: This is the wrong place to have questions about your individual pregnancy answered. What one women may experience may sound as if it is the same as you are experiencing but can have an entirely different diagnoses. If you are concerned with something call your doctors office. Your Obstetricians office is quite use to dealing with first time mothers and expects your calls.
If for some reason you are not trusting of the answer(s) you receive or the treatment you are receiving from you doctor you can always get a second opinion or find a new doctor. Even if you are an HMO patient. All that is required is to call your insurance carrier and ask.
Third: Relax. If you have confidence in your doctor then relax and enjoy your first pregnancy. The less stress in your life, especially during the first trimester the better it is for the baby. The chances of you and your husband having anything but a healthy, happy baby are so small you really should not be stressing out over this.
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My wife who is due with our first before April said to tell you not to worry, soon you won't be able to sleep because your little bundle of joy will be kicking you in the bladder all night.
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It's understandable that you're scared having never experienced pregnancy before. I think you're doing yourself a real disservice by reading those stories and letting it enter your thinking and consume your thoughts. Yes, those things happen, but rarely and won't with you.
When it comes to this or anything medical if you thin what if this, that, or the other thing is wrong instead of dealing with what is or being in the now will work you up so much when nothing was. Try to relax. I'm sure it's all fine and you'll see it at the ultrasound.
Who told you about the cramps though? If a doctor explained that to you I wouldn't worry but if it really is bothering you call your ob/gyn and tell him/her what's going on so you can be at ease.
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