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im going to sleep over my friends house today..but the thing is i havent seen her in a yr and we were really friends b4 but weve been talking on the internet alot, the problem isnt lik im scared shes a creep its just that im scared it will be awkward! i can get really shy sometimes and the number 1 thing i hate is awkward silences!! is there any thing to do to make sure we'll both have fun???

p.s. i sweat alot too so is there anything i can do for that?

-awkward

Well, I think you and your friend should try to stay busy. Play games and watch movies and make casual comments about it if you're real shy. Or you can reflect on old memories the two of you had. Or ask each other questions about each others life, like whats going on in it. Good luck!

P.S. for the sweating thing- take a shower the night before, wear deoderant but look for an antiperspirant & deoderant because antiperspirants actually stop you from sweating in the first place, deoderants just make you smell good. Try Teen Spirit Stick!

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Hi I need to find some skater sneakers and i am a girl does any one know any stores in the Glen burnie MD area where i can find them any malls what!!!? also i need to find nice jeans that are tight at the top and that are really long at the bottom and i really need to find a cool t-shirt to match thnx I Rate 5's all the way no matter what:-)

Well, I don't call them skater sneakers but if you want like converse, Vans, or Etnies go to Hot Topic. or go to Hottopic.com to order them off the interenet! P.S. -Hot topic also has really cute shoelaces!

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OK..I ALWAYS go to bed late. If I try to go to bed early, i still don't go to bed until about
3-4AM. I've tried not to stay on the computer and tried to clear my mind and everything and i still cant sleep. After that i have a tendancy to wake up a tiny bit late (10-11 AM)..And i mean a couple times i may get to bed if I'm lucky around 1AM..i dont know what to do and my mom just thinks that i stay up on purpose so she doesnt wanna help me..what do you thinks wrong?? is there anything to prevent this from happening anymore?? thanks!!!

It's called insomnia. When you can't go to asleep and you can't help it. I have it. The best thing would be to talk to your doctor or take out a book about Insomnia. My sugguestion is that you should get off the computer around 12. Then read a book, watch tv, brush your teeth, etc. Pick ONE time and stick to it. Make up a bedtime ritual to let your body know that its time to go to sleep. (read, take a bath, brush your teeth) I know its hard to get off the computer so early, but just do it! Because you have control about when you get off. Go to bed around 1 and try not to sleep past 12 AM because the later you sleep in, the harder it is for your body to fall asleep at night. Also heres a tip on how to fall asleep: lay there and pretend you are "sinking" into the bed, relax each of your muscles, as you relax them say them in your head- "arm, hand, foot, etc." Good luck! Need any other details? Send me sometin!

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what kind of music is this grateful dead, frank zappa, little feet, the who, rolling stones, led zepplin, pat b., santana, weird al, rage against the machine, jimmy hendrix ??

classic rock

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I'm thinking about having my nose peirced this week. I've done alot of reseach about this and I'm not too worried about the pain or needles or anything.
I just want to get some basic facts before I go through with it, if anybody whos had it done or see it done could give me the low done on what happens and if it bleeds much... ect.
And how long should I keep the stud in before I change it? I've heard all different times, like between 6 - 12 weeks!
And finally, cleaning, what's best to use, and if I catch a cold during the healing process how should I deal with this?
Any help muchly appreciated :)
xxx

I know some people who have their nose pierced. I just want to tell you some basic facts.

1. You can get an infection just like ones you can get with pierced ears. (but they don't last that long and they have treatments.)
2. Or you can try Claires ear formulas.(found at the store Claire's)
3. Make sure you go to a place where you trust them and think they are clean enough to pierce you.
4. It's almost just like getting your ears pierced, it probably won't hurt much as long as your not piercing cartilige.
5. I sugguest getting it pierced at piercing pagoda (found in the center of most malls.) They are very sanitary there and they will give you special cleaning formulas.
6. Leave the earring in for at least a month before you take it out, but if you have a cold after one month, you can take it out.

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I just resent went for a CT-Scan test on my sinuses and im awaiting my results. I'm so nerious , I'm thinking the worst, tumors, cancer and surgery!! I went to the dr's last fri and her checked me and her said I had no infection??? Should I really get myself sick over this??? I have had such congestion in my nose nothing releases and my ears congested also?? every medication i was given I was nervious to take!! I had the test done 7/5/05 im sure if there was anything very serious im sure the dr 's office would of contacted me??? Right??? I spoke to there office this morning and I have to get the films at the hospital on Friday, I'm hoping I get the results by then???

When I actually had the test done last night, I had a panic attack, and the technician , told me everything is ok and go home????

Im so so scared?????

Listen to the doctors. They know what they are doing. Take the medicines they prescribe for you. They will help. It's okay to be scared and expect the worst, thats what I do, but it only makes things worse. You need to catch your breath. Sometimes worrying can make you sick, in fact sometimes colds can even be pyshcological. One time I was so worried about catching my cousins cold, I got myself stressed out about it and I ended up getting something. And by the way, you most likely DON'T have a brain tumor, because they hurt real bad. So seriously, calm down.
P.S. This is something I found interesting in my Seventeen Magazine> People who have less stress tend to live longer. *So don't turn into a hypochondriac! Good luck! (I'm sure your fine)

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a while ago i cleaned out our families garage and im having trouble getting donation centers to come out and get the stuff i want to donate. does anyone know a donation center in the houston area that i could get in touch with? besides salvation army.
I RATE...

Try Good Will. Or ou can go on Google and look up Good Will or other donation shops. Good will is a very good donation shop because I had them get some of my stuff before. They are really nice and seem to care about the needy.

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I think I like my guy best friend. We used to have a relationship, but we broke it off (this was 2 years ago)... I know for a fact he doesn't like me (I asked who he liked, and he told me he liked my one friend who doesn't like him)... my friends think he likes me, and it does seem like it.. but I guess not.

One thing I'm thinking about is moving on, but I don't particularly want to do that. Any other ideas?

I know you don't want to, but maybe you should move on. You can still be friends with him, but wouldn't it be nice to find another guy who likes you as much as you like him? There are tons of other guys out there that would be lucky to be your boyfriend!

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i can't call boys and he won't call me wut should i do?????

I can't call them either. How about you two can talk on AIM or email?

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I've been saving up to get an iPod. My mom says that if I can get $100 She'll buy me a 60GB iPod.

But I also kinda want a cell phone.

I know that the cell phone will in time cost more, but I'm not sure which one I want more. I really want an iPod, and I have the possibility, because I have $71 out of $100 for it.

But I really want a cell phone too.

I'm so...stuck.

Well, they are both good things to get. I personally would choose the ipod because I love music. But a cell phone would be good in case of emergencies. Maybe if your mom, dad, or older sibling has a cellphone, you can borrow theirs. But ipods are one of a kind, and just yours. I think you should try to compromise with your parents. Get an ipod and then ask for a cell phone for christmas.

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i get these really bad tension headaches almost every day. they just come on at any time of the day and they're mostly always in my temples or the back of my head. my jaw gets really stiff and clenched up. sometimes they get so bad i have to vomit (which always makes the headache almost immediately go away). are there any sort of special muscle relaxant medications i should take? any relaxation excercises i could do? please help. these headaches interfere with my everyday life. i can hardly function when i have them.

First, it might have to do with allergies. Talk to your doctor about ANY allergies you might have. Second, you might have a jaw condition that I have called tsmj or something like that. It means that you grind your teeth at night causing your jaw to be irritated and also causing bad headaches. You can wear a mouthguard (dont worry theyre comfy!) to bed to help prevent this.(you get them as prescribed by a doctor) Whatever the case, talk to your doctor!
P.S> drink lots of water. Water always helps.

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I'm 17/f and ive never had a bf. Everytime i like some guy, and he ends up liking me back..I get really uncomfortable and scared away. I dont do it on purpose, it just happens everytime. What could be the reason Im subconciously doing this?

You're just shy, its natural. Also if you're afraid to kiss or hug someone it could be because you're just not used to it or comfortable with it. It's okay because its probably just a phase. What you can do though is raise your self-confidence level. You should feel good about yourself and feel good that boys like you! Hope I helped!

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okay so theres this guy that goes to a different school. hes best friends with a lot of my close girl friends but ive only met him about 4 times. i talk to him online all the time and just recently he started liking me. he asked me to go ice skating with him and i accepted. now i'm scared of rushing things too fast and i always have. i'm scared to hold a guys hand and i dont know what to do if he tries to kiss me. please help! I am a 13 year old female!

My advice is to stick with your instincts. Also try to remember that he might be just as scared as you are. If he tries to kiss you, just say "lets take it slow and just enjoy every second of time were with each other." Or if you're more comfortable, just talk to him about how you feel. He might feel the same way. You'd be suprised how many guys feel the same way!

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My mother has been getting on my nerves since i was 7 years old. She judges me, yells at me, swears at me, makes fun of me, and flat out makes me sick. I even started to cut myself because of her, but i eventually stopped after 1 year because my friends helped me out. But i cannot take it anymore. My dad & I are bestfriends, i tell him everything, but i dont tell him about my mother. Just because i dont want them to split up or anything. What can i do to make my mom shutup? Plus, i have many brothers, she loves them, talks to them, hugs them, and compliments them. Its just plain sick. Im sick of her act shes pulling agaisnt her ONLY DAUGHTER. Sometimes i do NOTHING and she says, oh god i wish i had another son. I havent told anyone about this, but all my friends know how she is, and i have always hated her. I see all my close friends spending time with thier moms and having close relationships. I run to my friends house to get away sometimes or just sit outside. Even this past mother's day i bought her a card & flowers, she threw the flowers away. What should i do?

Sincerely, Tired Of This. 13/F

Well, My advice is to talk to your mom. If she really cares about you, she will listen. Tell her "Mom, sometimes you can be a little mean to me, and I don't know if you realize it." If that doesn't work, you need to talk to your dad! He's an adult and he might be able to handle these problems with your mom better. If your mom hurts you, make sure you tell your dad or a counseler! P.S> Don't cut. It solves nothing.

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I feel like a geek! And can not seem to get anything but friends. I have no good qualities and can not stand myself. What do I do?

First of all, Never call yourself a geek! I think what you should do first is to raise your self esteem. Try to feel better about yourself and be happy with what you have. Some people don't even have friends. Some people in other countries don't even have food! So you should try to be appreciative for who you are and what you have. It may sound corny, but its true! If you are trying to get a date, you should just act confident around your friends, people you like, and just everyone. Alot of times people are attracted to people who have high levels of confidence and self esteem. P.S. Ways to be confident are trying a new style and not caring what anyone thinks of you, walking up to your crush and starting a casual conversation, just being yourself, etc. I hope this helped!

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I've been with my girlfriend for over 18 months. I'm 19 and female and i just transfered schools. She's 18 and is just going in to college. We're only going to be about an hour apart, but for some reason she thinks she's going to get her heart broken. I keep telling her that we will have to work together to make it work, but for some reason she doesn't think so. Is it possible that she wants out? Can our relationship survive while we're in college?

College relationships are hard if you're not going to the same college. My advice is to wait it out a little longer, try to make it work if you really love each other. If you really want to make it last, you need to confront her about it and talk to her. Just say: "Listen, its going to be hard since I'm at college, but we have to just make due with what we have." If she still isn't convinced, she might want to break up with you. I don't want you to get hurt, because when you're at college she could be intereted in another guy and you don't want that to happen. Even if she wants to break up, there are lots of other girls out there.

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has anyone read the book: ttyl ?
is it good? dont tell me about it im just wondering if its really good or not...whats ur opinion on it?
thanx

yeah, I've read most of it. It's a little boring at sometimes just because its all in IM type, but its cool and creative.

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Ok so, my crush asked me out last night so of course I said yes. I'm new to the whole dating experience, im only 14. I like him a lot, but whenever the thought of going to the movies or something comes up, I automatically make up an excuse to not go. I don't know why. I'm very co-dependant and I would be too scared to go anywhere unless it was a double date or something. He says hes okay with that but I dont know whats wrong with me. I think my main fear is making out. Yea yea laugh, but I guess im just scared to do it. I dont know whats wrong with me and why im so scared to go anywhere with him. I'll rate you high. Thx a bunch

Just because you go out with him, doesn't mean you have to do things with him. You should just enjoy being with each other. I think you need to suck it up and say yes to him. You don't have to go to the movies...just go to like a local snack shop or deli or hang out with a group of friends if you're REALLY scared. Anyways, I wouldn't keep blowing him off with excuses because he might think you don't like him anymore.

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when my boyfriend and i graduate college we want to move to colorado. does anyone know any good towns or cities there to live in? what are benefits and bad things about colorado and about certain places in colorado? anything u have to tell me about colorado would be great. thanks!

I would try Denver! My mom lived there for a while and she said it was great! They also have tons of cool shops and great local bands and good places to get band gigs.

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Hmm do you think guys are more attracted to girls with Straight hair or Curly ??

why does it matter...? guys should like girls for who they are on the inside...they shouldnt care about their hair...

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